My son has said he's a homosexual and I have seen him act on this. I was wondering if there was somewhere I could send him to make him straight so he doesn't embarrass my wife and I around our friends
2006-07-17 22:32:22 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ya dude, it’s kind of hard to get used to, but seriously, people don’t care. My dad’s gay and at first I freaked out and cried and contemplated suicide and a lot of stupid stuff like that. (my dad being gay = my parent’s getting divorced and that made everything worse). But honestly, I was afraid to invite people over to my dad’s because they might look down upon me because of my dad but people are cool with it, only religious people have a problem with gays. Oh wait, the Hitler hated gays too. In conclusion Religion=Hitler.
Your son is the same person he's always been, and it might be hard on him, don't make it worse.
Have you seen X-men 3? It’s a good movie, you should see it. I saw it with my dad.
2006-07-17 22:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by donald d 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look, if you are embarrased by your son's sexual orientation, which is quite understandable, you have to understand that it is HIS sexual orientation. He chose to be gay because he has obviously consciously decided that this is the best ride for him and his character. What you and your wife may feel must recede into the background, because at the end of the day, he is an individual who has a right to make his own decisions.
Don't talk nonsense about sending him somewhere because neither is he a death row criminal, nor is he mentally affected. And he is not a sick animal either. These are the only types of things you SEND away...come on man, he is your son! And if you don't support him in his crucial decision, he will live in an immediately shattered and confused world for the rest of his life.
Do you want to be responsible for the ruining of a perfectly good potential?
Don't do it friend, treat him with respect and affection, because you brought him into this world.
Take care and make a careful decision,
Ayerhs.
2006-07-19 00:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy for Gay People?
If I remember this correctly, a famous German psychologist, Riemann, stated that the same sex parent is too strict to the child so that the child turns gay.
Psychologically, the child is afraid of the same sex parent and thus tries to find a better solution with him/her later in life through a partner. As a child, it also may soothe the fear of making the strict parent jealous when turning to the milder one, thus avoiding this.
In my observation this has been true for the few gay people I know. They are generally very sensitive and thus would "crash" under the overly strict parent.
In one family with three boys two turned gay, the other one not. Why?
Children are of different degrees of sensitivity. The more sensitive children may turn gay under a too strict parent, the more sturdy child may not. In the case of the family with the three boys, the two who turned gay were and are very sensitive, the other one was and is the sturdy type.
The famous singer Cher seemed to have been the strict parent, whereas Sony seemed to have been milder. Thus Chastity said that she was a lesbian, would it be a fault?
Nowadays there is no shame on being gay, I see it more as a need of the soul to heal something important: the relationship with the same sex parent.
From the perspective of parental input, therapy between you and your son would be best to heal the relationship on a deep level. Simply talk therapy or behavioral therapy would not reach that deep level, but Jungian therapy could, dream analysis, play therapy (also and especially for adults), any therapy that gives feed back and bypasses the mind and goes to the unconscious, where all events are stored.
It is essential, I feel, that you do not judge your son, since the parents have a great deal to do with how their children walk through the world. It is essential that you heal your relationship with your son.
Please think about it and have much respect and love for you son.
Cordially, India.Magica
2006-07-18 04:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by india.magica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no institutions that I know of that can help treat homosexuality. It is not a disease. And he might be open to the idea of coming out to you and your wife as well as the community because he is comfortable with who he is. Now the thing you can only do really in this situation yourself would more then likely to be supportive. Remember he is your son and you do love him. Instead of giving him a lecture on homosexuality, which would more than likely turn him from coming to you in times of trouble or even questions unrelated to the topic, there are support groups that you can try attending.
Now if he seems promiscuous about it, then maybe he should seek a counselor on that issue, but as far as him being gay, it's not something you can change.
2006-07-17 22:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kaisley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Studies have shown there are biological reasons for homosexuality. You can't make him straight with therapy. You, and maybe your wife, may need therapy, though, to help you deal with having a gay son, since it's a problem for you. If you can't accept him, you will lose your son. I hope that's not what you want.
2006-07-17 22:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by galaxiquestar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to accept your son for who he is. Easier said than done, I suppose, but until you can accept him things between your family will always be strained. Eventually he will resent you for trying to change him... and as you grow older the bond you once had will have diminshed.
He is still your son, whether he prefers men or women.
If you are embarrassed by his behaviour, then may I suggest you try to talk to him about what he does that makes you uncomfortable. If he fails to act more appropriately then don't ask him to join you.
2006-07-17 22:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rhaneieve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if you have a solution. If he's a teenager, you cna't influence this, cause he's allready madeup his mind. If he's a little boy, try getting him in manly activities sports, and mechanics. Even if he turn gay, he will be the HE in the couple and not the SHE. Realy sorry for you. I can understand. It's not that easy to get over it. Thank God I love women! Just hate f@ggs, but if I had one iin the fanily I couldn't stand it, to think what the hell that man is doing with his man... come on! Yuck!
2006-07-17 22:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 22:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tense 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take this one seriously, folks -- look at his nickname! This a a gay person trying to get people to think he is a concerned father.
Fact is, no one can change someone who does not want to change, and that applies to sexual orientation just as it does to anything else.
2006-07-17 22:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-17 22:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by gwbruce_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋