Dating question from a confused man?

Question

Im confused in the sence that i dont know how to find a middle ground when i want a woman and i cant really express it because i over do it and probably get too sissy like but if i act too cool and not sissy like then i seem like i dont care about her or that im boring and not intrested in her...........my question is confusing im sorry but how can i find the middle ground between not caring and too sappy...its hard.....any suggestions from men who are succesful with women or women who know what im talking about......i guess i might post my question over if i dont get the answers i like

Answer 1

Get yourself a wing man.
Flying solo will get you in over your head.
Relax man, we will talk you in.
That little lever by your right hand, yeah that's it....pull it back.
Easy, that's it...The wheels are coming down.....Good three green lights...the wheels are down and locked.

Be yourself, Be Straight, like yourself.

Yours: Grumpy

Answer 2

I guess the "middle-ground" for you would be to remember that you're a man. No matter what, there are certain things you do where you'll be firm and decisive as a man would be. Then, there are times where you be mushy and sensitive just to stay close with her. I think I know what you mean cos' my brother kinda faced the same 'angst'. Well all I can say is... Be a man.. but know when she needs a hug, or a kiss, and never forget birthdays.. leave the anniversaries to the girl (cos then you'd appear sissy if you remind her too much of e.g. today's our 100th day together....that wont be only sissy; but kinda psychotic)... So I hope you know what I'm trying to say?

Answer 3

Finding a middle ground with women.

That's not very difficult at all. You're already in great shape because you recognize your weakness. Now it's simply combining a little of both with some attentiveness and you'll be in great shape.

You don't want to come on too strong. But there are ways you can lay it on thick while remaining cool. Pay attention. Listen to what the woman is telling you about herself and her interests. You can entertain those interests with finesse. (i.e. If a woman tells you she loves getting flowers, send or bring her flowers and then act like it's no big deal, even if you loved that you could do it. Tell her it was nothing. This way you are playing it cool, but you have the woman very interested in you because now she can tell you are listening.)

Best Wishes!

Answer 4

Sounds like your either trying to hard or not at all. If you don't try at all you look cool and play arrogant and all woman find this attractive, but it has a limit. When you try hard you are letting her know that you are interested, again this has a limit. In short you are finding out your limits. But how long before you feel like your just competing to get her interested? What about the easy experience of just clicking with someone? Why don't you try a different approach, Do whatever it is you would like to do when you go out, dance like an idiot, dance cool, hit some clubs. Be the person you want to be to attract the same person. All the others will just end up boring you, and you boring them.

Answer 5

Well first off Confidence is King. You have to be comfortable being yourself in front of women otherwise they will see you as weak. And whether they say it or not, no woman wants a weak man. Relationships work best when neither of you are putting up a front. Don't be afraid to be yourself.

Also if you don't like yourself, you cant expect any woman to like you. You have to appreciate yourself and what you have to offer.

Women also like someone who listen and also has opinions of their own. They want you to understand their points, and they want you to be able to give your own.

Don't show off. They only one impressed by that is you. You might get a laugh of two, but they wont take you seriously.

And the last thing I can say, is don't go out looking for women. If you go to the club with the preconceived idea of getting laid you wont find anything beyond that. You will

Answer 6

You are currently in the "no man's land" of the dating world. Before I got married I was self-conscious and I thought no girl would ever really like me. The "middle ground" you're looking for is actually self-confidence. You can't really act one way or another, because either way...you're acting.

You really have to be yourself. Because the woman that responds to your character and the person that you are is the woman you need. Not some girl who acts like she likes you--because a girl will never act like she likes you.

Be yourself. If you are nervous, try your best to hide it, but if it shows, be honest and say you're nervous. You may score points from it. If you can keep your cool, all the better. Be considerate but not gushy. Be cool, but not aloof. If you can be those things you should be able to hook up with Mrs. Right.

Answer 7

Hi, that is sort of a tough question. In my opinion there is a time and a place for everything. When you feel you are laying it on to thick take a step back and let her do some of the work. But really if that is who you are she should like you for that and not how you think you should act. If you really like her be yourself and if being you is not something she is into let her be. Don't try and get her to fall in love with a fake side of you because you will have to keep up the acting for the length of the relationship.

Answer 8

I think I get what yur saying. If you act sensitive the girl finds it too sensitive and unattractive BUT if you are tough then the girl just think you don't care about her. I would say you need to find a happy medium. One where you know the right times to be sensitive and time to not really be tough.. but have more of a confidence. I hope this helps you out a little. I've dated guys from both sides and the best for me has always been one with a little of each. Good Luck :)

Answer 9

Hey, know what you are talking about, just be yourself in the sense that if you are naturally a very caring person that is caring to a fault dont try and change you because there are actually people out there looking for people like you. i have a strong feling you dont know yourself and you are not confident in you.Try and build your confidence and you get to know that it doesnt matter what you do or how you do it someone will always like you. The truth about it is take it or leave it that fault u feel u have is one of your strong and good attributes learn how to use it to your advantage.

Answer 10

In the beginning there shouldnt be a middle ground. You know what to do- be distant, cool, and uncaring. Over do it; I know it's somewhat uncomfortable to do, most people have tendency to be nice and accommodate others we meet; its natural. But fight that. Be the a5shole; how many times do you need to be reminded that 'nice guys finish last' ? Cmon yall, get with the damn program. How do you expect a woman to give you a decent answer to questions like these? They aint looking out for you-- and you know that by now.. right? Cmon man.

Answer 11

The form of your question says a lot about you and your problem is more common than you might think. Luckily the answer is simple. You need more practice being with women. Like everything else, the more you do it the easier it gets. B