My husbands brother is getting married next month. He asked my husband to be the best man. My husband and i have 3 children together. Is it right that my children and i have to sit without him during the wedding and watch him walk with another women? It has been bothering me for awhile and just would like to know others input on it.
2006-07-17 20:43:34 · 29 answers · asked by kimmy209 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my children are 9, 4 and 1years old.
2006-07-17 20:59:24 · update #1
They have another brother that wasnt asked to do anything at all in the wedding.
2006-07-17 21:22:31 · update #2
This is exactly why I had the bridal party's dates sitting at the head table with us. That's the worst part of a wedding to have to sit away from your husband and I didn't want to put our bridal party through that. You're going to have to grin and bear it. It's the bride and groom's choice. But, at my wedding, we ended up only sitting down to eat. After that, everyone was milling around and dancing. So, just try to get through the formal stuff, then go grab your husband for a dance. Remember it's your brother-in-law's day, not yours.
2006-07-18 06:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When your husband agreed to be in the wedding, he and you both knew he would have to walk with another woman. Although it may kind of stink to sit with just you and your kids at the wedding, that's basically just for the meal and then everyone walks around. It sounds like you have a lack of confidence in your man. He married and had children with you for a reason, because he loves you and is committed to you. It's just a couple of hours in one day of many days in your life. Don't stress about these little things, there is so much more to be happy about. Enjoy the day, because it's a choice. Why waste an entire day being angry and upset when you can choose to have a good time with your children - the lights of your life.
2006-07-18 08:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by bridal bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's alright for you and your children to sit without your husband during the wedding. It's not like your husband will be doing anything inappropriate while he is up in front of the chruch with you and everyone at the wedding watching. He's not having an AFFAIR, he's just in a wedding party and will only walk with another woman for only a few yards!!!
2006-07-18 03:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't it right that your husband is in his BROTHER's wedding? Your question doesn't even make any sense. The brother was there before you and he'll be there after you if you keep along the jealous path you're currently on. He's walking in a church in full view of you and all the other guests, so I don't think you have to worry about him running off that day. Your insecurities make you unattractive, beauty is an attitude and yours needs an adjustment.
2006-07-18 03:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh.....why would you be jealous of your husband participating in his brothers wedding? What do you want to do; walk the asile with him? Come on, honey, grow up! Sit there and smile, be proud of him. I'm sure he is just so honored to have been asked to stand with his brother and it will mean alot to him if you put your own needs aside and just let it go on without a hitch. Yes...sit there with your kids and watch him and smile! After the wedding, then you can put the ball and chain back on the poor guy.
2006-07-18 06:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT KIND OF IMMATURE LITLE GIRL ARE YOU ANYWAY? DON'T YOU REALIZE THAT YOUR HUSBANDS BROTHER HAS JUST BETOWED UPON HIM THE GREATEST HONOR A MAN CAN GIVE TO ANOTHER? BE MY BEST MAN IS NOT SOMETHING YOU ASK LIGHTLY NOR IS IT SOMETHING YOU TAKE LIGHTLY. BY THE WAY, WHERE I COME FROM IT WOULD BE THE BIGGEST INSULT IN THE WORLD TO REFUSE TO BE A MANS BEST MAN. AS FAR AS WALKING WITH THE MAID OF HONOR, HELL, SHE MAY BE A MATRON OF HONOR FOR ALL YOU KNOW. AND HER HUSBAND MAY BE SITTING ACROSS THE AISLE FOR YOU. BIG DEAL. I CAN SEE WHY THE BROTHER-IN-LAW'S FIANCE DOESN'T WANT YOU IN THE WEDDING PARTY. YOUR TOO MUCH OF A BI**H.
GROW UP AND GET A GRIP. YOU HAVE THREE CHILDERN TO SET AN EXAMPLE FOR. YOU SHOULD BE GRACIOUS AND HONORED.
2006-07-18 04:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by BOOMBOOMBILLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it become an issue. It's only a wedding your husband doesn't have to sleep with her or anything. By the way, i'd be more worried about the bucks party then the wedding.
2006-07-18 03:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by ???????? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be upset, its about his brother and his partners big day not yours and if your husbands brother wants him in the wedding party then he should be able to do this without you making him feel guilty, after all he is only partnering this girl for one day he is not leaving his family for her!!!!!! and yes I have had to go to weddings as has my partner where one of us has been involved while the other hasnt.......... and no it wasnt a big deal, the day was just as enjoyable as if we where with each other!!!
2006-07-18 03:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by wicked one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. but you should be proud he is standing up for his brother, the woman might have a man sitting waiting for her too. Have fun and don't worry. Him walking with someone at a wedding is a common thing, point out to the kids how nice Daddy looks.
2006-07-18 03:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself and don't pull the 3 children -- I will have to sit without him sh#t-- ITS HIS BROTHER -- and as far as the walking with ANOTHER women -- you make it sound as if that have to have sex before the sermon can began-- You must be from the south honey-- because you've got the poor me with three children -- routine down pat-- go drink some ice tea -- this is not about you
2006-07-18 03:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by ibelieve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋