I'm starting high school this year and everyones pressuring me to change. I've always been one of the guys girl, not actually a girlfriend because I'm just all of their friends. I'm skinny so my sister keeps shoving skirts at me to wear. I've never been one to wear skirts and now she's got my whole family in on it. They're saying in high school I can't be like I used to. They're trying to dress me up in skirts and heels and make-up...What should I do?
2006-07-17 20:18:08 · 23 answers · asked by Melody 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is perfectly normal to feel uncomfortable wearing clothes that "aren't really your style". Maybe you can compromise a little and dress up on occasion when your family goes out (just to make them happy). That doesn't mean you have to change the way you dress on a regular basis. You can still be who you are, and maybe they'll get off your back. You never know, you might like it. It's whats on the inside that really counts anyway. Above all be happy...it seems like you have a lot of people that care about you. That's always a good thing, even if it is sometimes a little annoying. Good luck.
2006-07-17 20:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Out of all the people in this world your family and friends are the ones who love you the most and look out for you... I'm sure they have only the best of intentions. I myself try to take advice from my family and friends even though I may not want to hear about it. I've read the other responses youve gotten on this question and everyone seems to want you to rebel... I think that is just being stubborn and close minded. Maybe their is something to what your family is saying. When you get out of college and go get a real job... for the most part, do you think you can dress any way you want... and act any way you want? No. Whats it gonna hurt to try on some different cloths? Better to get over this now and get at least semi-comfortable with them now then to be forced into it later.. try and be versatile. Dont think of it as changing you... think of it as giving you more options. I'm sure a lot more guys will hit on you if you wear skirts as opposed to jeans. I'm sure you would look very beautiful dressed all feminine.
2006-07-17 20:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by ne0teric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is funny, cause I went through the same thing. All through elementary, middle, and jr. high, I was a tomboy. Even when I met my husband. Im 24 now, and still married, and for myself I kind of wanted to change, but I simply wasnt comfortable enough, so... I asked a girl I know for a little fashion since. I told her exactly what would make me feel more comfortable in girl clothes. I just had to find something right for me. Find something comfprtable to wear, and trendy...
2006-07-17 20:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by lil_carebear2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first its ok to be friends with guys...and not where skirts.
next, just for fun try out the skirt dressing session, and ask for everything you want so that ur comfortable with this change...
the reason their tellin u this, is ,one fine day wen u jus feel like wearing the skirt, u shdnt mess it up and cause urself any pain or embarrasment.
u say ur skinny? well then u gotta wear something to flatter ur figure,dont hide in pants, its not the solution...try out something new, i trust u'll like the new you, though u will just be the same in new clothes...
2006-07-17 20:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just dress the way u want to..dont majke them tell u what to wear..im skinny too..and definitely dont wear skirts and heels cuz many girls dont use them..i think its ridiculous. u can be anything u want to be in highschool..highschool is not bad.....when i was a freshman..i thought that highschool was hard..and i always thought how ppl dressed..or how tall they looked but hey..highschool kinda seemed liek middle school..so dont let them change you..do what U want to do. dont make a fool of yourself.
2006-07-17 20:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start to be a bimbo now, you'll always be known as one.
Forget what they say - tell them you want to focus on your grades, not how you look.
You're young - you've still got a few years before you need to worry about that stuff anyway!
Focus on your school work & your character, don't stress about what you're wearing!!
Peace
J
2006-07-17 20:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Woohoo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well melody, according to your avatar you are wearing a flower in your hair...cant be too guy-like with that...but seriously, whats the big deal? you can pull off the transition! try the skirt, the make-up...i bet you will end up liking all that, and plus you dont want to be the "friend" for the rest of your life! you may find a bf! being in relationships are fun, hard...but fun nonetheless....so i say...........go for it!!!! good luck!
2006-07-17 20:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by chickfilet7786 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself.... Are u comfortable in your own skin? As long as you aren't going against your parents rules and dressing like a freak, then I say U GO..... High School is a big enough pressure anyway.... Besides you are there to learn and not to be looked at. remind them of that......
2006-07-17 20:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you. There's nothing more important than being who you are. If you don't like skirts, don't wear them. You'll be fine. It's not what's on the body that matters, it' what's in it.
2006-07-17 20:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by pattymayo007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People told me that wearing a cap polo shirts and silt knee jeans was gay........Know that basically all people wear today tell everyone to F**k off and do what u want
2006-07-17 20:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋