I think it's best to wait a year before becoming engaged, and at least 6 months before marriage. But for some it happens more quickly than that. At what point in the relationship do you think is the most ideal time to discuss marriage?
2006-07-17 20:15:50 · 20 answers · asked by violet46 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter how long for some people like me.
The answer to your question is very practical, as marriage becomes after a period of time:
1. How much money do you have for the both of you and your future offsprings.
2. How well you know the other person.
3. What are his bad habits, will you be able to live with them for, say, FOREVER?
4. What are your bad habits, will he be able to live with you for, say, FOREVER?
5. Do both of you have a stable job? What do you plan after getting married - would either of you quit or would either of you still work.
6. Check his family background. If you don't value that, check whether you like his friends. And VICE VERSA.
7. Does he support you in what you are currently doing now?
8. Do you like what he does for a living?
9. Are you of legal age? Is he of legal age?
10. Do you love each other? And when I say love it doesn't mean just doing it. Love is not kissing, hugging and saying nice words. You have to remember that.
Love is not sex. Nor is it lust. It goes beyond that.
2006-07-17 20:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by digileet 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
From experience... If you're younger than 23, wait 2 years.
If you're OVER 23, waiting a year to become engaged would be perfect for most people.
A lot of it depends on how much dating experience you have under your belt. A person who is 21 but has only had 1 serious relationship, might not know, due to lack of experience, who would make the perfect partner for them.
Maturity plays a huge role. Too many young adults do not know how to handle conflict in a mature and logical way. They haven't been confronted with it very often or at all because of lack of experience.
Once you are married, there is NO way to avoid conflict and if the person automaticly thinks "IT'S OVER", because of it, could throw away a perfectly good marriage.
They don't realize yet, that they will run into conflict often. It's normal and that getting a divorce will not solve their problem.
They need experience in how to deal with issues because they will run into them, no matter whom they are with.
So, I would have to say, that age , maturity and experience play a dominant role in how long a person should wait before becomming engaged and then married.
But Atleast a year if you are over 23 and 2 years if you are under 23.
2006-07-17 20:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious commitment that people take lightly. I would say wait at least 2 years before the thought of marriage even comes up, especially since 65% of marriages end in divorce!! Unlike traditional thinking, I think its a good idea to live together first so you can see how compatible you guys are together when it comes to running a house hold, having good/bad days, ect. If you can make it another year through that, then comes marriage and kids. Good luck!
2016-03-26 22:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for every couple. My younger brother and his wife were high school sweethearts that reunited after 3 years apart. Older Brother didn't get engaged until he was out of college, after dating for over a year, then got married 15 months later, and that was 8 to 10 years ago or more for each of them. As for myself, I just got engaged 3 months ago after 2 months of dating....Who knows it's different for everybody, there's no standard wait time. The ideal time is determined by how you feel about each other, and comfortable with accepting the person who they are, no matter what.
2006-07-17 20:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12-15 months seems practical for the engagement. That is how long it took me and that was nearly 18 years ago.It depends on the people involved in the relationship as to when it is feasible to discuss marriage. Really getting to know the person should be first and foremost. You will know when the time is right. GOD BLESS
2006-07-17 20:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by machelle6691 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no "rules" about this. When it is right for both of you - that is the right time for you. If it is of any interest - my wife and I got engaged after going out for 3 weeks. Next month we will celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary (we have 6 children & 2 grandchildren).
2006-07-17 22:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by davetherave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a preset recipe for timing. It always depends on the couple. In some cases, a couple of months is enough; in others, it takes years to realize how close they are and they want to be. Just... go with the flow.
2006-07-17 20:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends a lot on how well the relationship is moving along, like knowing when to kiss, or have sex, it's something that can be signalled by your partner, you just need to be open to those signals. my friend and his wife got married after only dating for three weeks, and the relationship has worked fine so far.
2006-07-17 20:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bengalari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be in a relationship for over a year and then start to talk about marriage.and yes engament should be about six months to a year. it takes time to save for a wedding, you need the wedding, the honeymoon and the house to save for .so yeah iit is a good thing to wait for marriage , it is a big step, you dont want to mess it up, you want ot take it slow and do it right.good luck.
2006-07-17 20:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess there is no time limit to that..it can be just a week or maybe 20 years..it is really up to both of you..you will know when to get married when the time comes
2006-07-17 21:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋