2006-07-17 19:54:33 · 9 answers · asked by kelsey_walsh14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let me first tell you, NO PERSON DESERVES TO BE ABUSED! be it physical, emotional, sexual, psychological, abuse is abuse and abuse is wrong!!!
Just because she is your mother don't give her the right to abuse you, and you need distance yourself from the situation. Yes you need to get yourself out of harm's way, but not to be hateful to your mother, but for your own safety, and you need to report her, not to get even or be mean, but because you love her and want her to get help so that you can have a healthy relationship with your mother.
By reporting her, there is a chance that you could end up in foster care, or if you have a relative that would be willing to take you in while your mother gets help the state may grant custody to them.
I was in the big sister program (it's like big brother's for girls) and the mother’s boyfriend was abusing the little sister I had. The mother was just as guilty of the abuse by allowing this to happen by not removing him from their lives.
She reported him and temporarily was placed into foster care until they could find a relative to take her in. Ultimately the goal of the social services is to reunite the family in a healthy manner, even if it means a time of being apart.
Write your mom a letter telling her that you love her, and telling her how the abuse makes you feel, and telling her that you are reporting her not to be mean to her, but because you love her and she needs help and it seems to be the only way for you to be able to help her get the help that she needs.
If you can, and feel forgiveness in your heart for her, tell her that in the note too, and close with I love you mom ... this will help her in the healing process for both of you.
Do not leave her the letter until you are going to be in a safe place when she reads it. You may have to mail it to her once you are out of the home, or leave it for her to find once you are out of harm's way, as the letter may at first bring her to more of an angry point temporarily. Once she gets the help that she needs she will treasure that letter knowing that you loved her enough to want her to get help so that you could have a healthy and loving relationship with her.
some in the last time you asked this said to treat her like she treats you... i caution you sweetie, that will just make her more angry and lash out even more.... distance yourself from the situation... that is the best solution.
You do need to distance yourself from her, abuse is wrong, and you do not deserve to be abused. If you need to talk to someone, I’m not on line every day, but I am on line quite often, and would be honored if you would like to use me as a sounding board... I’m a good listener. I have worked as a crisis intervention counselor for 10+ years, and can help you through this if you like.
Good Luck to you
Bj~~
2006-07-17 20:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Consider you mom as your child. This how I do. If child abuses what you do. You explain this would not be good idea. Just treat her like kid in your mind. But outside be mature.
I know it sounds weird but works wonder. You mother in end will have high regard for you. It is going to be very difficult. But life it not a cake walk. We have to accept challegenge to be ourselves.
2006-07-18 03:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by philia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your pain if you are of age to take care of your self you should move away. then maybe write a letter to her explaining all the ways she has hurt you and maybe she didn't know she was causing you pain. Talk to a relative some one who can be the one to explain what the two of you are trying to communicate. sometimes mothers have a hard time understanding why their daughters are different from them. So some times maybe your mother is just speaking to you in a way that she understands life.
2006-07-18 03:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? what does she do that you think is abusive? does she hit you,molest you,shout at you? what? you just cant just ask that question without letting us know what she does,for all we know she doesnt give you enough money to go on a shopping spree, or let you stay out late with your friends.need more info.
2006-07-18 03:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abusive how? And how old are you? Do you live with her? You should give more info for such a serious question. Good luck
2006-07-18 02:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by art-nerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her with respect and buy her something nice so you could get on her good side.hopefully.
2006-07-18 03:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by gatonaonao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who or what is she abusing?
2006-07-18 02:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm ya what kimberly said... cant help you without the facts honey.
2006-07-18 02:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop!!!!!!!so sorry??
2006-07-18 03:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋