My oldest son has never had to go by major rules. Hes 9 years old and getting to the age he needs to know whats acceptable and how i want my home, the place of my work, to be treated. His friends come over and dont listen to what i tell them about running, screaming, fighting etc. Could someone give me advice and some rules they live by. I also have a 4 year old son and 1 year old daughter, so these rules would be ones we would all live by to teach our kids to be more responsible and respectful.
2006-07-17 18:50:54 · 11 answers · asked by kimmy209 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We only have three rules in our house. They are very basic and can be applied to almost anything. This makes them easy to remember.
1. Be kind and gentle.
2. Be respectful.
3. Be responsible.
I think those three cover almost everything that can come up. Then you can just ask them how do the rules apply to the situation? Are you being kind and gentle? Are you being respectful? (To PEOPLE and/or to PROPERTY?) Are you being responsible?
2006-07-18 02:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have 3 boys, 13,7 & 4. The best thing to do is embarrass them. Sorry if this sounds harsh but it works...if you stick to it! My 13 yr old was not following the rules (and we have THE NEIGHBORHOOD house) so I walked into his room, with all his friends there and said "Boys, It is time for you to go home. You know the rules in my house and you are not following them. Tomorrow let's try again." My son was embarassed and his friends left (forutnately he has the kind of friends who feel shame at their behavior not the kids who would cuss you!). The next time they came, good behavior came too...I don't know if it was my rules or having to tell their mother's they had been sent home for not following our rules. BTW my rules are no running or screaming in the house, be nice to your younger brothers, and No cussing (this includes "shut up, and OMG").
2006-07-18 05:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rule no. 1: always clean up after yourself ei; toilet, bathroom, dishes.
rule no 2: try to clean up if you see a mess to keep the house clean.
rule no. 3: bed by 9pm
rule no.4: no tvs or computers in the kids room, {might be talking to a stranger, watching tv all night long {no sleep}}
rule no 5: homework to be done ASAP.
rule no 6 : brush teeth, have a shower {good hygeine levels}
rule no 7: listen to parents or punishments {like taking valued items {mobile, pocket money,stopping allowance}}
rule no. 8: up to 1 hr tv
rule no.9: dont bring outdoor items indoor {sticks, wild dogs,}
last rule: always treat parents with high respects and show a bit of love to brothers and sisters.
follow that and you will have a clean house, healthy happy kids.
2006-07-18 01:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by voodoochild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be consistent - same rule today, next week, next month and next year. He is also old enough to help you decide which rules are acceptable. Don't underestimate your childrens intelligence. You better start now though, otherwise the other two will only copy their brother. Any remember, when they do good, tell them!
And when they do bad, tell them what they did, or their behaviour was bad, never tell a child they are bad or naughty. (Mother of two kids, low income, but both have good behaviour, both school captains and high academics and standards, and I have never spanked them)
2006-07-18 06:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Traveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, you should enforce discipline and enforce whatever you think right. To help you, visit some site etiquette and copy these in your computer and try to take a print out. Ask his friends to confine to his room when they play and not to make noise, etc. If at all they want to play making lot of noise, they can go out and play in the common play ground/fields. Do not repeat do not beat your child but be firm in getting done whatever you want him to do. Do not relent and you can punish him by not giving him his favorite play things. Similarly, he obeys you, give him some sort of appreciation. You can tell him that you will buy him an I pod if he behaves well and scores good marks, etc. and you must do that once he scores well and behaves well.
2006-07-18 02:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your kids about how you want your house to be. Define the boundaries. Kids need a place to run and play, but it does not need to be everywhere. Tell them that bedrooms and the backyard are the play places, if they want to run and play then go there. If they are in the kitchen and front room, however, they need to use inside voices and not wrestle. Just be clear about what you expect and Explain what consequences are for disobeying.
2006-07-18 02:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by amymame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just reinforces the question I posted a few minutes ago about having to pass an intelligence test to reproduce.
2006-07-18 01:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever rules you set, a good way to get his friends to follow them is either they follow the rules or they can't come over.
2006-07-18 01:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nanny 911
2006-07-18 02:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by dangerzonex3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish them by taking the stuff they really enjoy away until they learn to listen to you and what you say.good luck
2006-07-18 01:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋