Why do I worry about my family?

Question

I'm 21,for the past few years or so, I've been worrying constantly about my mom and my husband. Neither one of them is ill or anything of the sort. My dad is the one with a history of cancer and many surgeries. My worries are specific. I'm afraid if I mention them, I'll jinx it. Sometimes bad images appear in my mind, and they freak me out, so I change my thought.
One instance, a couple years ago, I told everyone that I was really worried about Mom. A week or two later, my sister said not to worry because Mom fell off the back of a truck, but she was fine (just a bump). I DID quit worrying. Another time, I saw my husband's grandmother in a different light. I looked at her ear, and it looked like a dead person's ear. Next, we were walking down the stairs at her house. I froze for a moment and thought how bad it would be to fall. She died the next day from falling down the stairs. I felt deeply responsible (should have said something), and cried for over a year. Any thoughts?

I pray to God every night to protect them. I still worry. I then pray to God to take my worries away-just the worries-nothing else.

I'm the youngest in a family of 6.

Answer 1

We all worry about our loved ones. It's human nature. My son is 31 and I still worry about him like he's a teen ager. It's the love we share with them, our maternal instinct within us (ladies) that makes us naturing,caring and loving. You are definetly not responsible for your husbands grandmothers death, it was her time.

Answer 2

they say dogs will run and hide before an earthquake, but that's not premonition. there's a change in the surrounding air.
Having re-read the text I would like to disagree with one statement: "My worries are specific." That's factually incorrect.
It's no surprise you worry about your mom and your husband. They are the two most important people in your life.
I think you need to find something interesting or challenging to occupy your time because at the moment you're just walking around in a daze trying to blame yourself for coincidences.
Like, a week or two later your Mom fell off the truck? Get real.
I tell you what, I have a feeling I am going to win the lottery.
If it happens any time in the next twenty years I will send you an email saying "I told you I had that feeling". See my point?
About the stairs. It could have been anything.
A car horn distracted her, or a bird crashing into the window startled her. They do that sometimes. Or she could have been thinking about something and misplaced her foot. If you want to get spooky I could say that your act of noticing how steep the stairs were somehow altered the psychic reality and caused her to fall simply because you enhanced the steepness. Or she might have had a mini heart attack or stroke. Who knows?
Unless you can accurately and consistently predict the future I think you should accept that it was just coincidence. Heck, maybe the old girl hated you and dying like that was her last act of revenge. I repeat: who knows?

Answer 3

I get crazy thoughts all the time too!! I am a new mommy and worry like crazy..I get the worst thoughts in my head and I hope that they never come true. I was like that ever since I was little... I always thought that when my mom was driving on the free way, someone was going to shoot through the back window so I would duck and if someone was sitting in front of me I would block there head rest thing with my hands! Hows that for CRAZY!!! And when my boyfriend drives I always see flashes of getting into a crash or something and I'm tense for the rest of the car ride!! I think the things that happen are just coincidence... I hope you and your family are out of harms way good luck and god bless.. Nothing is ever your fault unless you pull the trigger their lives were and are in gods hands! Tell them you love them everyday!!

Answer 4

Honey no one can handle a loss in the family .And just becuase u imagined things happrning doesn't mean that if they really happend,it would be ur fault.
People die in their sleep ,when they are talking or doing any other activity,does that mean that u contributed to their death?
Just be sure to think positive in the future and -from experience-i would say to think that everyone had his or her day .And never ever forget that everything that happens ,happens for a GOOD reason .Whether u know it now or in the future

As for ur worrying,it's common nature especially if ur the eldest-i would guess.Everytime when ur around someone u love,try to have as much fun as possible

Good luck

Answer 5

you should jst relax and enjoy life for once. That was definently not something you planed or wanted to do. so dont feel guilty. it was just a horrible conicidence. try to relax and let your fears not hurt you. remember, life is not permanent nor everlasting on this world. people are meant to die, thats what makes us matter and meaningful. relax and a good friend should always be there for you to help you @ these times. or join a religion, like a christian or something. so you can have more comfort and pray everyday for the wellbeing of your close to heart family members

Answer 6

You are taking on too much responsibility, and in the end we are actually living for ourselves, we are not living for the sake to try and prevent others from living their fate.

Do you actually believe for an instant that you can by your actions prevent somebody from living beyond the time that they are meant to live on this planet? We each of us only have so many breaths in our bodies...no person can extend the length of time that each person is on this planet.

So, relax and stop worrying, you truly take on too much and it can drive you crazy and cause sickness within yourself.

Sure, you may have a "gift" of premonition, or are able to sense what the future can bring, and that is rare. But in the end...when it is your time to go, it is your time to go.

So how responsible can you be for that? Not much.

Answer 7

It could be coincidence. You could be in tune with something. Please do not feel guilty about not saying anything to your husband's grandmother. What's meant to happen will happen, regardless of any warnings we have. I would let someone know the next time you have a specific dream or feeling about them, if for nothing else, to ease any guilt you may have over a future event.

Answer 8

You may be having some form of precognition. Some people are more sensitive to coming event and things like deja veu.
This sort of thing can be unsetteling but if you go around telling people about your feeling they will think you are looney. Whatever feeling you are having it is not possible to change outcomes.

Answer 9

Maybe you have developed a panic disorder from worry.
I am one of those people who worry over everything and
I mean everything. If you are comfortable with your doctor, talk to him/her maybe it's something physical,
maybe just panic disorder. But most doctors meet you at
the door with a prescription pad for anti-depressants, be
careful and have them check you medically first. Also there are alot of good sites on the internet about panic
disorder you can read about it and decide for yourself.

Answer 10

You probably wory because as you get older so does every one else . Sometimes i have the same problem. It is probably because of the type of music you listen to , and or what you see on T.V.