My boyfriend attacked me Thursday and tried to break my jaw and make me blind, then he tried to break my neck. My dad took me to the emergency room got healed and today I finally asked him online and all he says is he doesn't want to discuss it. I think I have the right to know what drove him to try and kill me. Right?
2006-07-17 18:20:47 · 20 answers · asked by dark_shadow_dragons 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
That is horrible. The real issue here is that he attacked you. Yes, he should tell you why, but you need to get away from this guy. Did you file charges?
2006-07-17 18:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by This is my nickname :-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it all wrong little one.
First thing to do is to make a POLICE REPORT. By contacting him online after the beating, you are weaking your legal standing and also risking further abuse. Indirectly, you are also encouraging him that he can do wrong by physically abusing you and risking your life, and get away with a just lame online mail from you asking why.
Most victims seek personal protection so that the abusive person may not contact or go near your person. You, instead seem to be making more contact with this person. Don't - it could be used to indicate possibility of a bad mental state on your end, and weaken your case should he continue to abuse you.
This is non just about you. He did wrong. It doesn't matter even if you had a hand in making him angry. He CANNOT HURT you physically in such a violent manner - whatever the cause. There are many people in prison today for bad things that they have done. We put them there so that they can mend their ways, to punish them for what they did, to protect the people who they would have continued doing bad things to, to protect other people who may end up being victims, and to TELL SIMILAR BAD PEOPLE with such inclinations that Violence does not pay.
Make a report, protect yourself and others. He will inevitably explain himself or mend his ways. DO NOT MAKE FURTHER CONTACT - This is a hole that will only get you deeper.
You can make contact through a third party (your Dad?), forgive, etc., after things have settled down. Right now, protect yourself and also be socially responsible. Speak to your Dad about this.
Also - if you are very young, please take all advice from Yahoo Answers with caution. People give all kinds of opinion, some insensitive and abusive, and even entirely wrong. Speak to an adult or counsellor if you are not sure.
2006-07-17 18:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Son of Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are a victim waiting to happen. There is no way on earth you should have contacted this "boyfriend" to ask him WHY he did this?
Lets hope HIS lawyer doesn't bring it up in court that you contacted the "boyfriend" after what you described on here as such a horrible beating.....trying to break your jaw? make you blind? tried to break your neck?.
You don't have to know WHY he did this to you! You already know that he DID do it.
He says he "doesn't want to discuss it"? His lawyer has probally told him not to. His lack of no answer/responce to what he has done to you should tell you what you need to know.
You need to stay as far away from this guy as you can.
You said "I think I have the right to know, right?" I say give him a chance and he WILL break your neck.
2006-07-17 18:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your boyfriend is a worldclass piece of ****, psychotic or has an anger problem- or perhaps there's something you've conveniently left out of the story. Surely he didn't decide he was bored with watching television and beat on you for lack of something better to do? I simply don't believe it.
What's more, you refer to this guy as your boyfriend rather than your ex-boyfriend and you claim to have asked him a question online.
If this guy really did this he should be in prison or at least in jail if not a mental hospital.
Asking his reasons for his actions would be only secondary to getting revenge or seeing him locked up if it were me.
One more thing, if you still consider this guy your boyfriend and make any attempt to resume a relationship with him then you deserve anything else that happens to you afterward. Period.
I do not advocate spousal abuse however, I feel absolutely no sympathy for the pathetic loser who insists upon returning to that environment and living in that situation.
The only thing worse than a bully is the coward who allows him/herself to be bullied. If you accept things the way they are then you are an active participant in making them worse.
YOU SHOULD BE TRYING TO HAVE THIS GUY THROWN IN JAIL!!!! NOT trying to talk to him on the computer!!!
2006-07-17 18:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely deserve an explanation, but when talking about legal rights, you are talking about the 5th amendment. He cannot be forced to answer a question because he is protected by the 5th amendment, so you may not be able to force him to give an explanation. On a side note, I am concerned that you refer to him as your boyfriend in the present tense instead of past tense. You haven't broken up with him?
2006-07-17 18:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did something, to him to bring this on yourself then you already know the reason. I have heard many stories of women ‘brow beating’ men until they lost it and retaliated. I think that explains why so many women claim that every man they every dated beat them up.
That being said, I assume this was not the case, or you would not be asking such a question. You deserve to know what his reasoning is, but honestly, I don’t think it worth your bother. If he is such a violent person, then why bother to talk to him? Just get on with your life. Maybe he will beat up someone whom puts him in his grave.
2006-07-17 18:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a better question... "Why is he still your boyfriend???" My gf wants to know why this winner isn't in jail for attempted murder (or at the very least for aggravated battery). You may want to know WHY he did it... but it is entirely possible that he is unable to articulate whatever was going through his mind at the time... so you may never know WHY... but let's be honest... is WHY really that important??? The fact that he tried to kill you should be enough to make you not want to talk to him any more.
2006-07-17 18:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Rev T L Clark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not know. Its not about rights. There's no way to force something out of his mind. What you do know and definitely should act on is your right to live a life free of physical and emotional abuse. Assert your right to be free of the issues your boyfriend is dealing with and taking out on you. Next time, if there is one, you may be killed.
2006-07-17 18:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by firstyearbabyboomer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...
He is PSYCHOTIC!
That is why he attacked you.
His issues are not your problem!
STAY AWAY AT ALL COSTS!
I lost a sister whom I loved more than my life over something like this.
Whatever demons he is fighting, you just need to keep him out of your life.
I truly wish you luck :-)
2006-07-17 18:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping he's in jail for what he did! Is he? If he is, you should have a right to ask him in court. See what he says.
You DID call the police, didn't you?
2006-07-17 18:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋