How do I get my 3 year old to sleep without me being in the room?

Answer 1

Oi!! I had to do this with my youngest!! At first, I let him fall asleep in my bed...then once a sleep I transferred him to his bed. That way he would wake up in his roomin the morning and be comfortable.

After a week or so, I would start putting him in his bed, he didn't like it at first. But, i did not back down...I just kept taking him straight back to his bed when he would try to climb in my bed. Now, it works! He sleeps in his bed and has for a month now!! yay!!

Good luck Hon!!

P.S. Don't back down!! They see this as a great opportunity to keep trying!

Answer 2

WOw I have the EXACT same problem in my house. Enough to make a sane woman go nuts!! But with my daughter, I tried everything I could think of, and nothing worked, but then I brought up our portable DVD player, popped a movie in by her bed, and now she'll lay there and watch the movie and then fall asleep, sometimes she doesn't even make it through the opening credits, but she falls asleep in her bed and stays there all night. Has saved me many headaches and having to listen to her throw her fits.

Answer 3

read a book to the 3 yr old and find out what is causing that child to be afraid to be by them selves. If they dont feel secure and its just an intangible thing then you can comfort them and help them feel safe. But it maybe something else. Either way, I think when children feel protected and loved they probably dont need their guardians around to fall asleep.

Answer 4

That's a good one.First of all,make sure he/she has a room that is comfortable w/his/her stuff around.this makes them really feel comfortable so make sure it's his/her room and bed that their in.Also,IF he/she feels more comfortable with a stuffed toy or blankie,let them.It won't hurt anything.Also,leave a nitelight on.IF your able to,explain the day before what he/she will be doing.Tell him/her they need to slepp in their own room ,in their own big boy/girl bed.Then,if you can,take them to pick out a night light.They usually have a nice selection at the dollar store,cheap.That way they feel like they have a choice in something.Then,just do it.Start a routine(kids respond to routines).Try to put your child to bed at the same time,with a bath before,tv time,or books being read.make a routine and no matter how hard,stick to it.They will try you at first w/I have to go potty again,and brush my teeth again,and i need a sip of water again,but w/a routine,things will fall in place fast.Put them to bed and explain that you are in the next room(down the hall,whatever)and that you will check in on them.Remember...whatever routine you start,make sure it's what you want,so you don't have to get them out of any bad habits,like watching tv while laying down.Then,you'll have a kid who has to have tv all nite to go to bed,so beware.It may take one nite,it may take several.But once it's done,it's done.Your child and you will sleep better for it.Good luck and stay strong1!!

Answer 5

this will be a some what painful trial for you.take slow steps.
first,do the normal bedtime stuff, a storybook or prayers,say good night and leave the room. he/she will cry,scream and get up.check on him once to make sure all is well and leave again saying you love him and see him in the morning. this will take patience and time but be consistant. you might also cry but it will be o.k.

Answer 6

make him go and dont take no for an answer
all of my 3 kids tried that garbage too but they got the picture
plus i disipline them when they need it. and trust me not going to bed is just the same as them telling you they wont eat their peas or they are not going to behave. in these situations the child is not tring to provoke or tring to get his own way for the fun of it. he is only three he does not know any better but if you lett him then after awhile he will figure out how to get his way. and if all he has to do is say no and dose it his own way then my friend you are in a world of hurt.
i have never be a believer in the time out of the taking away of thing they want. i have always been partial to the spanking. i think it is because of my lack of patience. i found the quikest way to get the job done with very very little interferance from any of my kids.
now when i say spankings iam not talking bout beatings. and a litte while after i tell them i love them but i do not excuse the reason for the punishmnet or tell them it is ok.
dont know if it will help but like i said my kids do what i tell them to do with out question. they know i love them because it tell them every day. but they know i will not take any crap from them.
so i guess what iam telling you to do is put him in bed give him a kiss and say a prayer then stand up and walk out. if he follows you tell him to go to bed or he will recive a spanking. if he dose not do it spank him and put him in his bed. repeat of nessery
good luck

Answer 7

Walk out..and let the child cry. The first night he or she will cry for hours..the second night a little less...the third a little less...by the end of the week you won't be leaving e-mails at this time of the morning...It worked for our three children...

Answer 8

LAY DOWN WITH THEM (IN THEIR ROOM) UNTIL THEY FALL ASLEEP THEN GET UP SLOWLY (AFTER YOUR SURE THEY ARE ASLEEP) AND GO TO YOUR ROOM WHEN THEY WAKE UP THE FIRST FEW DAYS THEY MAY CRY FOR YOU JUST GO TO THEM TO MAKE SURE EVERYTHING IS OKAY AND TO GIVE THEM A GOOD MORNING HUG AND KISS DO THIS EVERY SINGLE NIGHT UNTIL THEY DONT NEED YOU TO LAY DOWN WITH THEM ANY MORE ( IT MAY TAKE UP TO TWO WEEKS JUST BE PATIENT) SOON THEY WILL GET SO USED TO WAKING UP WITHOUT YOU THERE THEY WILL REALIZE THAT THEY DONT NEED YOU THERE TO FALL ASLEEP ( THAT IS HOW I TAUGHT ALL THREE OF MY CHILDREN THAT THEY DONT NEED MOMMY TO SLEEP WITH THEM ANY MORE THAT THEY ARE BIG KIDS, THEY WILL ALSO BE PROUD OF THEMSELVES AND HAVE A SENSE OF ACHIEVEMENT WHICH IS VERY GOOD FOR THEM)

Answer 9

Umm.. well i suggest that maybe u say im just going to go get something and dont come back, that way he/she will learn to fall asleep on their own

Answer 10

tell her nothing bad could happen and if she starts to scream let her be until she eventually tires herself out and goes to sleep