Being in love and LOVING....what's the difference?

Question

If you are in love......and then somehow move from "in love" to LOVING that person..is there some kind of mental transition? does your behaviour change towards a person somehow? how do you know that you are not in love anymore but you are LOVING THEM? and can you be "in love" and at the same time LOVE a person? what's the difference between "in love" and "love"...so like if im not willing to die for a person yet..im in love then.. but if im willing to die for them or say lose my right hand or vision for them..then i love them???? what do you think?

Answer 1

There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......

(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
If all these apply the you are in love to love!!!!

Answer 2

Did you know that in Greek their are several types of Love? there is Eros or Romantic Love (DEEP Lust/Romantic affection), There is Brother love, which the City Philadephia is named from (City of Brotherly Love), there is even Agape that love where you would surrender your soul in behalf of your friend. (As Jesus said).

That being said, To love unconditionally, unblind, seeing the person's faults and loving them despite those faults, that is not something that comes with with a "fall" and so you don't fall into UNCONDITIONAL love, it's an ACTION. In other words, it's a conscience decision you make to love a person despite things about them that annoy you or frustrate you, you love them through good or bad or through sickness and in health. (Like Christopher and Dana Reeves). That is why True Love, as they say, takes Work. You may love someone but if you really love them unconditionally, then you make an effort, communicate and respect them and they do the same for you and willingly keep making sacrifices to keep the relationship first and see to your partner's needs.

Falling "in love" is a feeling that comes over you after you have felt an attraction (NOT always physical) to someone for a particular reason and have had time to let that attraction grow into something more than just Attraction. It can happen quickly (not in days or hours or minutes usually) and is not a sign of longetivity in a relationship unless you both make an ACTIVE decision to transition into UNCONDITIONAL Love.

Answer 3

In love is something only used for that signifcant other or your spouse. People arent IN LOVE with their mothers or best friends but they do love them. In a relationship most likely loving someone as a person will come before you are head over heals IN LOVE with them. Thats why everyone wants it because its different then just loving someone. I think being in love with a person is loving them and being in love with them. So being in love is being more emotionally attatched. You love your family and your friends and who you are dating. But wether you are in love with the person you are dating is a whole different question. Being in love is something no one can take away from you, and you just know when you are.