if someone starts arguing with you, then what can you say to stop it before it starts? I have tried 'okay', 'whatever'(which just makes it worse) and just silence, but I dont want to like suck up to the person, just tell not start the fight. please help!
2006-07-17 18:07:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, its my mom so if I walk away or ignore her, she will just say 'IM TALKING TO YOU! GET BACK HERE!' and I really dont want to sit down and talk to her cuz whenever I try that, she's like oh okay I see your point, but she just pretends like we never had that conversation 10 minutes later. I just need a one sentence thing to say so its not being cocky or rude and I cant ignore her or walk away.
2006-07-18 12:39:44 · update #1
Just say "I can see your point."
You not agreeing with them but are being sensitive to their opinion.
2006-07-17 18:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by iggwad ™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it kind of depends on the person you're arguing with. One thing you could try is walking away when they talk to you, or when/if you see the approaching you, but that might not work. Or you could just try and make peace with the person you're aguing with. One thing that might be able to work (it doesn't always, so you might not want to try this) would be to have a very good, witty, come back, and leave the person speechless. Works sometimes... It all depends on the person, you, and the subject of your arguing really... Hope this helps.
2006-07-18 01:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by kakexs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguments are like fire, they need fuel to burn. There are people who have their own opinion and will argue for the sake of arguing and there is nothing you can say to change their mind, so why waste time and energy.-I hated debate in school and I hate arguing now, so I have kind of developed a sixth sense about situations and people that lend themselves to constant arguing and I've gotten pretty good about removing myself from these scenarios. To be honest though, if I find myself in one of these sticky situations, it's because I have stuck my nose in someone else's business generally. There are times when you have a difference of opinion with family members, loved ones and friends, but you just have to develop healthy communication instead of arguing and that may take counseling to work thru. I think the thing it mostly boils down to though is putting yourself in the other person's shoes and keeping an open mind, even when they choose to argue. It's hard to argue or talk for that matter, if you are busy listening! Best wishes and God Bless You!!
2006-07-18 01:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by tmc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tuff one. I've been there and it is not easy. I have a very bad temper and I blow easy. What I do (sometime) is to listen to what all is said then i go either sit down and take a very, very deep breath and then try to talk (if interrupted then say It is now my turn, I let you talked without me interrupting you.) If that doesn't work then i have a friend that would listen to everything and then go outside and count to 10 and scream your lung out. Also, have a spongy kind of ball in your hand to squeeze to take some of the tension out while you're listening or talking.
Good Luck!
2006-07-18 01:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to stop an argument is to listen to what the person is saying, and I don't mean half heartily, really listen and then together try to figure out what will make both of you happy.
Sometimes things get so heated that you cant talk at that time without arguing, just tell the other person that you need some time to calm down then get away from each other until you both calm down then try to resolve it.
2006-07-18 01:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should keep quiet when when some one is arguing. Prettend that u cannot hear any thing from person who arguing. That will pess him off. U just be quiet. Anyway when u get pessed just hold your breath and count to 20 slowly. But remember just to keep your mouth shut every time when a person argue and prettend that u never heard him.
2006-07-18 01:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by gunzforthugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not getting involved in the argument is not sucking up to the person.....it's being the better person. Think about this...it takes 2 spoons to rattle, take 1 away and it's quiet.
2006-07-18 01:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about " calm down. why are you arguing with me? Just explain to me what you are upset about and Ill let you know where Im coming from." Or try to figure out exactly at which point the person starts arguing with you and maybe you can figure out how you've offended them. Or why you got offended to say what yiou said.
2006-07-18 01:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by honiebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simpler than you think.
You obviously know you have a problem.
When the fog of anger envelopes you, take a deep breath and move on. There's no reason in the world to strike out at somebody over perceived slights.
2006-07-18 01:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by noils 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shut your trap and walk away. You obviously have no clue about communcation. And, people are not always 'arguing' with you - it's all about how you feel about yourself that you feel the need to defend everything people say to you. Hiding something?
2006-07-18 01:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically ask them why they want to argue if its somthing u cant agree on make it agreeable..if that doesnt work then just avoid the person if you can if not then just dont say anything do whatever you want if they dont like at least you tried and do whatever makes you happy and anyone else happy too
2006-07-18 01:14:32 · answer #11 · answered by Babidawl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋