and if you've been thinking about a person for 10 years...is that love?? and say..you've been thinking about a person for 2 weeks...that's just some crush or infatuation??? is there some vivid way that can help me differentiate between "crush/infatuation" and "in love" and "love"..? any ideas?
2006-07-17 18:05:25 · 11 answers · asked by Feodora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thinking about them..wanting to be with them..thinking about how they are doing...hoping to see them just one more time again.just one glimpse....etc thats what i mean by "thinking"
2006-07-17 18:07:11 · update #1
Thinking about someone for more than a year is certainly more than a passing crush. There must be a very strong attraction. It doesn't necessarily mean that is the right person for you, but you have a need to find out. I know because this kind of thing happened to me twice in my life. The first time, I finally got a chance to know and he turned out to be very much the wrong person, but I learned a lot of important things about myself from that experience. The second time I still don't know how it will turn out, but I know I need to know!
Still it's easy to say you're "in love" with someone you don't know all that well, but I believe real love comes from sharing a life together. As for two week crushes, those come and go all the time. You feel superficially attracted to someone, then discover the reasons why he is not for you. No big deal.
2006-07-17 18:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and consider how they feel about you. If you know he feels the same way, you have a good chance that you may be passing up.
Just ask the person if he or she (these days) is still interested. No big deal just be honest and frank - most guys find that, a turn on. Dont try to reduce your desire to the aspect of "love". Love is the longevity of a relationship. Right now you do not have that. So just get some honesty and tell the person you want it and you want it now.
2006-07-17 18:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by firstamendmentpress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be love, but it all is infatuation if you are not in a relationship or never have been in a relationship with that person. Love is built over time in a relationship or sometimes friendship can blossom in to love.
I've been thinking about Jonny Depp for ten years, but I'm not in love with him:)
2006-07-17 18:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by ecogrl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, beat me to the punch.
It could be love, or it could just be your mind filled with repressed regret and guilt, wishing you had one more chance to make things right, or something to that effect.
A good yardstick I've found to figure out if you're in love with someone or not is whether you're willing to sacrifice your own happiness and comfort for theirs. If you're willing to give them up if it means they'll be better off, despite the fact that it'll cause you considerable pain, then yes, you love them. Too, if you imagine the future, and you can't imagine it without that person, that's a good sign that you're in love.
2006-07-17 18:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by salihe66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOve has to be mutual. If all you have been doing regarding this person is "thinking" about him, my question is why aren't you two together. Is he or she with someone else? Are they away at school or in the armed services? Do they care for you too. If not, move on to someone who can reciprocate your love.
2006-07-17 18:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on alot of other factors. thinking about is only a liking. love is something deeper. it can certified only when you live together for sometime and can still think of the other with same care and longing after say 6 months.
try it! living together and loving the other's nuisances is the true test of love.
2006-07-17 18:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by SUNIL Raj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long you have been together. i would say if you have thought about a person for 3 years you definitely have feelings for them. i think about my x everyday everyhour and i love and miss him terribly
2006-07-17 18:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by noname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not love you jst have a crush. but you can thnk maybe its also called love
2006-07-17 18:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by TO BE CONTINUED.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
action is better then thinking about them don't miss an opportunity
2006-07-17 18:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jimmy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know but all i can say is love is the greatest spice of life.
2006-07-17 18:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by ken_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋