so, yea... my sister M.L. and my other sister M. are twins... they've been the closest out of all of us sisters (4 total). I'm the youngest, L is the oldest, and M.L and M. are in the middle.. the twins...
so to make this short.. her wedding is on the 29th of this month, and she decided not to allow myself and my oldest sis L. to be bridesmaids.
her reason before was because she did not want a bacholerette party. but she IS havng one.
she wants me to fix her makeup and serve punch at her wedding... but im thinking about punching her.. then letting someone cover it up when THEY do her makeup...
sad sis needs advice plz.
2006-07-17 17:55:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you can surely punch her on her face.
if sister do like that then they dont prefer you as the sister.
but i will say this there must be a reason behind it. ask her angrily
and please dont do her the makeup and dont even serve punch
and dont even talk with her.
please do this ask the reason, from her friends one which you like and she likes you too or ask from your sister and sisters
there is a reason
reason can be hatred or some other stuff
2006-07-17 20:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have any other bridesmaids? If not, there's your answer. If she does, then maybe she just doesn't feel close enough to you to ask you and your oldest sis to be in the wedding. This is NOT the time to confront her about this though, she may be selfish and everything, but you won't win points by dragging up this issue right now. If you don't want to do her makeup and serve punch, then tell her simply you don't want to do those things.
Have you talked to your mom about this, and how you're feeling? Your mom may be able to shed some light on the situation, since she's probably right in the thick of wedding planning, but not as emotionally wrung out (like your sister is).
I'm sorry you're feeling this way, please feel better.
2006-07-17 19:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel. Especially if she is having other bridesmaids besides her twin. If it were me, I'd politely decline her request to help w/ her makeup or to serve punch at the reception (or anything else she may come up with.) If she asks why, just tell her the truth... you're a little hurt she didn't want you as an attendant, and so at the very least, she could just let you be a guest rather than "hired help" (without the pay!!)
2006-07-18 03:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jane D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad. I have 4 sisters and none of them wanted me to do anything in any of their weddings. 3 of them are divorced and the other one I could care less.
I had a terrible complexion in high school and am facially scarred. I am not as pretty as my other sisters, so I guess that is why they didn't want me in their wedding.
I wasnt even asked to attend the guest book or pour the punch. My oldest sister wants to come home and visit me. I would just like to tell her to go to hell and its been 20 years. She dont need to be coming to my house.
2006-07-17 18:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister is a major jerk, I don't understand why she wouldn't let you and your older sister be in her wedding, then the nerve to ask you to fix her makeup and serve punch. But the thing is that she is still your sister and will be even after her wedding is over and the craziness has winded down, wait till then and tell her how it made you feel.
2006-07-17 19:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by marij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think it is a good thing that you are not goiong ot be in the weddin, now you can save your money , you wont have an ugly brides maids dress in your closet, you are the sister of the bride not the waiter, tell her you feel uncomfortable serving punch and would it be ok for her to get someone else to do it. if she doesnt want you in her wedding that her choice, it is her decision, dont forget you will be getting married and she will expect you to ask her to be in your wedding, the tables will be turned and she will be hurt like you are hurting right now, i say you and your other sisiter that is not in the wedding stick together and if she doesnt want you involved dont be involeved. twins always stick together.so dont feel bad. they are your sisters and will always be like that, just be there for her as much as you want. good luyck.
2006-07-17 18:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear that :( It always sucks when your own sister outcast you like that. But, it is her wedding and she should be able to choose who she wants to be her bridesmaids (even though it might not seem right). So chin up :) -- oh and you always have the CHOICE to not fix her makeup and or serve punch at the wedding :)
2006-07-17 19:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by niku414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sick of brides saying "this is my day and it's all about me". Your sister is a selfish bridezilla. She should have all of her sisters in her wedding. Weddings are about family and if you don't want your family involved you should elope. I wouldn't do her makeup or serve punch. She shouldn't be so cheap and should hire an artist and a bartender.
2006-07-17 18:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are upset about not being a bridesmaid. She may have told you she didn't want a bachelorette party because at the time she really didn't want one. Perhaps she told you that because you may be to young to attend one.
Just ask her why she didn't want you or your other sister as a bridesmaid and listen to her. Remember this though, when you get married you don't have to include her either.
2006-07-17 18:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by prettycute4u62040 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's being a cow.. i dunno her real reasons why don' you just ask her?? maybe you and your other sister are being the cows??? And why would you wanna punch your sister on her wedding day? even if she is being a cow? fair go.. that's really rough.. it's her day her special time in her life.. just go along with whatever.... who cares OK, it's all about her anyways, put up with the crap, cause that's what families do and be relieved when it's all over.
2006-07-17 18:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋