What should i do if my mom and my ex. step dad r getting back together and thats not wat i want?

Answer 1

Its not up to you what the grown ups do. If your grown then you need to grow up. Unless you have some good reasons i would accept and respect your mothers choice. Dont be a spoiled brat, its not all about you!

Answer 2

When I was was a teenager my mom split from my ex-step dad for a year and then went back for another year. Those years were hell, but she eventually split from him for good. I don't know how old you are, but if you have to live with them just try to make the most of it. Fighting or making trouble just isn't worth it b/c it only comes back to bite you in the a$$. If your mom doesn't care what you think in regards to this, it sucks but just try to accept it. Keep to yourself and try to stay out of eachother's way if you can't get along. It's hard, but you won't be at home forever. You never know what the future holds so just let things run their course. Perhaps he'll be out of your life again before you get out of there. Some of the other ppl on here are mean for suggesting that you shouldn't have a say. Afterall, it IS your life too and they don't know what he's like.

If you don't live at home, don't worry about it ~ if he's truly not right for your mom she'll eventually clue into this on her own.

Answer 3

Well, was he mean to you or your mom? Did he drink,
do drugs, was he abusive? Did they fight alot? I ask those things because you said he was your ex-stepdad.
So I assume there was a problem in the relationship. There could be many reasons why he's a ex, but if they
have worked out the issues and would be happy together
and he's not any of those things I mentioned, wouldn't
you want her to be happy? Sure you would, but at the
same time if he's any of those things, then I would tell you,
talk to your Mom and let her know how you feel.

Answer 4

Well, I wll tell you that I went through alot of counselling to find out one thing...................My father was with his wife and I never talked to him and he was always busy, blah blah blah.

One day the consellor and I talked and I was very angry after and I remained angry for a long time, Since I was my Dad's baby girl, I just didn't like him not being there anymore.

So the next appt wioth my counsellor he asked me how I had felt when I left there the week before. I told him how angry I had been and he began to look through the notes from that session.

He looked at me and asked me," Are you mad at your father for leaving you or leaving your mother?" I thought for a moment and I said ,"For leaving me."

So my little spoiled self called my Dad and we talked about it. Because my counsellor told me that day that our parents love for us is different than the love they have for a spouse, or girlfriend, etc. He never left me you see I was just mad becasue he wasn't there for me all the time anymore.

My step mother became a very good influential part of my life and I thank God I had her in my life because she was truly and Angel on this earth.

Unless your step father has done something very bad to you and I mean beat or molested you then you really don't have the right to choose for your mother whomever it is that she is with.

Answer 5

Photoshop a picture of your ex step dad making out with another woman and give it to your mom.

Answer 6

it might not be what you want but if it makes your mum happy then you should let her get on with it im affraid. Alot of people dont like it when their mum or dad finds someone new, but that is the way life is. If there is a reason that you dont like him then you should all sit together and talk about it. Make life easy and be happy for her!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Talk to your Mother and explain your feelings to her and tell her why you do not want her to get back together with him. Do it in a mature manner, giving facts and don't make it all about you, make it relevant to your mother. Don't whine.

Bottom line, you will have to accept her decision, unless he is doing something to abuse you or her, it's really none of your business.

If they do decide to get back together, try to be mature and make a concerted effort to get along with him in order to make your family life not just bearable, but pleasant.

Answer 8

You must try and tell your mom how you feel about this. If you feel you can not tell your mom tell somebody that may be able to speak on your behalf.IE Aunt sister a good and close friend.

Answer 9

Speak with your mother. I don't think you should come up with a plan to sabotage it, just explain to her your concerns and work it out.

Answer 10

sometimes things in life are not up to you and you just have to search in your heart to find the will to accept it. sorry hun, no break-up information here.