He works with a lot of addicts on a construction crew and after 8 months, he started using coke. During this time, he treated me horribly and wasted a lot of his money and mine. I finally found out about it and he admited it. Now, a few months later, I am having a hard time trusting him again. Even though he stopped before I knew and has taken several drugs tests (his idea) and passed, I still hold resentment. I want to be a good person and forgive him for his mistakes but I find myself obsessing about it. He still has the same job and loves it, he makes good money and is a foreman so I cannot ask him to leave that job. How do I start to trust him again when I know I should but can't?
2006-07-17 17:37:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its very hard to regain the trust. If he's not an addict, there is hope that he'll stay clean. Its very difficult, especially if he's around people that are actively getting high. The temptation is so powerful, I'm sure you realize that by now. You need to assess the situation and decide the pro's and con's of the relationship. Addicts can and do recover. I'm not accusing anybody of being an addict, the drug, especially that one is incredibly cunning and gets a good hold of its victim. People become incredibly great liars, thieves and can justfy and compensate any actions. They can even learn to eat while tweekin'- which is very hard to do, even have sex, while their mind is already looking for the next bump. I've done that drug test routine too and passed. My prefferred stall was to "say" lets go do a drug test, knowing that nobody would take me up on it since, I was offering to do it. Defense Mechanisms get very creative too.
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I was riding in a taxicab this morning and there was a female dispatcher on the two-way radio. She was dispatching the cabs to various addresses and the usual dispatch chatter was going on. Suddenly, the dispatcher asked?... Michael Hunt, are you out there... Mike? Do you read me?... Mike Hunt, Mike Hunt... Come in, ... Come In... Mike Hunt. I don't know why this is so funny to me- it's just a persons name.
I couldn't stop laughing. I think something shot out of my nose!
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2006-07-17 17:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was an addict myself and it does change you i went from blowing coke to free basting within a matter of weeks i did a lot of coke. if you have never experienced it you will never understand its a strong addiction and any anger is the drug talking. its hard to trust people who have lied but hes gona need some love and trust especially now if nobodys got faith theres no point in staying clean and a few months clean thats all thats running through his head now
2006-07-18 01:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by swigglybop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him then leave him.
It has been several months, and you don't trust him...that isn't a crime, it is just the way it is. Don't force a relationship that you know deep down isn't going to be there.
2006-07-18 00:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by greatpanisdead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***. drugs will get you in trouble if you stay with him. it will only get worse. i know from personal experience. He's not going to quit for you.
2006-07-18 00:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by bullfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if u can't trust him drop him.
2006-07-18 00:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by chickenredhotsoup23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah
2006-07-18 00:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by lakesha R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋