how do you tell your mom your moving out when you are only 14?

Question

my whole family is really screwed up and i don't want to live with my @$$hole step dad. i want to move in with another family member, but my mom would kill me. any suggestions on how to tell her? no wise cracks please.

Answer 1

first of all you should discuss the problem with your Mom before you tell her. She might take care of the situation at home. If not tell her you would like to be out of the situation and live with other family.

Answer 2

Hmmm.. I remember feeling exactly the same way when I was your age. First thing to do is take a really deep breath and sit somewhere quiet for a while. Being a teenager isn't easy and you are growing into an adult, so it's only natural you want to make some decisions for yourself.But sometimes taking off is not going to make your life easier ....I know I know..it feels like it will, but in a very short time you will be leaving home for your own place as a strong, independent woman. Study hard at school, plan the life you always imagined and be strong. Sticking it out will make you stronger in the long run. Also, if you are finding it hard, chances are your Mum isn't having an easy time either ( adults NEVER admit these things) and at 14 you could be a great friend and support to her. Give it a go, I bet she loves you a lot thats why she'd be upset if you left. When you are angry at someone or not happy in a situation, it can be really empowering to say to yourself " you know, I'm not afraid of this, I not running...Im going to face it square on ". Do it quietly and peacefully. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 3

I would tell her that you are not comfortable with the living situation, particularly your step dad and that you plan to move in with another family member. That family member should also be with you when you talk to your mother. I believe that your mother is your legal guardian and would not be required to allow you to move out. Is there a specific and legitimate reason for your desire to move or do you just feel your mother and step dad are too strict? If that is the case, you should rethink your decision. Your mom/step dad probably are looking after your best interests if they are trying to enforce reasonable rules. If there is something abusive or inappropriate going on in the home like parents using drugs or abusing alcohol or treating you in an inappropriate manner, then you do need to leave ASAP. Good Luck. I hope this helped a little.

Answer 4

Does the family member want you to live with them? If the family member is a responsible person there are still going to be rules and things you'll have to do much like at home.

To answer you question....take away the attitude and then tell your mom how you feel....tell her moving out for a while maybe a good thing for everybody in the family.....tell her you'll keep your grades up and stay out of trouble and if you don't you have to move back home. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 5

Your mom is presumably your legal guardian, so you really cannot "tell" her you are moving out. You can discuss it with her and try to convince her that it's in everyone's best interests. However, in the end, if she's against it, you're kind of stuck unless you want to enter into "the system" and have an outside authority determine that it's best for you to live with this other family member. That, of course, could be quite messy and hurt a lot of feelings.

I really think that your best option is to talk with your mom about what is bothering you--not argue, TALK--and try to come to some agreements that work for everyone in your household.

Best wishes!

PS: Most families are screwed up in one way or another. And you'll find that throughout your life you'll have to come up with ways of effectively interacting with people who are totally screwed up. This is a great time to start working on the skills you'll need later in life to survive in the job market, marriage, and even parenthood.

PPS: If your reason for wanting to leave involves abuse, you need to talk with an adult you can trust for some guidance on what steps to take. However, you DON'T have to stay in an abusive situation.

Answer 6

Does your mom know how your step-dad treats you? If yes, and she has condoned his behavior, then you have every right to get out of that house and live some where that you feel is safe. If no, then you may want to have a heart-to-heart chat with her, and let her know how unhappy that you are living there with him. If she doesn't want you to leave still, then give her an ultimatum tell her either you go or he goes. You may also, want to have the other relative that you want to live with talk to your mother, and maybe she can convince your mom, that it is the best choice for your well-being right now. I wish you all the best, and I pray that everything works out for you.

Answer 7

You seriously can't just move out and expect your mom to be okay with it. Regardless on how you feel if you are not be abused sexually, physically or emotionally you can't just decide where you going to live until you turn the legal age of 18. That is when you can do what you want without worrying about your mom interfering.

Answer 8

First of all, you don't move out, if your stepdad is being
a jerk, you need to talk to your Mother and tell her the problems with him. I don't know what you mean by your
whole family is screwed up, but I'm sure your Mom needs
to know if you have such a problem with your stepdad, is
it that you simply don't like him? You are only 14 and you
need your Mother, talk to her and maybe you can work this out.

Answer 9

Whether you like it or not your mom will be your boss until you are 18 or if you wish you can go through the courts if its that bad and become imancipated from her,or have your other relatives take guardian ship over you.Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 10

Legally, you probably can't do this. She can go to court and demand that you be returned to her custody. Try talking to your mom and maybe something can be worked out.