why does my gf get jealous about a possible threesome when it was her idea?

Question

my gf has a (female)classmate who secretly likes her and just found out. i told her that if they did anything sexual that i wanted to know about it b4 it happened. we then began talking about a possible threesome which was eventually planned for later on. the girl has bigger breasts than my gf and my gf is insecure about her own and always has been. so now when we talk about the threesome she tells me "u are gonna be more interested in her and u are gonna like her more!" and despite what i tell her she insists that will be the case. i tell her the reason i am excited about it is because it is a new experience and what guy wouldnt want 2 girls instead of 1 ya know? we have been together for 3 years and i have never cheated on her yet she has cheated on me twice. so who should be the one concerned here? how do i handle the situation? i love my gf and would never leave her for someone else nor would i cheat on her. i treat her so good in my opinion and dont feel that i deserve this, HELP

Answer 1

From a gurls point of view neither of u should worry. Its normal for a female to get jealous when it involves her man being with another female. my boyfriend gives me shyt about a threesome when it comes to him recieveing somethin. Sometimes it gets to me cause its like so i am not good enough for him that he needs another gurl in life and his bed? or what if the gurl is a ***** and tries to to keep MY MAN away from me or he is interested more in her. So its not just your gurl, but tell her there is no need to get jealous and how its more about the experiance and u love her and ull never leave. My boyfriend told me those things and now it doesnt bother me (well as much lol) when he jokes about it cause i told him how i felt about it and he doesnt joke about it as mich anymore. So talk to her.

Answer 2

Hey first of all congradulations on being able to discuss having a threesome because most women wouldn't even go that far in the first place knowing that it is a possiblility that her man might take an interest in her. But I want to say since there was a discussion on the matter ask her if she wants to back out and see what the answer will be? I bet you she will want to back out because of the insecurities that she feels already.

I know that you would like to try it but she see the interest and the excitement you are showing and she is scared to death of the thought that it could turn out wrong.
Understand most women even including myself have some sort of insecurity about themselves, for example I am insecure about my weight and when I see women on television that my husband see and he likes what he see's I too get a little insecure because I know in my mind I might not never look like any of those women on the tv.

It also goes with the fact that they may have bigger boobs and butts and they may even have a pretty face too. But we women share in the same matter we are insecure about ourselves especially if we love a man that we have been with for a long time.

My suggestion to you it to talk to her again and if she still doesn't get the message from you then (I hate to spoil your fun!) tell her to forget about the whole thing.

That will be better than her worrying about whether or not you will leave her for the other woman.

Answer 3

Your girlfriend probably said something about the threesome in the first place because that's what she thought you wanted to hear, because like you said who wouldn't want two girls instead of one. I think she is probably mad because she didn't want you to want to. You are suppose to say something like all I want is you baby or Why would I want anything else when you satisfy me completely. If you have been together for 3 years she loves you and she doesn't want to see you embracing another woman. I would say let it go and be happy with her if you keep asking her about it she will think its because you have a particular intrest in this other girl. Would you have a threesome with her and another guy? Not to where you and the guy were touching each other or anything but just both of you touching her. I bet right now your stomach has cringed and your saying " he ll no" Maybe she feels that by you saying or agreeing to a threesome your saying your not good enough for me -insert gf name here- and I want something more. We are women we will ask you to do something that we would never allow you to do just to see if you would do it, were weird that way. Best advice love your girlfriend and stop asking for it because it obviously makes her upset. And if you cant do that wait for her to get really drunk and then ask her:)

Answer 4

I think that you should forget the threesome. Of course your girlfriend isn't going to like the idea of you and some other woman. She has insecurites with her body and bringing another woman in the bedroom is only going to make her feel worse. Would you want to be in the room while she slept with someone with a bigger penis than you? See what I mean?

Answer 5

She was hoping that you wouldn't agree to it. She wanted to suggest it and have you say, "I would never want to sleep with anyone else."

Answer 6

It seems to me that she wants to be with the girl ALONE. She don't seem to want to have you be with her at any time.

Answer 7

She doesn't deserve you. I repeat: She doesn't deserve you. DUMP HER.