My dad is a major homophob. He also has problems controling his temper. I don't know when or if I should tell him. My mom is okay with homosexuality, but I still can sense some tension when I get on the topic with her. I'm only fifteen right now and I don't plan to tell my family until I move out of the house so I don't have to deal with my dad as much. Is that a good plan, because I'm still a little uneasy.
2006-07-17 16:48:05 · 12 answers · asked by Yaiyo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-07-17 16:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by kumquat.2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have a guess that if you tell your family now they would say things like, "You're too young to know what you want." That seems to be a common response to any person who comes out of the closet at a young age. Second, if you are uneasy with your plan, then there is probably a problem with that plan. No one here can give you a positive or negative on whether or not you should tell your family about your sexual orientation. You are the only person that knows your family well enough to decide when and if you should tell your family. I think it wise to hold off on the decision of telling your family members until you are older when the news is likely to be taken more seriously. Only you will know if it is right. When you are confident enough in yourself and your sexual orientation you will be confident enough to tell the world who and what you are. And I have a feeling that, although the original shock of having a homosexual child will be hard on all of you, your parents will love you and stand by you no matter what. When you do tell them, put yourself in their position and be patient while they sort out their personal convictions against homosexuality and their unconditional love of you. Good luck.
2006-07-17 17:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you are really gay in the first place. When you are only in your teenage years you are going through alot of changes. Parents of any sort are not keen on the fact that their child is gay and noone should expect them to take it easily. They love you and they will worry about you. They just want what any other caring parent would want. Remember that is the only dad you will have...you dont want to lose contact just because you jumped out with both feet to announce something that will damage your relationship with him, because believe me it will damage it to some point. Id be afraid too , but eventually if you still feel the same way youd haft to tell him with hopes that he will not deny you or who you are. Dont expect it to be easy for your parents, I am sure from the day you were born they pictured wedding bells, with a man. You are only 15 ...time is the best advantage you have.
2006-07-17 16:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by c g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ...only fifteen...same age as me....i dont know if you even have it all figured out...ur still a little young to know that u are what u are......but if you are sure about it do what makes you happy .....its not good to have a secret that is tearing you up inside....it will feel alote better when you let it all out.....and if your dad ask's you why you waited until now to tell him...tell him you were scared and didnt know how he would react..tell him you werent ready but now you are....he should be thankful to have you in his life and he should thank you for telling him.instead of keeping it from him...if you want more advice or if you want me to walk you through it email me i would love to help you...babyxdollx666@yahoo.com.....good luck with everything.
2006-07-17 17:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by byrdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. You're still really young, and a lot of things can change in your life in the next few years. I'd wait until you're out of the house to tell them if I were you. Really, if you didn't want to, you wouldn't have to tell them at all. Everything you do is not their business.
2006-07-18 13:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by cryptoscripto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey it s ok i sorta know what you in. My cousin is having the same problem. She is waiting until she is moved out. But you you'll know when the right time is to sit your parents down and tell them about you.
2006-07-17 16:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by LOST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one... I would tell my mom first and ask her not to tell my dad then i would talk about it and see what she says, if she says tell him, then do it if not then don't. It won't be easy telling your mom but just think of the load that will be taken off your shoulders if you do!!! lol
2006-07-17 16:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Paul O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared to be uneasy for a long long time---goes with the territory
2006-07-17 16:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an understanding dad, he will want you to be yourself even if its not exactly he wants to hear...he may be angry if you dont tell him until u move out.
2006-07-17 16:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it whenever u r ready, today, tomorrow, a month from now, years from now... the sooner the better tho. no sense in hiding who u r
2006-07-17 16:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u told ppl like us who r total strangers.u could tell ur family.
be proud of who u r don't be scared of ur dad.he won't kill u.he'll get mad and then he'll understand.however u r his daughter.
2006-07-17 17:04:18 · answer #11 · answered by steff m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋