what would u do?

Question

I have a 4 year old neice and she plays in her mommys car so for a punishment she spanks her daughter and makes her sit in the car! windows up and it's been like 80-90 here! I yelled at her about it and she told me to mind my own business! Should I next time step away and call the cops or what? Not really sure who I can call..but i dont want her to find out it's me that called!
I get so angry with her i just want to knock her out and stick her in the trunk of the car so that she would know what it felt like!
I took my neice home with me for a few days and didnt call her mom and her mom never called me! her daughter had a fit when I left her! Also she has a 9 month old who she treats like a queen!
How can a parent treat one like a queen and the other like she's trash..she's a single mom and the grils have different daddys!
I dont know what to do but I am sure if it happens again in front of me I will be in jail, for kickin some butt!

Answer 1

Not even an animal should be left in a car in this weather. I think if I were you I would go ahead and call the police. There are simply some people out there who should not be allowed to give birth!

Answer 2

You are absolutely right for being concerned. Personally, I would directly tell her that if she pulled that stunt again, that I would call the police on her. I don't understand how a person, let alone the mother, do something so heinous to her own child. You should also contact your niece's father and make him aware of the situation. God forbid that little girl suffers from this punishment, you won't forgive yourself for not doing something sooner. I know it's a horrible guilt you must be feeling right now, but your niece is the important factor here.
As for the favoritism... I don't get that, but I've seen some parents do it. It could be she's resenting the father of the 4 year old (and she may remind her of him)... or it could be that the 9 month old is still too young to cause her any stress. Either way, it's wrong. Right now, the main concern should be that little girl's safety. You may strain your relationship with (your sister??), but in the long run you'll feel better about your decision and she may recognize the same one day.

Answer 3

You need to call the cops. That is a terrible punishment!
Spanking is only okay if it leaves no marks, and leaving a child in a hot car is never acceptable! That poses a great risk to the child's health!
I am sure you love your sister dearly, but she is unnecessarily endangering a child's life.
She may treat them differently depending on how she feels about the children's fathers. As sad as it is, it does happen. Also, with the older child, more is expected of them, as unfair as it may be. Knocking her around is no solution. The child has seen enough trauma. Please, call the cops the next time. I hope that happening once will knock her into shape. If not, then she obviously didn't deserve those angels in the first place!

Answer 4

The next time she does it inconspicuously and anonymously call the police. Or go to your local child protective services office and inform them of what you know and have seen. Offer to take someones name and number and inform them that the next time you see behavior like that again you will call the police and have someone at the police station refer the case to them. And also ask if placement is needed for that child that you would like to be considered first since 1) you are a family member and 2) you already have a healthy rapport with the child.

Answer 5

in reg.to the child she treats like crap , in my
opinion it sounds like your sister had some deep seeded regrets
ie , she didnt want to be pregnant with the first (unplanned?)
or her first husband did'nt approve of being a parent which caused hostilites between your sis &her man and because of this she may feel the oldest is partly to blame even though it is obvoius that this is not the childs fault.as far as the locked car punishment, this is child abuse and endangerment and it is
very much against the law she stands risk of losing her
children & conviction by law this is very serious !! the next time
yousee her do this and I know you love your sis but, for the shake of these children you will have to report her to the authorities . I live in Las Vegas 114degrees today, and if a child like you mentioned was locked in a car for punishment, even if for just a few min. the child would be very dead!!!

Answer 6

I would not be too concerned about the mother finding out it was you that called, you need to think of the welfare of that child. You need to call the police or family services and just let them know what is going on. The mother does not deserve her child if she does this sort of thing. I guess the only problem would be that they usually need some sort of evidence that this is happening. Since she is 4 she may be able to tell these people what her mummy does. Good luck.

Answer 7

CALL THE POLICE! She could die in a hot car after just a little bit. SO WHAT if your sister finds out! Your niece will die. I can't put it any more bluntly then that. Call the police, will take her away from your sister if need be and find her a more suitable home with a family member or someone else who would be MUCH more capable. Call in an anonymous tip if you want to, but just do something!

Answer 8

OMG. Please do something quick. Lots of children have died because their parents have left them in the car by accident, which I don't know how, or because they didn't have a sitter and wanted to party at the bars. You can call children's services and be an anonymous tipper. Please do something now. Next time she might do this when your not around and forget about her. If she doesn't care about her this will happen. If it is 80-90 degrees, it is over 120 degrees in the car and that will kill her. If she does it again and your there, call the police.... Who cares about the fact that she will get mad at you.That is child abuse.

Answer 9

Call child protective services the next time she does something like that. If that child dies you'll never forgive yourself! And as far as treating the children differently, anybody can be a parent and thats just sad! They check us out when we want to adopt a dog but any yahoo can have children

Answer 10

That is horrible!! You should warn your sister and tell her that the next time she does that you will call the police. I know you wouldn't want your niece to wind up dying due to her mothers neglect. I think your sister may need to seek help. I really cannot stand it when parents are not fair to their children. The older child may grow up looking for the love that she should have received from her mother in the wrong area's like unhealthy relationships and drugs. Maybe you can bring that to your sisters attention.