punishment for a 3 yr. old girl?

Question

I have a 3 year old girl. When I ask her to do something she says "i can't want to". She says that to almost everything. What is a good punishment? I put her in the corner...she thinks its funny. I sent her to her room for 5 min....she cries....but comes back out happy. I think that is a good punishment, what do you think? She has responded better to that. I don't believe in "spanking" her. I will spank her when she gets way too carried away. But I try to stay away from it. What do you do when a child at 3 yrs. don't listen very well?

Answer 1

Do you want to punish her or discipline her? Good for you for not spanking but stop using time out. They only cause resentment and are shaming to a child. Time outs are a way for you to control your child but not a way for a child to learn self-control. Try and use logical consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your daughter misbehaves is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if she throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If she makes a mess, she cleans it. If she breaks a toy, it goes in the trash. If she damages something in the home, money comes out of her piggy bank or she earns money doing things around the house to pay for the damages. Let the discipline fit the crime.

Another technique you can try when she is misbehaving is this. As soon as she misbehaves, get down to her level and say "I don't like when you (explain what and why)." Take her gently by the hand and put her in a spot in your home (bedroom, the couch.) Say "When you're ready to (listen, stop, behave) then you can come back with me." This is not a time out because you are not giving a time limit (you controlling her). She returns when she's ready to control herself. You may have to take her back to the spot a few times before she gets the message. Thank her when he behaves. Keep it up!

Notice her when she is not misbehaving. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders.

Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. You can say “Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want some help?” "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all a 3 yr. old child does not respond well because
she is still learning, therefore you need to talk to her and explain
to her why she needs to clean up after herself. The punishment
that you are giving her right now is good. sending her to her room
shows her if she doesn't respond she can not get her way. And
don't treat her after she cleans. Do treat her if she is not asked
to clean up. The reason for this she'll catch on if your scolding
her and then she finally cleans and she gets a treat. Kids are very smart. I have two daughters and now I have two Granddaughters, raised a Nephew at the age of 5 to 20 and I
treated all the same. You have to start at this age other wise
they'll be lazy as they get older expecting you to always do it.
Especially the boys. That is called mommas Boys.

Answer 3

Whatever you do you need to do it every time and the same every time. Once she knows that no matter what she will not get away with it and the punishment is the same she will stop. Make sure if you are using a time out that it is some place where she cannot see anyone and there is nothing for her to look at or she will not care. Also, make sure you are giving plenty of positive attention when she does good things so she will not feel the need to act out. I also try to make sure I spend at least an hour of one-on-one time with each of my children so they feel good and it seems to have worked.

Answer 4

i have heard that the child goes into the corner one min for how old they are. so that would be 3 min. I do daycare and let me tell you that that is very hard to handle at times, yet very normal. Some kids react in different ways. One child says "thank you for putting me in the corner..i like it" while other ones cry. Whatever punishment you decided to do, just make sure that even if she cries..sings or whatever she might do..let her be and ignore her. That usually works around here and the parents like the idea.

Answer 5

I have been using time outs with my son since he was 1. He is very well behaved, and will put himself in a time out when I tell him to after he has been bad. Works like a charm.

Whatever you decide on, the thing is you must be consistent. Give her only 1 or 2 warnings then follow through EVERY time, no matter what. This is the main mistake I see in friends' and family with their kids. If you don't punish, they will win and think they can win every time.

Answer 6

your daughter is three, so she doesn't yet right from wrong. but i'll tell you how i would handle it. If my three year old daughter ever talked back, or said she doesn't want to do something i tell her to do. I would whup her ***..or as you put it spank her, and i promise she won't ever talk back again. Time out will only work for so long, sending her to a room for five minute will only work so long. When she turns sixteen and she's saying no what are you going to do then? Yes right now she's three years old but if you don't discipline her now she won't ever learn. Alot of parents don't believe in spanking there kids and in some cases it works, others it doesn't.

Answer 7

You can try a couple things. You can ask her if she'd like it if you answered her that way when she asks you for something. Most likely she'll say no, but that won't change anything. So, the next time she asks you something, answer her the same way she answers you. She'll understand then. You can tell her you didn't ASK her if she wanted to do ..... And that she doesn't have a choice. You need to let her know that you are MOM. And that you won't tolerate her talking to you like that. If she still continues to do so, then you take away something of hers. Like the toy she's playing with until she does as you ask. Then give it back.

Answer 8

You have to use a consequence system. If she doesn't do something you ask of her, put her in her room for a while and make her stay there, even if she screams and cries. That's just a temper tantrum. I used to do the same thing at that age, and my mom would put me in my room and let me cry it out. Eventually I would calm down, come out of my room and be a good girl.
But whatever you do, make sure she understands that there is a consequence (good or bad) for every action. Otherwise you'll have one heck of a time when she's a hormonal teenager. :-P

Answer 9

My son is the same way. Putting a child in the corner can be effective but no longer that 1 min per year of age. Try taking things away or saying if we have bad manners we can't go to the park...etc Do say that she can't do something that she really likes to do and stand your ground when and if you tell her that she can't do something.This is a very effective method. It should successfully work for you it has worked for alot of parents.

Answer 10

Watch supernanny. My 3 year old son has been acting really horrible. I just don't know what to do. I watched an episode of supernanny and started trying her time out technique. It has been working out much better. The first few times were the hardest. I think its just a 3 year old thing we both seem to be going through. Whenever I ask my son to pick up his toys he throws himself on the floor, cries and says he can't because he can't stand up. I can't wait for these tantrums to be over with. Good luck with your daughter.