How to you offer constructive critisism to your child without damaging their self-esteem?? Any tips on building self-esteem in a young child? (ages 3, 7,8, and 10) I always offer lots of praise, but I want to be honest with my child when something they do needs improvement so that they wont see everything through "rose-colored glasses". Ex. sports, artwork, chores, etc. Im not meaning little nitpicky things, but when they want real advice, how can I be honest without hurting them?
2006-07-17 16:07:14 · 5 answers · asked by AstonishingAries<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be honest just put word what you have to say in a positive way. Try not to use negative wording in your honesty. It's okay to be honest and give your opinion when dealing with your child but also ask your child about their opinion on the topic. They well respect you if you are honest. I tell my children how I feel about what they do and how they look and just about everything else all the time but I also leave the door open for their opinions. And when it comes to friends I tell them my opinion and let them use their best judgment and always reassure them that I will welcome their friends in my home even if I don't care for them. I want my kids to be honest with me so I am honest with them and give them their space with in limits because I want an open relationship with them and I don't want them hiding things from me. You know your own children and using your best judgment know who critical you can be with out hurting their feelings. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-07-17 16:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The truth is always best.If it hurt there feeling it's good because you will be teaching them that in the world people will not sugar coat what they will say.And when you do have to be hard tell them that you are preparing them for the real world.We know how cruel some people can be.But most of all always express your love for them in good talks and bad.Good luck
2006-07-17 23:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean.. what i always do first is praise them for their efforts, and then I'll ask the question if you could do it all over again what would you different? then go from there.. if they don't answer then I'll ask do you want to know what Mommy would do different? and then tell them and it usually works out to where they usually say "oh that's a good idea"..
Just remember parents nor children come with instructions.. we all do the best we can!!! Hope this helps!!!
2006-07-17 23:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to give you acvise, but one thing I know works is always notice their effort, and make sure they see your reaction to be positive always.
2006-07-17 23:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what ur parents would do,
2006-07-18 17:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋