Basically my ex and i were together for 4 years and were very close, never faught and did everything together. Reently she had alot of problems with family, school and work and our relationship was lost somewhere in the mix.
She is pushed around and walked over by everyone and it still breaks my heart knowing how much I care for her and that id be willing to do anything for her, but feels like she has to take on the world be herself. She complains about all this stuff (work, family ect...) all the time, and what I have to offer he is the complete opposite...love.
It seems like the only drama-free, fun filled moments have been spent with me (im talking recently, we still see each other all the time)
Question is...whats stopping her? Is she waiting for me to say something? I truely love her, what should I do?
More info:
Weve been apart for 3 months
We talk on the phone a few times a week
We see each other often
We still flirt and have a great time with each other
2006-07-17 16:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by dutch1584 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love her so much cut her some slack and give her some space. BTW talking about her personal problems on-line with strangers is not going to make her feel better.
2006-07-17 16:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell her again how you feel. Tell her you love her and want to be together. I mean it seems like you guys still really love each other and still are close. Maybe she justs needs to her that you love her and want her back. Also tell her its hard on you seeing how everyone is treating her and tell her how its really hard when she complains all the time. Tell her it makes you unhappy when she complains. I think if you do that then she will realize she must change some things and will be with you. I was having a hard time last year in school and my boyfriend (we've been going out for a year and half) were kind of having problems like that. I mean i would complain about everything and i didnt realize how much i was bringing him down and how he didnt want to spend as much time with me because all i would do is complain about things. He had to tell me a couple of times before it really sank in and i realized i had to change if i wanted to be with him. I love him and i did and we are still together. good luck
2006-07-17 16:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by jenks1545 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is tying to create problems where there should not be. If you really love someone then you take on the world together. Everyone has these problems, some people just blow them out of proportion. She needs to grow up a little before she can be in a committed relationship. Give her some space and see what she does.
2006-07-17 16:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Guy, it sounds like she still needs you, even though it might not be the picture perfect relationship you desire. I think you need to have patience. Be there for her, be her friend, her shoulder, her comfort. The problems will work them selves out and you will be closer than ever once she realizes what she has with you. Don't push it. Let her make the moves, the calls and decisions with whatever relationship you have at this point. She doesn't need added stress- just you at her comfort level.
2006-07-17 16:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...u poor guy.... what i would say...is that u need to bring it up to her that you still love her very much...and that your life hasnt been the same since you guys broke up. but tell her that you dont want to pressure her because you know she already has enough on her mind right now. tell her that you will do anything in your power to make her life easier....and that all you want to do is make her happy. if she says that she isnt ready for a relationship at the moment....( and you still want to wait for her to come around for awhile longer) then just tell her that you need her but you will wait untill her problems are sorted out before you expect her to commit to a relationship.....because who knows...she might still love you too!
2006-07-17 16:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her bone-head tell her the way you feel and how you want to be there for her how you have been there for her. She has enough stress and depending on who's decision it was to separate she may not want to go back on what she said. I don't know all the details but I bet if you talk to her she will be receptive.
2006-07-17 16:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is still having trouble, she has to worry about all kind of things so there is a lot going on. you should support her by talking to her and agreeing with what she says. don't get angry at her anything and make her happy.
2006-07-17 16:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her exactly how you feel about her and about the current situation. but dont forget to ask her for her input, either. ask her where she wants the relationship to go. set aside a block of time, and just talk about it. good luck : )
2006-07-17 16:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Hayley! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her back out and ask her for a second chance at the relationship thing.
2006-07-17 16:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by A-Town Soulja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweep her off her feet!! she needs prince charming to save her right now. next time you see her, just kiss her right away and confess that you still love her, it'll make her happy!!
2006-07-17 16:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by emotionally_attatched 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋