Ladies only: Right way to approach a girl?

Question

If I see a girl, whom I've never met, but seems interesting to me - such as walking down the street or at the grocery store - what would be an appropriate way to introduce myself?

I've tried the friendly, straight-forward, "Hello, I'm John". It seems to creep them out & that's not what I'm trying to do.

Answer 1

Try to find a REASON to talk to them, if you are in the grocery store ask them where something is.....even if you already know..it gives you an "opening". If you see them sitting in a park reading a book, ask them what they think of that book/author. If you see them walking down the street, pretend you are lost and ask them if they know where the Dentist's office is or the Bank .....ANYTHING.

Once you have opened the door to conversation before you leave you can say ......By the way my name is John, hand them a business card (get some printed up if you have to) and say you'd like to repay the kindness by taking them out for coffee sometime and you'll hope they will call you, then walk away.

I would be willing to bet if you tried these approaches and started handing out business cards with your phone number on it that 8 out of 10 women will call and take you up on the offer for a coffee at least!

Answer 2

Wish the world were a friendlier place "John".
In our social culture that would be a little "much" since folks are slow to even say hello.
You have to allow the circumstances to create alittle more opportunity for dialogue (ex. your name). In the meantime, smile and look at the gal in the eyes. If you're standing in a line or whatever, you can make idle chat. If you sense that the gal is really into you, then offer the shake (?) and name and the want to get together sometime line. But it really takes a few lines, back and forth, to really determine that she's into you...before you bother with the name. If you live in a small town, and it's where you see the same gal over and over, let it grow. Friendliness is a biggie. Not seeming desperate or too interested is a real turn off.

Answer 3

You're right, just introducing yourself would seem a bit awkward to me. Show your sense of humor, that usually works. Maybe a funny comment about the current situations, surroundings. That would break the ice. But I gotta mention that just walking up to a girl in a place that's not conducive to meeting people might not be ideal. It would work better if you were somewhere where people actually have the time and interest in meeting new people. Good luck!

Answer 4

hmm, tough one. Try to make eye contact- if in a grocery store, ask about a product. But not a stuipd question. Hopefully that will start a conversation. Walking down the street- leave it be. It would be creepy to have someone just walk up to you like that. You'll know it when that right girls comes along anyway- don't try so hard.

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Answer 6

I wouldn't be weirded out by you coming up to me and saying "Hi". I see that as the most logical way to approach someone else. What else are you supposed to do, pretend like you lost your dog? Let them know you saw them from across the way and thought they were beautiful and would like to hang out or get to know each other. If they're not interested, what can you do besides brush your shoulder off and move on to the next? You're not going to always get a good result from it, but if you're really determined to meet a nice girl, keep on keeping on. It's hard to meet people these days because if you see someone at the mall and approach them, they think that's all you're at the mall for; to pick up chick. (I know because I used to think like that when a guy would approach me). Just be sincere and be yourself, that's all that you can do. The right one will come around eventually. Good luck and I hope things work out for you!

Answer 7

First, a sentence or two of small talk. Then, you can introduce yourself and say, "You seem like a really interesting person. I'm running late right now, but I would mett up with you another time and talk with you some more. Could I have your number?" Once, a guy started a conversation with me and said, "I can already tell you are a person of quality. I'd really like to get to know you better. Could I have your phone number?" Of course, I gave it to him.

Answer 8

Make eye contact, smile, maybe comment on the weather or surroudnings. Don't introduce yourself right off, that usually comes off as a little forward. It's usually not hard to strike up conversation once you get going. Be confident and friendly, and don't "try" so hard to make things happen.

Answer 9

Guys seem to ask this question a lot on here, and I'm going to tell you all once and for all how I feel about this. Any guy, no matter what line he uses, is going to have about a 95% of getting shot down, when he approaches some random girl. Approaching random girls you see on the street, at the store, etc. is just not a good way to meet girls. The friendly straight forward "hello I'm john" as you said, IS the appropriate way to introduce yourself. But unless you are extremely good looking, or know how to recognize the girls who get hit on less often and might have lower self-esteem, it isn't going to work for you much. And if you are only hitting on girls who are totally dolled up and look like perfect tens, and you aren't a perfect ten yourself, you also look like a HYPOCRITE. I say this because.....If you are hitting on a girl based on her looks, and the only thing that she can possibly know about you is how you look, and you aren't as good looking as her, you're basically saying "I will only date the prettiest girls in the world, but yet I'm asking them to see past my looks and like me for my personality". Very hypocritical.

Also, what advice I would give you for hitting on girls totally depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking to get laid, hit on the girl in the group of girls who is attractive, but not THE most attractive girl out of the group. Especially if she's wearing slutty clothes. In general, if you are trying to get laid, hit on girls that aren't THAT great looking, but are trying really hard to look good. Tell them that your girlfriend just broke up with you, tell them that your dog died, make them feel sorry for you or something. However, if you are looking for a relationship, none of that stuff is going to work. Because you can't start a relationship out with a lie - that's just bad news. And besides, if you have to TRICK her into talking to you, is that the kind of girl you really want as your girlfriend? If you have to pretend you're rich to get her to talk to you, that isn't the type of girl you want to have as a girlfriend, because she doesn't want you, she wants a man with money. I hope this makes sense, good luck.

Answer 10

very casually, non-nervous tone:

"hey, how's it going?"

"sorry to ask you... are you from around here, could you tell me how to get to this street i'm looking for?"

"huh, in which direction again?"

(smile kindly and casually the whole time feeling respect for the one who's in front of you)

"thanks so much for your help, bye the way I'm John (give her a card), you have helped me a lot today. If you ever need any help with (your profession) just give me a call, i'd love to return the favor, you know? how you helped me find my way today"

(nice smile and...) "bye"

don't carry on any further cause you'll creep her out... if it's meant to be and if you inspired enough trust then she'll call.

good luck!