How come I feel so awful?

Question

This soldier tried to rape me and I used physical force to stop him. He got arrested and in big trouble, but I feel so awful, I really scared around people sometimes, so much so that I cant get a job or talk to people. Most of the time I try to avoid people.

If I cant get a job it would be better for me to die because I might have to live in the street and the same thing could happen again.

I am so afriad, cause it could happen again.

Answer 1

OH BOO HOO
HOW MUCH DID YOU TEASE HIM BEFORE YOU SAID NO
GROW UP AND MOVE ON GET OVER IT NEXT TIME FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED

Answer 2

People are animals. Some realize that they really are animals, and they work to stop doing the things that animals do. Others believe they are not animals, and they expect God or some kind of magic to make them into something 'special'.
You should not feel bad about what happened to somebody who doesn't act like a human.
It's normal to be scared. The world is a scary place, try to find someone who understands that you are afraid. Look for places to work where people aren't in a big hurry all of the time so you have time to think. Maybe a job on a small farm nearby, or in a greenhouse or florist shop.

Answer 3

This wasn't your fault. You aren't the bad guy in this, he is. You have been tramatized, and need to talk to a therapist. You did the right thing. What is amazing is that you were strong enough to stand up for yourself and fight him off. He made a mistake by choosing you as a target, as most rapists try easy targets they can overpower. You took care of yourself, and should be proud of that. I know your trust is shattered, and I am betting this guy was someone you kind of knew. Rape isn't necessarily perpetrated by strangers... so you're having issues with trusting people and feeling safe. Get yourself to a counselor, and then to a self defense class. You'll feel better about things. You need time to heal, but you should feel good about yourself for doing what it took to save yourself and nail this guy.

Answer 4

You shouldn't feel bad at all for getting the soldier arrested. You could have potentially saved many future girls who couldn't defend themselves as well as you from being raped. You made a difference whether you know it you not.

As for the people avoidance, it sounds like you might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. My advice is to start seeing a therapist or counselor.

Answer 5

Yeah you're either full of **** or a messed up little girl, either way go get some counseling, seriously. The fact that the moron was a soldier has nothing to do with it. If you'd said stock broker I'm sure other stock brokers would be offended & tell you there are good & bad people in every professsion, but don't let it change your oppinion of the rest of us. Hope the little bastard rots in jail though.

Answer 6

listen..it was atramatic thing you went through, but be proud you fended him off..GOOD FOR YOU...the fear is real and recent right now, but everyday it will lessen until it is gone, you may need to be around friends whenever you are out at night for a little while, and that is alright, perfectly understandable...for example lets say someone gets into a car wreck, bad but not too bad, the next time that person drives they will be nervous and scared, and probably have it effect their driving...then as time passes and they keep driving the fear fades, and then maybe close call or seeing someone else get into a similar accident causes them to relive that fear againbut this time it is much shorter lived and they move on until nothing ever bothers them.
if you can afford go talk to someone, if not andyou are religious talk to your pastor..if you have absolutely no one, write me,I will gladly chat by email

Answer 7

I am sorry if this happened to you, but it does not sound real.
Your beginning was okay but your problems do not match your assault. You opened an Yahoo Q & A account to ask a bunch of strangers about so personal a tragedy.

You just happen to put this in the military by mistake. If you wanted help the mental health area would be more useful. Nice try though.

Answer 8

seek a group that you can join. they are set up like aa where you get a friend to call anytime. you may want to consider talking to a attorney to sue the soldier himslef and the military as they allowed this to go on and by that i mean when i was in the nam era, the military knows your every move, background and what you do while in. as we are short of men, they allow alot more than should be allowed to keep them during wartime, unless it get public.

Answer 9

Do not feel sorry for that man. It was not your fault. He deserves every bad thing that comes his way. And do not be afraid. Not everyone around you is going to be bad. Don't destroy your life because of this.

Have courage, seek professional help, and move on.

Answer 10

It is rare and you should just watch the places you go alone and or at night. At least you were able to fight him off. Some of them tend to overpower the woman and there is no way she can fight him off. If they can go on and live so can you. Just think positive and appreciate the fact that you are a fighter.

Answer 11

First of all, the fact that he is in trouble is HIS FAULT, not yours! Second, you need to seek help immediately. You're a victim of violence and there are many places to go for help. LIFE IS WORTH LIVING. Don't give up... You can beat this... you defended yourself against a violent attack... you can beat this too.