My adopted dad died about three years ago, and when I get married I am going to ask my uncle to walk me down the aisle (since he has no daughters-just sons). Should I dance with him? I was thinking about asking my mom to dance with me for the father-daughter dance in rememberence of my dad. But are you supposed to dance with the person that gave you away? If so it wouldn't be the father-daughter dance, for me. I don't know what decision to make. I would really appreciate help on this THANKS :)
2006-07-17 15:37:52 · 30 answers · asked by babyblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Who says you have to have a fathers daughter dance.
Most of your quest will either not notice or understand.
2006-07-17 15:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by iggwad ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to follow tradition...make it your own. You can dance with both people if you want, choose 2 songs and have your DJ announce that you will be dancing with your mother in remembrance of your father and you would also like to dance with your Uncle because he's very special to you and you are grateful for him walking you down the aisle. Anything you choose to do will be nice...it's your day...enjoy it and do what you feel you really want.
Good luck and congratulations!!
2006-07-18 11:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob's Mommy (Plus One) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not dance with both? Dance with your Mom for the first part of the song, then dance with your uncle for the last part. That way you and your Mom can honor your Dad and your Uncle won't be left out either.
2006-07-18 10:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dance with your uncle. Even though it's supposed to be with the person you walk down the aisle he's a positive male role model in your life and I think you should go for it! I know you want your mom but I think you should dance with your uncle.
2006-07-17 22:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be most gracious to dance with the Uncle you have asked to walk you down the aisle. I am sure he would be honored and it would be a most memorable time for him. Don't hesitate to tell him how much you appreciate him dancing with you and let him know that you miss your Dad but are glad he was willing to be your partner in this very special moment. I bet there won't be a dry eye in the hall!!
2006-07-17 22:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a father-daughter dance at all. Instead, you could maybe honor him at your ceremony. My husband and I lit candles in rememberance of the grand parents who were not with us that day. Do something to remember him, but not a dance. Congrats and good luck
2006-07-17 23:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uncle gets to give you away and have that father/daughter experience for himself as well as the experience you get out of it. I think it would be wonderful to have your mother dance with you for the Father- Daughter dance! And what convinced me was your reasoning... "in remembrance of [your] dad." That is a really beautiful reason and wonderful reason! And congratulations!
2006-07-17 22:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what feels right to you. Unless you are completely stuck on the idea, you can skip the father-daughter dance and find some other way of honoring your father, either public or private. Something old, borrowed or blue could be something of your fathers, for example.
Best wishes!
2006-07-17 22:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sure your uncle would be honored to step in for your adopted dad. You could also dance with your mom, I suppose. You will always going to remember the man who was your father and by doing so, you are memoralizing him.
2006-07-17 22:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by kath68142 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you couold dance with the closest male relative of your adopted father. You could also have the DJ announce that he is dancing with you in place of your father, who would have loved to be there on your special day.
You could pick someone who was very close to your father (his father, brother, son, etc.), and that would not only mean a lot to them, but to you too.
2006-07-17 22:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt to dance with your Uncle who's walking you down the aisle, but you can cut it short to share with your Mom who's been there for you through all your hurts and most of your life. She won't be expecting that, and will make her so proud and happy.
2006-07-17 22:44:40 · answer #11 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋