is it possible to make a highschool relationship last for years?

Question

the reason i ask is because me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly a year now and it has truly been the best year of my life however a few months ago one of my friends died in a car crash and his brother was critically injured and she was there for me like no one else was and since then we have grown closer i know that if we were older i would have done asked her to marry me but i'm only in the eleventh grade and shes in the tenth and once i graduate i'm so scared that we're going to drift apart because i'll be going to college pretty far away and when she graduates she'll be goin to college in Cal. which is really going to strain us and i just need to know how can we make it work. thanks for anything

Answer 1

Hey bro, I know what you mean. Sorry to hear about your lose. Ok, here it is. Long distanted relationships work. Im in one and Im fine with it. I havent seen her yet but I am doing the one thing that keeps the long distant relation working is trust and to not worry. You have seen your girl, you have been with her, and if you feel that you two are ment for each other, than your prolly right. If she was there for that hard time then she'd be there for alot more. She sounds like a great girl and im sure you guys will work out. Just call alot and come home for the holidays and meat with each other whenever possible. I hope that my words have helped you out because this is what I need to hear when Im down. Plus, when your in college, times change and you get busy, so there will be a less need for a girlfriend because you will be occupied. Just keep loving her as your are now, and Im sure she will love you just the same. Good Luck man.

Answer 2

It is possible to make the relationship last, but yes it is not easy and highly likely that you will drift away from each other unless you're both willing to make some major sacrifices. Distance can affect a relationship in a huge way. But, that's not to say that all relationships fall apart for that reason. You will really start to find the true meaning of love if you're willing to make the sacrifices that it takes, but both of you will have to make alot of sacrifices. It will be important to spend holidays together and neither of you will have alot of money during college for travel unless you have parents to help you both. You will need to do things like send her flowers occasionally to her dorm and calling her as much as you're both comfortable with. Spending summers together if possible is helpful. Many people find that the college years make some of the biggest changes in one's character and life and so you both may change ALOT. Some people turn very narcissistic, or selfish, others change for the better. Every once inawhile though - by a miracle - both of you feel the same way about each other - I mean I have alot of friends who were high school sweethearts and got married. Some people go to college as a young married couple and that's not necessarily wrong as long as you both are mature and understand the commitment level and what it takes. The reality of life as an adult is much different than how wonderful things are when you're young and you first fall in love. You'll never forget those times, but there has to be a high level of maturity and knowing how to wait for her and things like that - if young love is going to last. Unfortunately, usually one or both partners is too immature to make it work in the long term. I wish the best for you. Writing letters especially makes a difference talking about memories of her and things while you're apart. There has to be alot of reciprocal feeling and commitment.

Answer 3

You are thinking quite a ways into the future. Concentrate on your relationship now and work on getting to know eachother even better, which will build and strengthen your relationship.
When the time comes for you to go to college then you will be faced with a decision on whether or not you both want to have a long distance relationship. Long distance relationships are hard and require both people to be committed and really make an effort to call, visit, etc.
High school sweethearts can last a lifetime if you both love eachother and want to be together. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well, if you think she'll be receptive to the idea, you could try promise rings. You could both agree that while you know some things might change, if things keep going well you'll plan on getting married whenever you can, and that if either one of you want to end it or go out with someone else you agree to talk about it first, etc. If you really love her and she really loves you, talk about it. But at that age, you both still aren't fully grown, as in maturity yet, so just beware. I'm not saying it can't happen, but it's not common.

Answer 5

High school relationships can last forever. Don't you worry about that.

As to how to ensure that in your case, other than for one of you to consider changing schools (most likely a bad idea unless you have some choices on your list(s) near some of the choices on her list), keep in touch with her, call her everyday one or two times a day, get webcams and go from there..., and do whatever you can do to make sure that she is a part of your life and you are a part of hers. On vacation, go back to your hometown and spend all of your free (not with relatives) time with her. Maybe you can save up and go on a trip. Think about those things; and ask her for her ideas.

Good luck man; and congrats for gettin a solid relationship!

Answer 6

Wait a bit and maybe ask when you graduate. I know people in high school that have had a relationship for many years. Talk to someone you trust on this subject though. Yahoo Answers isn't the best place for advice man.

Answer 7

I'm not going to answer for your personal situation because I'm not living it, and you're the only person that can answer your internal questions, but I will say that yes, it is possible. One of my co-workers is married to her high school sweetheart and has been married for 30+ years. They even took a huge break for college and got back together afterwards. Who knows? There are always exceptions to the general opinion.

Answer 8

Any relationship can last for years.
Let it be what it will be. Be honest with your own self and your needs to develop into a healthy, prepared adult. We really need to be independent, experienced adults before we jump ahead and imagine, plan for marriage.
Be a good friend. Be confident. Be clear about your priorities and your values. Don't get caught up into possesiveness. If someone is mature, and really into you , they can go anywhere and it won't ruin the truth. Think about just being a really good friend. Things will progress the way they need to.

Answer 9

The only way you can make it work is to work at it. Even if you end up taking some time off, try to remain friends and stay in contact. Make sure she knows you'll always be there for her. But you both are really young and maybe its best you get to experience the world, that way you'll know for sure if your meant to be together.

Answer 10

If it was meant to be then it will. You don't have control over this. Enjoy the time you have. Can it last? Sure...why not? I started dating a boy when I was in 8th grade. He was my only boyfriend...my one true love. Why weren't there any others? Because I married him and this December will be our 16th wedding anniversary. Best of luck to you and I hope you have an amazing week!