what's it like to be a child that is yelled at constantly?

Question

I know this woman,( who I wouldn't call a friend),she's a neigbor, that treats her step daughter differently than her own son, the stepdaughter is 4, the son is 2, and she's pregnant again with a girl, I fear the mom will always show favortism to her own children over her stepdaughter, I Know she doesn't physically abuse her, she feeds her etc. even tells her she loves her, they have tender moments but most of the time the Mom is yelling at her for everything she does. I have never experienced being yelled and screamed at, how is this going to effect this child? and how will she endure the moms favortism of the half siblings?

Answer 1

being achild can be very difficult with step parents. i was one in a very simular situation. i grew up just fine and still made something of myself where as one of my step siblings got on drugs. you are what you are and that doesn't change. i did remind my stepmother only once that she showed favortism while i was growing up. istill consider her my mom.

Answer 2

From personal experience, I was frequently yelled at as a child, criticized, and was never given any positive comments.

I still can't speak openly to anyone about how I really feel, I have no self-esteem and I still crave to have a father who will be real to me.

Each child creates a special place in a mom's heart..and this lady is going to have her own personal inadequacies aside and do what is best for their own kids. When you're a mom, your feelings come last. She needs to get her act together and remember these little creatures are kids and they need all of the love and encouragement that they can get in the world!

Answer 3

It sucks, (take it from someone who spent a lot of her childhood getting yelled at) The hardest time is while you are growing up in the house. You always feel like second best, and yes there is probably a little bit of emotional damage, but with any luck, she will be a very strong woman because of it. It caused me to have very high standards for myself, because I was always striving to be better in order to be loved. Now that I am out of that house hold and happly married, what I have realized is that I don't have to try to please them anymore as long and I am happy with my life the way I want it to be. She will probably spend a lot of nights crying herself to sleep, but if she can eventually come to the realization that I did, not only will she be fine, but she will be so happy to be out of that situation that she will love life in a way that many people can't appreciate.

Answer 4

If this child is being yelled at constantly than she might turn out to be timid when she grows up and more afraid then all the others...She will feel left out a lot at home and school...I suggest that the mom gets help for her problem or lets the father take place ( unless he is worse ) and if there is a father to take place..

Answer 5

Depends, does the Mom call her "stupid and lazy" or does she just yell instead of talk to her? If it's the first part, than the child will have a big time self-esteem problem. If Mom just yells instead of speaking than maybe the child just has "mother-deafness" and needs to pay attention more. If you see the child everyday, it would be nice for you to compliment her. Let her know that not everyone yells.

Answer 6

women folk, do certainly no longer help a guy financially till it is a genuine emergency and there is no different determination! A lesson from Helen Andelin: "the 2nd element a woman can anticipate in marriage is financial help.this implies an earnings to disguise needs and a house of her very own- a house, place of abode or first rate residing place remote from the different family. If the guy does not furnish those issues, there is justification for action. because women human beings are actually not susceptible to enable the youngsters go through starvation or want, many resolve this concern with the aid of going to artwork. This step, in spite of the shown fact that, will weaken the guy's incentive and develop the challenge. If she provides you the earnings, he's removed from the load of his duty. If the spouse refuses to artwork, an indolent guy could walk out on his duty and depart the spouse to stand her issues on my own. for this reason, the spouse has no determination yet to help the family yet could desire to refuse to have the guy return till he arranges for their help. i'm no longer implying that there are actually not specific circumstances and emergencies whilst the spouse could desire to artwork, however the duty is the guy's..." because of the feminist circulate and the preferrred courtroom ruling of Orr v Orr women human beings are actually held in charge for newborn help and alimony and the soft years doctrine, which renowned mothers because of the fact the nurturing be sure, is long previous. till you want to maintain helping a guy who did no longer supply delivery or face what you have as a woman then refuse to help him. tell him to enhance up.

Answer 7

it sucks to get yelled at all the time by a parent. often the emotional abuse can be as damaging (or more damaging) than physical abuse. every child in this unfortunate situation deals with it differently--some coping mechanisms are more constructive than others like exercising rather than abusing substances. although the choices a child has at that stage are finite, therapy, self help books and co-dependents anonymous (coda) are viable outlets for adults from that background. for now, be as supportive as you can to this child and if you have concerns about his/her welfare it may not hurt to contact your local child protective services and report your observations and get their take on the situation. many people fail to report child abuse for fear of getting involved--it doesn't hurt to ask questions. the social workers have their own experience and criteria for judging the level of involvement/intervention needed but they won't catch every case if people continue to turn a blind eye. thank you for your concern and compassion.

Answer 8

My son has a friend who was yelled at and called names and disciplined with a belt. I witnessed the abuse myself. I reported it once and social services came out and said they saw nothing wrong. The kid is now an alcoholic and a drug addict. I'm not saying we aren't responsible for our own actions but this kid had a rough life till they kicked him out. He stole something recently from his mother and now she doesn't want anything to do with him.. What about what they stole from him?

Answer 9

She'll grow up to be a yeller too! Plus the alienation she's experiencing at home is going to be totally devastating for her, as a responsible adult I would say something to the woman!

Answer 10

think about how you feel if all someone does is yell at you. eventually you will turn off when that person or persons yells at you. No it is Not physical abuse but It can Be a form of Emotional abuse something much harder to prove.