Mom Problems!!!????

Question

My mom and I are not getting alone latley...we argue over everything....our latest one was i went to TN for a week and a half and she got mad at me when she found out i went over my cuz bf's house with my cuz, her bf, and another guy (even though my uncle, aunt, and grandparents said it was o.k...(nothing happened or was going to happen either)...she gets mad at me for everything...even things i don't do
Its not like i am one of those teenagers who always get in trouble or do bad things so i don't know what i am doing wrong...i am her oldest child but it still doesn't give her a reason to treat my like crap and get mad at me for stupid things like not wanting to read a book that exact second (i wanted to write instead)...i need someone to tell me what to do before i really get in trouble when I smack her!!!!!

Please exuse the wanting to hit her...i would never do that I was just upset...

Answer 1

You may not be a teenager who gets in trouble, but your mom is definitely trying to prevent that from happening. You can't blame her for being a parent. Sure, it gets frustrating. My parents are still very strict on me, and I'm 19 years old and in college. They're looking out for me and when I was younger I thought it was just some lame excuse to make my life miserable. Here's the thing, if you want to live by your own rules, then move out and support yourself. Your mom is doing her best to raise a good child, and you have to respect that. Until you can make enough money to live on your own, you have to live by her rules. Eventually you'll realize how much of an impact she's really been on your life. Try not to argue, there's no point. Even if she's wrong, she's right. Arguing is not going to get you anywhere and it's stressing the both of you out. Instead, try to talk to her and let her know that she needs to trust you. If she does decide to give you some slack, respect that she's putting some trust in you and don't let her down. Don't break her rules and be home on time. Your mom won't be around forever so don't forget to remind her every now and then that you love her. Because without her, you wouldn't be where you are today. Good luck!

Answer 2

Don't smack her, you'll get arrested!

There could be a Million reasons she's on your sh*t, but you have to TRY to figure what part YOU play in her anger.

Remove those behaviors and then you will have more "space" to live your life.

Sounds like she has "trust issues" with you-why?

Also she seems to think you are "defiant" with the reading thing- if you don't want to "read" just say so in an adult way like, "Mom, i PROMISE I'll start reading as SOON as I'm done writing this chapter" Communicating is essential to make it clear to your MOM that you RESPECT her.

These kinds of tension are NATURAL for this stage of your life- It helps propel you to want to separate from your "family" and live on your own.

Until you can AFFORD to do this and are OLD enough, you have to make it work with Mom.

Answer 3

first off you should never say you would hit your mother she had you..and you always need to remember that my mother always tells me i brought you in this would and i can take you out this would and this is true..so dont even think about nuthin like that..and parents act that ways becuase they care parents are always scared there kids are gonna follow there path and make the same mistake they did just accept it and do whats best for you make your mom proud of you show her you can be trusted and that your not like every other teenager you have to prove your self and it doesnt matter if your her daughter or not you need to earn her trust..good luck just listen to her and dont arque with her you can never win an arquement with your mom unless you make her cry..me and my mom had a realy bad relationship becuase i was like everyother teenager smokin weed drinkin have sex and stay out late partyin and every other thing and i regret it now and i wish i could take everything back but i cant.. and remember shes alot older then you which means more than likely she'll pass away before you and you dont they way you treatin hurt haunt you when shes gone..love and believe..

Answer 4

First of all violence will get you nowhere. Try to sit your mom down at a time when everything is calm and she is not preoccupied with something else. Ask her why she is so critical of everything you do. Tell her you want to please her and make her happy but you are not sure what it is she really wants. Tell her in a calm and rational voice. Not yelling or have an attitude. Maybe she will open up a bit and ease up. Good luck

Answer 5

OK one thing is for sure please don't smack her even though you feel like it and you have the right to feel this way but you guys really need to take the time to get to know each other talk for a minute or two a day work your way up OK just try to get along tell her you love her I bet it would blow her mind if you did. you are really blessed to still have your mom alive with you today I lost my mom seven years ago and it is something you will never get over believe me hey walk up to your mom and hug her, WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU DID SOMETHING FOR THE FIRST TIME. it is all about love really and respect you got to respect to get respect. take care

Answer 6

I know it probably seems like she's just on your back but
honestly she's trying to protect you from the things that
could happen. Just reassure her that you are trustworthy,
she probably already knows that. Just tell her you love
her and give her a hug the next time you want to smack her. One of these days you'll probably appreciate her
for trying to keep you out of trouble. Good Luck

Answer 7

You need to take a look at it from her point of view and she from yours.
Sit down and talk and maybe you can both really listen to each other.
I think you will both find it very enlightening and be able to come to some compromioses that suit you both.
Remember to go in open minded and open hearted.
NO REASON FOR VIOLENCE
Your Mother cares about you and you should too.

I hope this helps.

Answer 8

Mom's get scared especially if they feel that their child is hanging out with someone who is not doing morally correct things. My daughters both told me when they started having sex, although I didn't like it, the truth was much easier to deal with and I could get them protection.

As for hitting your Mom? Girl, as long as you are her responsibility if you hit her, you are being disrespectful - no-one hits their mother. I had one daughter who ALMOST did, and she also ALMOST got knocked on her butt by me, because I would have punched her in the face with my fist. You think you're big enough to hit your mother? Then you had better pray you are big enough for the consequences of your actions

Answer 9

because she truly cares, if she didnt she would let you do anything thing you want. if something was to happen to you she would be devestated the most out of all the uncles and aunt or anyone else for that matter. so next time just know she loves you and cares.

Answer 10

how old are you? sounds to me like she still sees you as younger than you see yourself.

and i also think that she isnt ready for you to be hanging out with boys yet... maybe she is a little over protective... or maybe she feels like you arent respecting her.. maybe she sees all this a little differently than you do.. can you talk to another family member about it? like your aunt, uncle or grandmother? i say this because they know you, and your mom and could probably advise you better as they know both sides of the story...