I just had a miscarriage a few days ago but havent told the father b/c we are broken up. he is with his new girlfriend and he knows that i am pregnant he didnt seem concerned about the pregnancy just about getting with his new girl b/c he cheated on me with her. i know he has a right to know but i dont know why he acts like he doesnt care. i know that he doesnt but all he cared about was getting a new girlfriend and i was worried about being pregnant. he was out doing whatever he wanted and i was at home. does anyone have any suggestions?
2006-07-17 15:09:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I would tell him that you misscarried.
My reasoning behind telling him is that I would be worried that he thought you lied about being pregnant.
It sounds like this guy isnt the most wonderful man in the world. Mourn your loss of child but celebrate that he is not in your life anymore and find someone who cares about you.
2006-07-17 15:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to move on and accept he was not the one for you. If you telll him you miscarried he may think you lied about being pregnant, if you don't tell him and he never ask he never CARED what happend to you or the child. You lose either way. He has moved on care free no strings you should do the same LET THIS GO. You did not cause the loss you did not cause him to be dumbas*. Make a better choice in the future and DON'T get pregnant untill you know you and the father will parent the kid together.
2006-07-17 22:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through. I've never had a miscarriage, so I can't really say I know how you're feeling right now. If you want to tell your ex-boyfriend to possibly hurt him and make him feel bad, don't. If he truly didn't care that you were pregnant, if you tell him you miscarried the baby and he acts very nonchalant, or says something hurtful, then it's going to make you even more upset. Try to forget about him and move on.
2006-07-18 00:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a POS if he left a girlfreind while she was pregnant. I'd say don't tell him anything untill he grows the cahuna's to ask you about. Believe me, if he knows you've been pregnant and did that, his only concert will that you're gonna sue him for child support. So Just let him go on being nervous about that until he asks you. He deserves to sweat it for a while. Sadly, you having a miscarriage will probably be a relief to him. After what he's put you through, he deserves the anxiety of wondering how he's gonna pay child support for a while.
2006-07-17 22:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel like you need to tell him, and he has been acting this way, don't get your hopes up for a lot of sympathy.
Just tell him what happened, but do it as though you don't need him to comfort you, which I hope you don't. Find a loved one or friend to give you the support you need through this difficult time, and if he needs comfort let him get it from another source as well.
This is not the kind of guy you want to have ties to, he probably wouldn't have been there for you during this pregnancy and beyond anyhow.
I am sorry for your loss, good luck.
2006-07-17 23:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, just forget about the guy. My sympathies go to you on the miscarriage. On the other hand, you no longer have any reasons (e.g. future child) to be connected to this jerk for 18+ years. Take some time to yourself, then start dating again when you feel comfortable. You'll find a guy who you deserve and treats you right, and will want to have kids with you.
2006-07-17 22:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by sunshinegrover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Regardless of whether you wanted this baby or not, it is a loss. I know how it feels. Take comfort in knowing that you have no ties to this loser anymore. I would cut my losses and move on to someone who loved and respected me. There are those men out there. If he asks about the pgcy, tell him the truth, but if he doesn't care, don't run to him to inform him. Obviously, he's not concerned. Move on...love and hugs to you...
2006-07-17 22:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by SAHM2_1B_1G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell the father. I had kinda same situation. If you tell him and he doesn't care, you're gonna hurt yourself again.
this is the time to have your own time and make lots of lots of girlfriends. your friends will help you more than the father.
forget about him and move on... talk to girlfriends... keep yourself busy. you'll find a much better person. i wish you the best.
2006-07-17 22:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by makerunanrk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, he dont give a **** about you....why are you going to make yourself feel bad by telling him and seeing that he doesn't care? Dont give him this power...move on
I would like to ask you for a favor, however....could you say something to the girls of the world about premarital, unprotected sex? I think you have learned a lot, and It would be great if you could share it with other chicks that might be in a similar situation
2006-07-17 22:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of yourself! don't worry about telling him, if he was concerned then he would at least be calling to check on you, at least from time to time...it's honestly time for you to deal with what's been going on, and do what makes you better! u should know u deserve better than this, talk to ur friends and family to work this out!
2006-07-17 22:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋