my mom said she would pay for the plane ticket, but he still says no because he dosnt think my mom is a good mother and he says he dosnt "want me to get hurt again" or whatever but i desperatly want to see my mom and im about to take a godam taxi to the airport and just leave (only in my fantisies).
2006-07-17 15:03:21 · 22 answers · asked by kiss the cook 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell him that by him not letting you go that he is doing more harm because he is pushing you towards the very person he wants to keep you away from.
2006-07-17 15:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Your dad has obviously got some concerns about you seeing her. His opinion that she isn't a good mom may just be anger, but he seems to have a valid point about you getting hurt again. Is he right in his concern? If you want to go see her, you need to convince him that there is nothing she can do or say that will hurt you anymore than not being able to see her. That is, assuming that it is true. He also might be concerned that your mom won't send you back. That is a valid concern. If his concerns about your mom's responsibility are real, he has a right and a responsibility to make sure you are safe. What do the courts say? Is there any chance your mom could fly here to see you since your dad doesn't trust her? I know it must be hard to understand, but if he doesn't let you go, I think you have to trust him. It sounds like he loves you a lot and wants the best for you.
2006-07-17 22:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by wolfmusic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the custody order. If your father has sole custody with no visitation rights, then there may be a reason that you are not aware of that the court system does not allow her to visit.
On the other hand, if there is a custody order and she has visitation rights, it is up to your mom to enforce those rights by taking your dad back to court and demanding she see you.
It is your mothers place to fight this battle, not yours. Please have a talk with your dad - a calm talk without getting mad at him and you may found out more to why he doesn't want you to see her. It's only natural you want to see your mom, but often there is a lot more going on that the adults are not telling you.
Depending on the state you live in, there are specific visitation guidelines that both parents must comply with. The fact that your father has custody of you means that the courts felt pretty strongly that your mother could not take care of you properly, because 95% of the time the courts ALWAYS rule in favor of the mother - even in some pretty dire circumstances.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 22:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off. If your having this problem I'm guessing your under 18. And if you run away and go see her like some people are suggesting is really dumb! what if something happens to you. Just up and going is only gonna make the situations worse. I mean I have no clue what you should do! And I know your probaly like then why are you on here! Cause I don't know why I'm on here!
2006-07-17 22:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't your mom come see you, if she's gonna pay for a plane ticket why can't she be the one who does the flying?Your Dad loves you and he only wants whats best for you, and he may know things about your mom you don't, he has known her longer than you!But he definitely shouldn't keep you from her completely! Ask if she can come to you!!If your Dad doesn't trust her that seems like it would be the best scenario!
2006-07-17 22:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by amd730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
need more of the back story to give an appropriate answer...just cause someone gave birth does not mean they are a mother. Just a careful observation of life, nothing personal.
How 'bout mom comes to your area and arrange a safe meeting?
2006-07-17 22:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by someonesomewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could take someone else with you that your dad trusts (I don't suggest taking your dad cause it seems like your parents don't get along) so he won't feel it's risky. And the part about doesn't want you to get hurt might be valid, cause I don't know your situation, but it sounds like he at least cares about your feelings. However, she is your mom and you definitely deserve to be able to see her, etc., cause she has just as much right as your dad does. Maybe talk it over with your dad, again, or I suggest getting someone else to talk to him for you.
2006-07-17 22:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to ur dad "exactly" how you feel. that you really feel the need to see and get to know your mom on your own. ask him to really explain why you cannot go, maybe he has a VERY good reason! it's sooooo hard!!! but i also don't know the whole situation here either, but i do know that it's best to really and truly talk things out, and get everything out in the open.
take care, and good luck to ya
2006-07-17 22:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Ryans mom
2006-07-17 22:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by s. life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to imagine a parent not allowing there child to see thier other parent, but it does happen. perhaps he has good reason. try to get an aunt or uncle(on dad's side) to look at the entire situation and help your dad see you need to see your mother even if supervised.
2006-07-17 22:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by tall5562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋