she has serious issues. she won't let my brother spend time with his family. we've always been extremely close, but i haven't really spent much time with him in the past three years. he hasn't even met my 6 month-old son yet, and my poor mother hasn't met her 2 year-old grandson yet. she won't see my mother, and she doesn't like for any of us to visit. And get this . . . she's about to become a preacher! Considering how close all of us sisters are to my brother, what should I do? I've been so "understanding" for the past years, but I'm tired of my kids not getting to know their cousins, and I miss my brother.
2006-07-17 15:03:20 · 8 answers · asked by mamabird 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Contact your brother and tell him to grow some balls.
2006-07-17 15:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with them some. You brother needs to stand tall, and let his wife know she can't go giving orders. She gets to see hers, then he has the right to go see his. There nothing worse then a woman scorn. He needs to put on some ear plugs, and head out to visit his family.
For her being a preacher, or becoming a preacher. She needs to read the bible more, before spreading God word to everyone else. Slave days are over, but she is walking over him like a door mat.
Your borther had three yaers, where he could had done something about her. But instead he wasted thoses years hiding up her skirt tail. Three years, where he could had spend with his family. One day your here , and the next we are leaving on the next soul train out.
I see that, she needs a taste of her own meds. Then again, their marriage could be so bad. That she threat to keep the kids if he did leave. If I was him, I would leave and try my damnest to take the kids.
What goes around comes around. She will get what coming to her. Might not be soon, could be later on. But when it ever hits her. She would know what a pain in the ***, she was to everyone.
2006-07-17 23:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice for you is to stop understanding in think. Your son, if you keep going on like this, will not know his Uncle. Your mother will not know her Godson.
And thats not all really, by continuing like this, your letting your brother be the submissive one. Im not saying you should go over they and force him into anything, but you should try everything you got to have a family.
If you want him in your life, your growing family's life, and your poor mothers life, you need to step up.
Stop understanding and do something. Let it be that you send a long, very long email, in which you tell him everything thats going on, everything that he has missed, that you miss him, your mother misses him, send him pictures of the past 3 years, and just get him involved.
If you cant do that. Mail him. Call him. Go over to his Place. His work.
You have spent 3 yrs respecting her wishes, now its time for her to respect yours. And if she wont, they you wasted your time being kind to her. She isnt worth the politeness if she isnt willing to be polite back.
Do what you have to do and dont let something like this go on.
2006-07-17 22:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something was said or done that your sister does not approve of . I have not talked to family members for years at a time for things that they have done or said to me. You can try and try to get them to be apart of the family again , but all this is going to do is annoy them. Just wait until they come to you . I hope everything works out for all of you ! :) If you do what KING says you will only cause more problems ! They will never let you be involved with them again. If you let them alone they will come to you. What you can do is send them birthday, Christmas and all of the other holiday cards. And always tell them how much you all love and miss them....If that does not work than nothing will ! If there is something that was said or done to offend them you need to figure out what it was and apologize for it .
2006-07-17 22:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never win a fight between yourself and your brother's wife. He will always take her side. Talk to him privately, if possible, on the phone or whatever, and bring up how much you miss him, how you'd love to introduce his nephew, etc, but don't bring up the issue of his wife. I have this same issue in my family, and antagonizing the in-law, even accidentally, makes things a 100 times worse. Appeal to his family-side, but gently. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 22:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Randi L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yell at her say your going to be a preacher to god and you wont let her husband to see his family god will look down on her ask her why is she such a biatch about your brother and the rest of the family maybe shes jelious dont keep quiet show emotion tear up and tell her how you feel
2006-07-17 22:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by jettalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your sister-in-law, it's your brother. He could change it if he wanted to bad enough
2006-07-17 22:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her she need to move the hell away that is my ****** brother bicth and i won't to spend time wit him to back the **** off just like that
2006-07-17 22:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by lASHAUN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋