I went back to work after staying at home with my little boy for over a year and I know he is safe and sound with his babysitter, in fact, he doesn't even cry for me, but I missed him so much today and he wouldn't take a nap at the babysitters so he decided to nap when I picked him up, and I woke him up so I could spend some time with him. Should have I just let him sleep? He was really happy to see me today, which made my day 100 times better, but how long will it take for us to get used to this new situation? I don't like missing my little boy. Do any other moms miss their kids when they have to work?
2006-07-17 15:00:40 · 14 answers · asked by tricksy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Kudos to you for actually missing your child. Too many parents use work to escape parenting. No, you probably shouldn't have woken him, kids need sleep time. The babysitter needs to make sure his nap-time is before you pick him up. Letting them get into the habit of no naps or late naps is a bad idea.
Hopefully, you won't get "use" to missing him. That's a bad sign. I didn't go to work until my youngest was in kindergarten. I felt terrible about it, and I still do...he's 34.
2006-07-17 15:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a mom for 27 years and have been a home daycare provider for almost 20 years. Anytime your routine changes, it takes time for both you and your child to adjust. How long the adjustment period is will depend a lot on both you and your son's personalities. Your little one will take some of his cues from you as well. If you seem anxious, worried, upset, or sad when you pick him up or drop him off, he will tend to pick up some of those feelings as well. Waking him up to spend time with him is perfectly understandable and as long as he wasn't overly tired or cranky because of it, it was perfectly OK for you to do. I wouldn't make it a habit to wake him up too much though, as he does need his rest. I have worked with many parents over the years and most, if not all, have gone through a time of really missing their kids while they were away from them. Most adjusted within a few weeks, but some moms just could not leave their kids and opted to be stay-at-home moms. It should make your day go better knowing that your son is at a daycare that you are comfortable with and trust. You both will adjust, give it time.
2006-07-17 22:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I missed my kids so much I quit working and stay at home. Although there are days I wish I could leave, I wouldn't trade it for the world. So what if my husband and I can't afford to go on vacations or out to fancy restuarants? We have kids who know who we are, and we're raising our kids, not the babysitter. I think it is fine if you wake up your son to play with him, you're Mom and I'm sure he loves spending time with you
2006-07-17 22:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gets easier on them with time, but it never quite gets easier on all of us. Some people adjust quickly, making new friends, having adults to talk to, other never quite feel comfortable being away from our kids like that. I just had my 3rd child she is now 16 months old, and although money is tight i opted not to return back to work for a while longer at least.
2006-07-17 22:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always miss him no matter how long you go to work. That is part of being a mother. Don't feel bad about waking him up I do the same thing.
2006-07-17 22:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by s. life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm not a mom yet i'm only 15. but what my parents said about this stuff is that, it mite be weird at frist going back to work and thinking about ur son. but u will get use to it sooner or later. dont worry and good luck =) oh i would have let him sleep. onless the baby gets up on this own.
2006-07-17 23:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by katt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does get easier. Be so thankful that he does not give you a hard time about leaving. I believe I would ask the sitter to be more insistent about is nap time so you could have more time with him.
2006-07-17 22:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard, but you adapt because you have to. I have three and thankfully I have my Mom keeping them while I work. It was still hard leaving them at first. Each one was difficult to leave, but as I said, you learn to adapt. Don't beat yourself with the guilt stick. Don't let the guilt consume you.
2006-07-17 22:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it gets easier although I am not sure that any mother
would claim that they were used to it.
However, as soon as it gets easier, you get to feel guilty
about the fact that it got easier.
Mothers have an entertaining life...
2006-07-17 22:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get used to it. Neither will he. It will scar you both forever. Quit your job and spend your time raising your child.
2006-07-17 22:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by poecile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋