I love my fiance' very much. I just wish he would initiate sex a little more. How do I get him to do so?
2006-07-17 15:00:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say one of the first things you need to find out is why your hubbies masturbating in the shower. Do you deny sex when your menstruating that could be one answer? Did you try to seduce him before you caught him and he was turned on but truly needed a shower? Is he a 2-minute man? By that I mean is he quick to get off when your making love. If so that could be the reason for him getting himself off before hand, so he could last longer during sex. You may have taken what you saw as a guy getting himself off as a sign that he didn't want you. Do you shower together? If not jump in with him and YOU masturbate him and don't let him stop you until you get him off. If you've never done this before you will need to communicate with him so he can tell you how he likes it. I find it most enjoyable if she is behind me and that also gives me the right angle to touch her. Don't assume that you can just grab it and yank it a few times and that’s going to get him off. Then take him to the bedroom or wherever and talk to him until he takes his towel off then walk up to him and tell him how much you enjoyed getting him off. Take a look and see if he's at all excited by your closeness. Tell him how much you would like it if he would masturbate you. Teach him how to touch you and be sure you communicate with him during the whole thing. If he gets you off then great if not have him finish you off orally or with penetration.
Your Question; Phone sex is great if you can get away with it at work. Meet for lunch and tell him that you'll be waiting for him at home at a specific time. Tell him as graphically as you can how he will find you lying on the bed naked with your legs spread wide open. How you will have your eyes closed or have a folded damp washcloth over your eyes so you won’t be able to see anything. Tell him how you will be masturbating to the thought of him peeking like some voyeur around the almost closed door and watching you. Tell him you want him to watch you! Tell him you want him to masturbate while he watches you. Put on an ipod or CD's with soft sexy music on so you don't hear him getting home. As he watches you be sure to say in a loud enough voice how you wish he was touching you and using his tongue on you and how he loves the taste of your sweetness. Build up to your orgasm slow enough so he can keep up with you. The closer you get the louder you get until you reach your orgasm. Be sure to use lots of graphic language as your getting close and as you orgasm. If he were not outside your door with a blown knob then I would think twice about your future. Because after writing this I need to..... Ohhhh honey, could you come here I have something to show you. HeHeHe
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2006-07-18 02:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Plantoneonme 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Well, have you tried the usuals? You know, the sexy clothes, strip tease, romantic dinner, skin flicks. The problem may be that he is tired and does not have the energy for sex, especially if you try to get him in bed around bedtime. Try early morning sex before he goes off to work. Also try to wake him in the morning with some oral sex, never met a guy who said no to that. Try cuddling with him and slowly turn it into something more. Hope this helps.
2006-07-17 15:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really! I'm almost always ready if approached, and I'm an old fart, but I am shy about initiating "all the time"
So, if you are interested you should let him know. Kiss him on the neck and growl in his ear. If that doesn't work try one the more adventurous suggestions above, including the Dr.
Good luck
2006-07-17 15:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have physical issues, which he'd need to discuss with his doctor. But one thing you could do is to find out what arouses him and don't be afraid to try initiating things. Make sure your relationship is healthy in all other areas also, of course. Good luck!
2006-07-17 15:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by James F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you leave the bedroom to get ready for bed return to the room naked and let him take it from there...after he drives you wild tell him while you are laying there cuddling that you love making love with him and you'd love to have him take the first step more often...tell him some things you'd like him to do...you'd like him to walk in on you in the shower...you'd like him to unleash passion in the middle of the day on the living room couch...you'd like him to walk up behind you while you are doing the dishes and please you right there in the kitchen...set the stage and get him to realize you love the way he makes love to you and you want more of it!! Good luck!! I wish you were mine because we wouldn't have this problem...I'd drive you wild and cause you to want more!!
2006-07-17 15:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try initiating it yourself; and try making it worthwhile. Come on to him when he get's home so he's in the mood.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 15:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attitude and apperance babe
wear something sexy but still play hard to get.
It will drive him wild.
2006-07-17 15:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Javon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is written that he always has to initiate it.
2006-07-17 15:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time your in the mood and hes not just start sucking his c*** hell come around works for me
2006-07-17 15:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by wanabmilf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip some Viagra in his drink. :)
2006-07-17 15:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋