We have not even been together for 3 months and she is already talking about marriage & having kids. And she is already saying "i love u" to me but i dont exactly feel the same way yet.
I dont know what happened because she was really cool in the beginning. She was like my best friend. I thought she wanted to take it slow like i did. But all of a sudden she is talking like we're gonna be together forever!!!!
pls help me!!! give me some advice on how to deal with a crazy gf
2006-07-17 14:45:52 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to keep up.
2006-07-17 14:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends more if you’re like 21 and have a good job go for it,
If your still finishing high school, and working burger king. Then sadly the feeling will die down and mass break up, because she just got hitched with the high schools jock that might get the NFL state scholarship and lots of money. Then again if you are both happy where you at in life right now, and feel that both are willing to stick together no matter what then go for it!
Remember +love and marriage is grand, but divorce is a 100 grand + lawyer fees!
Choose wisely!!! ;)
2006-07-17 15:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi since I am a girl I can relate. Girls get attached to nice guys very easily. I think you need to sit down with your g/f and tell her you want to take things slow and really get to know each other, but at the same time don't lead her to believe you don't like her. I hope I could help.
2006-07-17 14:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, woman are complicated. If she wants marriage and kids this soon, she is either young or hasn't had many relationships. If it was me I would explain to her that it take time to get to know a person in and out. You don't want to find out she has some thing that you may not agree with in the future that could hamper the relationship.
2006-07-17 14:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by shawn s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is to talk to her... tell her although you have strong feelings for her, you arent ready to be talking marriage and stuff, and let her know that it makes you uncomfortable... if you dont tell her, it will create distance between you as well as resentment in you.... you don't want that... tell her you need to go slower...
if she doesnt get that, then you two certainly arent meant to be together in the way she is thinking...
if you started out as friends, then you should be able to tell her that your crazy about her, but you arent ready for the long term stuff yet and her talking about it makes you really uncomfortable, and you would like to back up a little and move slower...
she should respect that...
2006-07-17 14:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Resasour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Explain that you think things are moving a little too fast, and while you don't want to break up, you just want to maybe take it a bit slower, and just have fun for now. If you think she's noticed that you don't say you love her back, say something about that too, like that while you don't love her now, it might develop eventually, it's just been too soon to have that strong of a feeling for her. If she freaks out or can't handle that, you might need to break up with her.
2006-07-17 14:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you aren't the kind of guy who moves that fast - that you care about her and all and things COULD get heavier but just not yet. Tell her that you take relationships seriously and that means not moving too fast because that can lead to a break up and you don't want that to happen.
2006-07-17 14:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either try to keep at her pace or tell her to slow down, shes moving to fast. That can hut a relationship like crazy. Im no Dr. Phil but to me thats common sense.
2006-07-17 14:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholas Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.... This is Kinda Tuff.If your Girlfriend is moving to fast. There are basically 3 ways to handle this. Tell her your moving a little fast for me... Or You can always Dump her. Third Just go along with it....? It is Tuff. but You can handle just do what you think is right.
2006-07-17 14:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Tiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda did something like that..not quite the marriage and kids bit..but me and bf both want to go slow..and girls get caught up in the emotions and the tra la la..and it's hard to keep it in check...
my bf just reminded me in a sweet way...while he was holding me in his arms..that he wanted to slow down..take baby steps and make sure the whole relationship is good and learn about each other ..
it'll be fine....she'll see it's the best thing.
2006-07-17 14:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, communication, communication...if you can't talk to one another, then the relationship isn't going to go too far anyway...talk to her...tell her how you feel...three months isn't really long enough to know that you want to marry someone and spend a significant chunk of your life with them...
If things don't change after you talk...then cut her loose...y'all aren't on the same page and if she's going to push for what she wants, knowing you aren't ready, then y'all aren't a good match anyway...
Good luck!
2006-07-17 14:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋