When I was in 9th grade I had a crush on someone that I was friends w/. I asked out and didn't work. We went back and forth about being friends or dating and normal drama of teenagers. Basicly we are friends today but not very close. We have lots of history and I know that I still compare all the girlfriends and girls I have ever liked or dated to her.
My question is after so many years (8 years) later how do I stop wanting to go out with her or hook up? how do I get over her and stop compareing everyone else to her?
If u need more info on the relationship I can give a little but it is a complicated thing.
2006-07-17 14:43:53 · 10 answers · asked by DB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let her go. trying to be friends with her is just an attempt to keep you going on. Let her go completely. You don't want someone else to be like her either..remember, she doesn't want you. That's not to be mean. It is reality. It isn't fair to judge others against her. You are not even giving anyone else a chance to get to know you and to get to know them. Who knows how many great girls you may have already passed on because you are still focused on this girl. But to answer the question: you have to let go and cut all ties you have with this girl. You deserve to have love, to give love and receive it. Let someone else in, you might be pleasantly suprised. Good luck.
2006-07-17 14:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by lighthouse444 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Have someone you can bounce things off (a good friend--not dating material). Dwelling on it won't do you a bit of good. Trust me. It can even turn dangerous for one or both of you.
Sometimes it turns out that you end up together in the end, but usually you will come to find that someone more wonderful will come along and you'll wonder what the heck you were thinking. It happened to me!
2006-07-17 14:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by LastNerveLost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all sweetie you sound pretty desperate but what you gotta do is you have to let her know or make her think that you are not interested I know thats hard to do im doing that now with A guy I met. you got to just kinda play it off like your just friends but deep inside you like her but at the same time you have to go towards her and like make it seem as if you like her but do not make it obvious what ever you do pretend as if your over her and she will get kinda jelious of the fact that your not really interested and if shes interested than she will show it by get all dressed up and hot to impress you but when you go towards her and like kinda show that you still like her than you have to sit by her and talk alot thats how she gets the hint so just try that she will come around.
good luck
mink21
2006-07-17 14:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree with Alissa...
Take off your skirt, put on some pants, and get your new life started with new folks. It's almost impossible to be friends with ex's - it doesn't work. Put her aside and have fun.
2006-07-17 14:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by laramsfan1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time will heal . . .
But you need to accept the fact u are not together now and live ur lif. u will never find any1 if u keep up this fixation!
2006-07-17 14:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one, try to like her a lot. then, when u like her 2 much, u will start getting over it or try to get away from her
2006-07-17 14:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get over one, you need to get a better one!
2006-07-17 14:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by loudy_foudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never get over someone cuz u already gave a piece of ur heart to them...all u can do is get out to the dating world and experience wat life really has....
2006-07-17 14:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by Hidden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet other people. it may work.
2006-07-17 14:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love you man.
2006-07-17 14:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Becky Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋