but she is so defensive, sensitive and self conscious about her appearance. ever since she was about 19 months old, she has had an angry temperament. i have experienced verbal abuse of a child and this is just overwhelming for me. she doesnt like to be seen with me either, i am feeling like i have failed as a mother. I just cannot seem to reach her
2006-07-17 14:34:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just let it go. Don't give in. If she doesn"t want to be seen with you just don't go anywhere with her. She is grown enough to go alone. Whatever her problem is, she need to be respectful to you anyway. don't take any lip form her , put a stop to it now.
2006-07-17 14:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever put your foot down?
You were probably spoiling her and letting her do things you even consider inappropriate.
It's a shame that you can't be close to her. She's an adult now, and she will do whatever she wants now, with or without your permission.
Did you ever try to discipline her as a kid?
Did you ever try to weed out her friends, especially the bad influences?
I'm pretty sure that a professional can help with your problems, like counseling or psychotherapy. And if your daughter doesn't want to cooperate, then cut her loose(easier said than done for some)...if she can't respect and appreciate you that SHE even lived this long, you either give her an ultimatum or kick her out.
She could have mental and emotional problems, even an imbalance. Learn to put your foot down, better late than never.
2006-07-17 14:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to hate being seen with my mother. A couple years went by and now my mother is my idol. Your daughter might simply be going through a phase. I realized as I got older that my mother would sacrifice her own life to make me happy. I grew up to love her individuality. I would be a mess without her.
My advice is to give her time to realize how important you are to her. People take other people for granted in this day of age. I can imagine if you weren't in her life, she'd miss you like crazy. A bond between a mother & her child is the one bond on this earth that can never be broken. I'm more than positive she loves you. She probably just has a hard time expressing it.
2006-07-17 14:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by dorkybitca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 20 your daughter is trying to cut the apron strings & establish her own identity.
You're doing a good job with her, it's just this is the way of nature. A natural process. She still needs & loves you, but just as a support in the background now, not as in control of her life.
2006-07-17 14:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is doing well in life, good grades, going to college, etc. Then I say you did well. If her life is a mess, then perhaps you should have beat her more when she was younger. Personally, I don't see any problems about hitting children as a punishment method.
2006-07-17 14:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by trafficer21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,, ,mom..... look,,
I dont know but sounds like your daughter may be manic depressive....(no kidding).. there is something missing in these that are ,,, my wife,,, was like that when i knew her and we were teenagers.... just fly off for no reason... they call it bi polar also....
Get her checked out.... is my suggestion.....
good luck......
2006-07-17 14:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋