She is very shy and doesn't interact w/ people that much. So, we thought school may be beneficial for her in terms of socializing inthe outside world. She does talk and play and does many other things at home with us. We don't have family here and can't visit friends all the time. So, she doesn't get to see/meet/interact w/ people that much; in a way she sees her parents and babysitter only -- not even a babysitter anymore for mom is home for a couple of months now. When I leave her in the morning, she cries and holds on to me, and I wonder if I am putting her through a lot and maybe she is not ready for school yet. What should I do? Any suggestions? Thank you everyone for your responses/thoughts.
2006-07-17 14:33:58 · 20 answers · asked by Cor 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would not advise sending your daughter to a daycare program yet. You can socialize her to new settings and new people by taking her to toddler story-times offered by your local library. There she will be supported by your presence and exposed to other children. Because many of these programs are frequented by the same people, you will be able to establish relationships with the other mothers and fathers and their children with each visit. In so doing, your daughter will be able to connect with people she feels most comfortable. In time you should be able to arrange play dates with other children. For now, you'll want to reinforce positive behaviors exhibited by other children she meets; you can do so in a story-time setting. Also, the best of the story-times offered by libraries (and other organizations) will present great literature, oral stories, music and songs, and finger-plays that will benefit your daughter socially, emotionally, and intellectually. Ultimately, you and your spouse are the most critical people to your daughter at this point in her life. Moreover, if you want her to adopt the values, manners and ideas you hold dear then I would strongly suggest you preserve the chance to be around her as much as possible at this time. She has plenty of time to grow up and do the school thing, but there's no urgency to do so now.
2006-07-17 19:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by metimoteo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Mom should get a babysitter so she can go out occasionally, which you have the right to do, and also get the 2 yr old used to other people again. If nothing changes between now and 3, not sure it'll be any better than. Do both of you a favor.
Even better if you can find another Mom with the same problem. You give each other some time off and the kids have someone to interact with.
2006-07-17 21:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you considered just making play dates with a few children at a time? The jump between home, and playing with nobody, and jumping into a school full of kids, seems like a huge jump. I know socialization is important. However, I wonder if she would probably gain more from a smaller group situation anyway, and learning to share, take turns, not bite (whatever) could be taught I think even better within a small play group. I agree socialization is important though. But thats such a huge leap. Maybe once she learns to play nicely with a few kids at a time, then transition to school when she is just a little older (3 maybe). two is really little.
2006-07-17 21:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by ivehadit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest a Gymboree class or some type of parent/child class. Go with her and play with her and the other children. She will learn how to interact from you and the other kids.
There is nothing wrong with shyness. But, rudeness or bad behavior can and should be corrected.
If she is shy, being with you in a class setting will help her to reach out and feel safe. If after going to a few classes you still see her struggling to open up or make friends, then reevaluate.
Ideally it would be beneficial to have her regularly interacting with kids her age..like at church or at home, once she is ready. However, starting off with her going by herself to a class full of unknown people will be a shock.
Good luck to you as you search out what is best for your daughter.
2006-07-17 21:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should send her to day are so she can interact with other people and kids because u dont want her to grow up and not be used to people u will have a hard time with seperation. At first wen u send her to day care she will cry and hold on to you but after a week or two she will ease in . Im a mom also good luck just be strong she will be fine
2006-07-17 21:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by SImmone W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my son was the same way. I started sending him to school at 2.5 and it really made him open up. At first it was hard to leave him but after awhile he got used to it and so did I. She will be fine. Just make sure that you get daily reports from her teacher and that will let you know if she is okay. If you find that she really can't adjust then you might want to reconsider. This is not a long period of time that you are leaving her. As long as you make sure that she is in a safe and healthy environment she will be okay.
2006-07-17 21:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by s. life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Most 2 y/os are not ready to leave their Moms. The best plan: her Mom and her Dad each spend some time talking and interacting with HER directly each day. Playing silly games, reading to her, talking to her, going for walks and talking about what you see. Also, 2 y/os are not ready to interact with other children their age. They mainly play NEXT to each other.
2006-07-17 21:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to take her to a daycare, try a Family Daycare (you may find a list of them at your City Web page), they are run in a Family house, they have limited number of children (usually 6 - 10). This allows your baby to interact with other children while being in a family like place. She won't be expose to that many viruses you'll find in a regular daycare
2006-07-17 22:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by carolina n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should it would help her so much and you. She needs to know that when you leave her you are coming back all kids go threw this it is normal. She will do fine once she gets into the routine of school and it will be better for her in the long term. You too.
2006-07-17 21:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by rednickel525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! My son is the same age and he goes to a group daycare/preschool and it is great, he has learned a lot from the kids there, and a couple of bad things like picking your nose, but other than that he has done very well and enjoys it!
2006-07-20 19:44:53 · answer #10 · answered by jo27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋