ok so i live in a very very small house. my mom wants to move really bad and so does my my brother and me but my dad doesnt want to because he thinks that somethng might happen to him and then my mom would be stuck with all those bills of the new house. she doesnt work so she would have to get a job. but none of us are happy in this tiny house. the kitchen floor is coming apart, the bathroom is horrible and we dont even have tile floor! its like concrete or something. we really wanna move and we can afford it, my mom told me. and plus i saw the checkbook. (we can so afford it!) so does anyone have any advice on how i can convince my dad to move. nothing will happen to him, he's only 40 something. we all really want to move please help! my mom is miserable in this crappy house! any advice? please!!?
2006-07-17 14:28:37 · 8 answers · asked by here2help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we can afford it, trust me. i shop at places like hollister and A&F. we have 2 cars. we are not in debt. i know because the bills are in a place where everyone can see them and stuff. and my dad makes about 75 thousand a year, somewhere around there. help!
2006-07-17 14:34:50 · update #1
my dad smokes and has high cholesterol and but he eats healthy now and my mom cooks healthy.
2006-07-17 14:35:55 · update #2
and my mom DOES want to move really bad! i make very good grades and will probably get a scholorship.
2006-07-17 14:37:07 · update #3
i am 15 years old
2006-07-17 14:40:14 · update #4
i didnt just see the checkbook, my mom told me we can very well afford a new home. also this house is almost paid off.
2006-07-17 14:41:43 · update #5
********i just asked my mom if we have life insuranvce and she said yes, but after it is all gone and used up what will we do? its only so mucha dn she cannot make as much as my dad does************
2006-07-17 15:04:18 · update #6
just tell him how happy it will make you guys in a better home and good luck
2006-07-17 14:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by car4423 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can demonstrate the sincerity and commitment of your own position but assuring your father - even putting it in writing for him - that if anything goes wrong with the move or your family economic condition changes for the worse, you and your brother will get a job and help pay on the monthly payments. I don't know how old you are though. Keep in mind, that whatever you saw in the checkbook is not a good indicator that enough money will be available from month to month, year to year, to pay for the new place to live. More depends on what do you have in savings and how strong is your father's income to handle all the financial demands. What will you be willing to sacrifice in the name of saving money for the family?
2006-07-17 21:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well anything can always happen. Your father is choosing not to live for fear of death. I shouldn't cross the street I'll be hit by a car. Ask your dad to make a list of all the pros and cons of moving.. then each member of the family make their own list. Compare.. then come up with solutions to the cons. Mom will be stuck with huge bills.. perhaps look into life insurance, or rent instead of buy and then the family can always downsize if income becomes an issue. Remember to be respectful these are your parents and the final decision is theirs, listen and state your own opinions in a calm rational manner and tone.. If your parents respect your opinion and you make a good case.. perhaps things will work out in your benefit.. perhaps even in the entire family's benefit. :-)
I hope it goes well
2006-07-17 21:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably saving for yours and your brothers college education. This is her way of making sure there is enough money for the both of you. Just glancing at a check book is not sufficient enough evidence of real finances. If you are old enough go out and get a part time job for after school to help out. Maybe if she sees you are really trying to help your dad and mom might feel differently about moving sooner.
2006-07-17 21:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by SilverWolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a heavy burden for a kid! Does your dad have life insurance? When we got our mortgage we had to get life insurance on both of us. That way, should one of us die, the other won't be left without the means to pay the mortgage and other bills. Talk to your mom about this. Let her be the one to discuss it with your dad. Although I understand that you and your brother are unhappy in this house, and your mom too, these are things for the adults to work out. Maybe after your mom and dad talk they'll have a family meeting that includes you and your brother. God bless!
2006-07-17 21:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're Dad is so worried something might happen to him, hope he has a decent insurance policy (not that any of us want something to happen to him, but every father/husband should have insurance in case something DOES happen to him...you neve rknow).
I think your Mom is really, really going to have to keep working on him until she can convince him that you ALL need to move to a bigger, nicer place... until that happens, you're probably stuck where you are...
2006-07-17 21:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see moving can be a good thing but cant u just fix it up a bit so your dad don't have to worry of high bills
just a thought
2006-07-17 21:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to convince your dad thats hes completely healthy, and nothing bad will happen if you were to get a larger home, if this lasts longer n stuff. itl proly just make everything worsen if you keep this up
2006-07-17 21:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋