I really need sibling help?

Question

My brother is a real pain in the a**. One minute he wants me to come and watch TV with him then the next minute I am in my room while he is throwing stuff at my door and constantly beating on the door. He is always lying to my mom about the stuff I do. I try to tell him if all he wants is for me to spend time with all he has to do is ask. He does and I do try to spend time with him. He told me that he likes it when i do spend time with him. So why is it that every time I leave he has to throw a fit like a little 2 year old. Another example is we don't have a seperate line for the internet so he wanted to call EB Games but he didn't want to use the cell phone(which was in our moms room upstairs) so then he starts throwing his stuff at me.
Please give me any advice you can to help me deal with him.

Answer 1

Sounds like a younger sibling. Also sounds like you are quite a bit older than he, or is it his behavior? Sorry, it got away from me. I'm a big sis and my little sis is 7 years younger than me. I had flashbacks when I read your question. Seriously, you have two choices: 1) buck it and take it, or, 2) talk to your mom, She is your best ally. She loves both of you and will help you work this out.

The other thing, just remember that he is most likely just trying to get your attention and just doesn't know how to express himself. Siblings are funny that way. And no matter how irate and insane he makes you he is your brother. I love my little sister although she still drives me insane. She's 27, by the way. It never goes away. The topics just go from video games to house payments. She calls me like 3 times a day, but when she was gone to Europe for 6 weeks a couple months ago, I actually missed the calls. Silly, I know, but she's my sis and I love her.

Love conquers all, even nutty siblings.

Answer 2

It seems your brother has some issues with you. One minute he wants your attention, the next minute he is aggressive towards you. I would suggest talking with your brother, in a neutral place...like, maybe, take a walk with him when he is in a good mood and ask him what is up. Don't try to figure out the problem when he is already upset; he won't be thinking straight and you won't get a good answer out of him. The best time is when you approach him while he is busy doing something else. Tell him again that that you enjoy spending time with him, but you're trying to figure out why he is so angry at you. Tell him you'll do what it takes to make it okay, but he needs to talk with you concerning his true feelings.

Answer 3

it would help to know how old you and your brother are.

but , without that, your brother is frustrated, lonely, or bored, maybe even scared, and doesn't know a healthy ( or quiet) way to express that.


also, he has learned that throwing stuff at the door and beating on the door gets him noticed - it gets him what he wants.


ADVICE: re-train him ( and you) so that you reward him for doing more mature things, and you ignore (or don't notice or don't reward OR punish him) for beating on the door.


Depending on how old he is, you might be able to work out an agreement so that you would leave the door open in certain hours, but you would have it closed certain other hours, and he would agree not to beat on the door.

Answer 4

Is he younger, sounds like it. Walk away, walk away in front of parents, talk to Mom just like on hre and tell her honestly, quietly without yelling, or write your Mom a letter.

Answer 5

I think you should talk to your mom just like you come on here and asked.

Answer 6

*Ignore him. Probably one reason he wants to bug you is because he enjoys seeing your reaction. If you don't give him the reaction he wants, he'll stop.

It doesn't work for everyone but it works.

Answer 7

do your parents get involved. sounds like they need to.