i am a teen mum happy to be but i feel frowned upon any one else get that?

Answer 1

i had my first child when i was 16 and i felt the same way, but i didnt let that bother me, i made a mistake but i felt as least i was mature enough to take the responsiblity of my actions, and i was a good mother and that is all that matters. i didnt care what other ppl thought about me and i still dont. as long as your happy and your child is well taken care of and happy that is all you should be concerned about.. good luck

Answer 2

To be honest that's just the way the world is and will continue to be. People these days like to think there on a higher level than others. People might think there better because they have good jobs, money, older when they had there kids etc. But they obviously were not taught manners to see everyone as equals. so what if your a teen mum, it doesn't mean your going to take care and love your child any less than a mother of 35 would. I wish people would stop being so judgemental, at the end of the day were all going the same place in life, just on a different route.

Answer 3

The people that frown upon it are stupid. I frown upon teen moms that aren't responsible. If a teen mom isn't on welfare, takes care of her child, supports the baby financially, emotionally and physically then she can't be all that bad. I get dirty looks sometimes when I'm out with my children. I'm 20 with 2 girls who are 15 months and 27 months. I'm still with their father, not on welfare, a high school graduate, and I'm going back to college next year. I don't htink it's anyone's business what
goes on in my life. They aren't paying my way so it shouldn't matter.

Answer 4

I wasn't a teen mother, but i know that they are frowned upon, and I think that's awful. Who decided that just because your age ends with a 'teen' you shouldn't be a mom?
I think that as long as you and your baby are happy and healthy it shouldn't matter how old you are and other people should be less judgmental.
Be proud of who you are, and good luck with the future :)

Answer 5

I give teen moms a lot of credit. A good friend of mine is 16 and her baby is almost 2. She goes to school works her *** off and gets no help from her baby's father. Teen moms are brave souls but even if you are a little older it doesn't get any better. I am nineteen and pregnant now with my first. People give me dirty looks all the time and I hear a lot of sh*t like "Why aren't you going to marry the guy who did this to you" and blah blah blah.. If you are brave enough to keep a baby and do it all alone than you deserve more credit than anyone..

Answer 6

I was young when I had my first, I'm now 40 years old, looking back it was very hard on me, when all my friends was having fun and I was either working, going to school or taking care of him. it put alot a strain on the marraige, because I was trying to grow-up as well. My advice to you is to not look at them as frowns but understanding of what lies ahead, it is tough but you will get through it. I was growing as my children,( I had more later at a young age) We are all very close and have a strong love for one another, and All my children now are in the teenage years and I'm a young mom and able to keep up with them, for the most part. Live gives you what you can handle, remember to enjoy all your child delivers because he/she will grow up sooner than you can beleive it. Enjoy all. If you are proud then let is show. others are jealous.

Answer 7

I had my daughter at 17 (i`m 30 now) but the comments i used to get really hurt and made me more determined to prove people wrong.Now i get comments on how well i have raised my daughter and what a polite and respectful child she is.It`s all worth it but i would like my daughters to wait now and to stay in school make something of themselves,have a life first before they have children,if i had my time again i`d have waited a couple of years at least but it certainly wouldnt have changed the way i raised my children.all the best xxx

Answer 8

i'm 24 and that i've got a 2 365 days previous and Im pregnant with my 2nd, i've got been married for 5 years(sure i replace into married at 19) yet I bear in mind feeling the comparable way you do!!! I have been given a activity working at a daycare middle and that i babysat perpetually, human beings could question me what i had to do with my existence and that i could continuously say i could no longer wait to be a mom. as quickly because it replace into the "clever" element to do, my husband and that i had our first newborn....I only think of a few everyone seems to be meant to be mum and dad!!!... as long as you wait till you're waiting for infants and you end college(which includes college) and do each little thing you may desire to do to coach your self for a newborn and prepare your self to furnish the newborn the final you may, there is no longer something incorrect with desiring a touch one!!! only confirm you do it the main appropriate way and interior the recommend time savor being youthful, take great component approximately all existence has to furnish you and bear in mind there is often time for toddlers later!!!

Answer 9

i had my first baby when i was 16 and my second when i was 18. I am married to thier dad and i still get judged. The best thing to do is ignore these people. I know it is hard but they dont know what type of mum you are. They are probably just jealous.

Answer 10

I was 21 when i had my daughter, everytime I went into town, the old ladies would automatically look for a ring on my left hand. I just shrugged it off. I dont' know what their problems are. If your responsible enough and happy, thats all that matters!

Answer 11

in this society, having a child too young is viewed as taboo by some. i look young for my age. i'm married with a son. when i was pregnant, my fingers got swollen and my wedding band didn't fit. girl, i got some funky looks from people (with me looking like a teenage mom-to-be). when i began to wear my wedding band again, going outside with my son wasn't such an event anymore. people were more polite, and respetful. that was lacking when the ring was missing and my young face didn't reflect my age. it's a horrible feeling to be viewed that way.

p.s congradulations on your pregnancy and good luck to you.