when im on the phone with my boyfriend i tell him i love him before we hang up. mydad starts yelling at me and saying that im too young to know what love is. how can i try to make him understand that i do love my boyfriend?
2006-07-17 12:48:16 · 22 answers · asked by cheesepoofer182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they will never understand or believe u until u are at their standard of the appropriate age to say that cuz my parents do it to. they did it to my sister and now they do it to me. its just a thing they do. they dont want us to say it cuz they think once ur older u really understand it. but they dont understand the newer generation we already have to cope with things that are much worse than saying i love you to ur bf we understand it. they dont get it. its just a thing all parents do, nothing we can do about it but say it within a range of where they cant hear you.
2006-07-17 12:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad means well. You don't state your age but I'm guessing you're young. You do have a right to your feelings and if you think you're feeling love, then good for you. Your dad has years of experience behind him, however, and he probably just wants to make sure you understand what love is. Not validating your feelings is a poor way for him to go about it, but I think what Dad means here is that years from now, you might look back on this relationship and realize you weren't truly in love. It happened to me many, many times. But you and only you can assess that when the time comes. Good luck.
2006-07-17 12:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how old you are. I am guessing a teenager. It also seems that your dad is afraid to lose his little girl by hearing her say she loves her boyfriend.
And as far as your dad goes I don't think anyone is too young to know what love it. But that doesn't mean you aren't too young to be in a relationship. There is a difference.
If it bothers your dad soo much then you should probably refrain from telling your boyfriend that you love him when your dad is around.
2006-07-17 12:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe explain to him that what u feel is what u feel a lot of parents dont want there babies to grow up no matter how old they get and love can mean a lot of different things. I mean most people do not find their true love until they are older but how can u not know what u want in life if u dont go out and experiment and u may love him right now but maybe your dad is afraid that your bf is going to hurt you i mean men are real good at that and he dont wanna see his baby go through that pain i mean talk to him about it and how u feel towards your bf and listen to what he has to say.
2006-07-17 12:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move out of mom & dads house.move in with your boyfriend. this will show your dad that you really do have strong feeling for him.and you will not have to say it over the phone.but your dad is just worried that his little girl is growing up too fast.when he was your age,the only time you told someone that you loved them is if you were going to have sex with them.so he thinks that maybe you are thinking about having sex with this guy.how does your dad like your boyfriend?guys now what other guys want from young girls like you.and if i was your dad i would probably be the same way. good luck with your problem.hope this helps.
2006-07-17 13:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called "puppy love".....that's all. You can show your parents by respecting them and knowing that they want the best for you. But, I have to say, I detect that they are a bit dysfunctional since your father is "yelling" at you for something like that! So, sweetie.......stop saying it when you are on the phone.......Mommy and Daddy are listening.....make your life more tolerable. If you "love" someone, you don't always have to be saying it.....actions speak louder than words.
2006-07-17 12:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell the truth.. u wouldnt be able to but its not them that is in love so dont worry about them. If saying i love u to ur boyfriend infront of ur parents is hard them make up a code name for it like "skittles" or rainbowgum drops" something randon and unquie that only u and him would no what means
2006-07-17 12:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by bignbeautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with your parents. Tell them how you feel about them making unappropriate comments. They'll let you know why they do. Being too young is not the best excuse... you can be young and in love! Talk to them!
2006-07-17 12:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Dads will thing there little girls are always too young..Thats our right as your Dad.. Now I never did ask how old are you., that could be a big part of it..Get smart and dont do it when hes there.. Dont quite know what to tell you... ROB
2006-07-17 12:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a dad that's losing his little girl. Try to talk to him and make him understand. If that doesn't work, show him. Just remember that your dad loves you and is just trying to cope with the fact that you are growing up!!!
2006-07-17 12:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋