Guys like to play games; they like you (and you know it because your friends tell you he said so), you start dating , get intimate, he stops calling frequently, and when you don’t answer the phone anymore like you used to he goes crazy. I like him, and want to have a serious relationship with him... But he is acting weird. I don't understand. And I'm not a teenager.
2006-07-17 12:46:54 · 19 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Flashback to my relationship two years ago.
Boys will be boys and as much as they say women play games, they play them just as hard, and inconsistantly as we do.
This is the EXACT thing that happened to me... got together.. got intimate... and then... where's waldo? And as soon as YOU don't answer the phone when he calls he's a raging lunatic.. but if he doesn't answer the phone when you call.. and you so much as mention it.. you're a psycho stalker right?
*sigh*
I can't offer any advice other than, if you care about him, and REALLY want a relationship with him... stick it out. For whatever sick, twisted reason guys want to see HOW much you'll go through for the sake of a relationship (straight from the horses mouth ladies). Maybe not ALL of them, but seemingly all the ones we want, will play the games to try and lose us. WHY? Who knows... my boyfriend and I are now together.. for good, plan on getting married in the future.. but for a year, he played games... I played them right back but in the end it was the determination and commitment that left me the ultimate winner. He was testing me... (i.e. " If I don't call her, if I blow her off.. is she going to run to another guy? hook up with someone else? or is she REALLY into me? ")
I don't get it... I never will.. but believe me, if he's anything like my boyfriend, not answering when he calls you will definately NOT help the situation.. answer the phone, play it cool, let him know you're doing good.. ask him if he wants to hang out. If he doesn't, don't push it.. I can only hope, this guy you're dealing with.. is playing the same game mine did. In the end the answer I received was
" I had to see if I could live without you, and I realize that I can't.. I realize you're the woman I'm supposed to marry "
I realize you're not a teenager but I'd be willing to be you're in your early 20's? If I'm wrong then I'm wrong.. but boys are still so immature at this age that its hopeless. Give him some room, and stick by his side.. in the end he'll realize what a wonderful woman he has right underneath his nose... AND the fact she's been there the whole time.
Sorry this is so long but you hit it right on the head with this question and my past experience, hope I was able to shine some light on the subject.. good LUCK!
2006-07-17 12:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do YOU do it?
Why do you play the game with him? Why not just try talking to him and ask him these questions? If him calling you often is that important, then why do you stop answering the phone?
But at any rate, it doesn't sound like he's that serious. You need to have a talk with him about this and get some good answers. If he won't give you good answers, he's probably not serious.
2006-07-17 19:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women mature faster than guys. Your boyfriend may not be a teenager physically but mentally he still is. I know this because I work with a lot of younger guys on my job. I am very surprised how immature they are to be in their mid-twenties. It is quite apparent that your boyfriend still has some growing up to do and hasn't caught up with you intellectually. That's just the way it is. If you want someone on the same level as you are intellectually you may have to consider dating an older guy. However, if you really love this guy, wait it out and see what happens. Eventually he will grow up.
2006-07-17 19:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isnt acting weird, lol maybe you just feel that way becuz you are insecure, but i dont think he would do anything when he likes you.
its either that or he is trying to hide something from you. I think you would really have to know a guy and what he likes to do and his schedule becuz maybe when he doesnt pick up he might be at a practice or a party, or maybe hes grounded and cant talk on the phone. I just dont think he shoud go crazy becuz if you missed his calls... there would be a reason and he should understand.
2006-07-17 19:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like a couple had sex some where along the line. I can tell you now that it sounds more like he wants your love making not your love. He got what he wanted and now only wants you when he wants it from you. Of course he don't want you to want anyone else because you might not be there when he wants to play around.
Believe me he doesn't want you only the sex. If you believe anything other than that you are in for a big, big hurt.
2006-07-17 19:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to play games with some guys, they are just immature. If you find the guy you are really interested in, and act like you don't give a crap, or have to MAKE room for him in your life, he will respect it, and be more respectful to you and more worthy. LOL. Men are a trip, they act like they don't want commitment, and they want to be in control, so if you act like you don't want commitment, and you are outgoing and act like he doesn't really matter, it drives them nuts, and then you can't beat them off with a stick!
Good luck
2006-07-17 19:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first answer is right he knows Nuttin. Its not okay to be treated like property, especially by someone whom you have feelings for. I think that he is either scared, or he may have commitment issues. Whatever the reason there is one solution. Talk to him. Outright ask him. Maybe he doesn't realize hes changed. Hope this helped. Peace. Love. Hope.
2006-07-17 19:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by aqurious_chic06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not all guys play games. some of us do like the phone calls all the time. some dont. me myself i dont mind them. sounds like he is playing you. leave him along. he is up to no good. and im not a teenager either. you can call me.
2006-07-17 20:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by lbenoit_53 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either has serious intimacy issues, is a player, or is seeing somebody else. In any case, best bet is to dump him. Read the book "He's Not That Into You" - it's a fabulous resource.
2006-07-17 19:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not a guy but i want to gave it a try. Well i think they do that to maybe hurt us or they start tripping and s**t cause I'm not a teen either and that has happy to me before more than once!!
2006-07-17 19:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋