My boyfriend does not talk about how he feels and I really need some suggestions on how to get him to. I know he cares about me but feel like I care about him a lot more. I dont want to loose this guy but he feels like I am pushing him to much. We have been together for a year now and I think thats long enough for him to be comfortable around me but hes not:( How do i get him to communicate with me? or how can I change to make him not so nervous to talk?
2006-07-17 12:30:39 · 15 answers · asked by SexyCheerleader 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In general, men do not sit around talking about their feeling like us women. Guy express their feeling towards us by their actions. If they are kind, generous, thoughtful, and looking out for our best interest, they are saying that they care about us.
You boyfriend has probably told you a few time, that he really likes you. That is enough for him. Guys are like this: If he tells you once, he means it, no need to keep repeating it.
On the other hand, if he has NEVER told you anything, you should question why YOU are still with him.
Accept the fact that men and women communicate differently. If he knows what you want but still won't give it to you, question why you are still with him. If you truly believe that he is a good mate and care about you, then don't keep making a huge issue about it. If he has told you his feelings before, accept it. Maybe you are insecure. Check yourself; you may be the problem.
2006-07-17 12:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't change him, first of all. You can try to encourage him, though. When you ask him how he feels, what does he say to you? Does he just sit there? I've found that asking open-ended questions like that can be a little intimidating, especially when talking to a girlfriend. I've often been in a situation when a girl asked me a question like that, and I got the impression that it was a "loaded gun" question....answer it wrong and she'll make me regret it. Maybe that's not how it is between you, just throwing it out there.
But I'll bet he just doesn't know how to express whatever it is. I'm getting the impression that you think he is not happy about something and having a hard time finding out what. Try asking more specific, pointed questions. Ask him if there's anything you can do for him, if there's anything he needs. OR, sometimes you may need to ask him to do something for you. It may be that he wants to make you happy but doesn't know how.
Bottom line, just ask more specific questions and you'll get more specific answers. Hope that helps.
2006-07-17 12:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he does it to show he's listening. I think he does it because he'd rather be talking then listening. He shows his impatience by jumping in and finishing sentences and rambling uh huh uh huh uh huh while you're still talking. Personally, that would drive me nuts. You can tell him how you feel and then keep reminding him when he does it to see if he gets out of the habit. But don't be surprised if he just can't stop -- if he has a constant need to be the center of attention (and be the one talking, not listening), he won't be able to easily change his behavior. And he may not want to.
2016-03-26 22:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, u must try to understand ya boyfriend second, find out what he like s to do get him to open up too you if ya really care for him. Third, site down personallly with him and talk Lastly, goodluck
2006-07-17 12:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Than means he's a healthy man. Don't push him or he'll leave you.
PS: Slip him some birth control pills... maybe the hormones ill make him mushy
2006-07-17 12:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by laurafransmail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't change a person, because you chose this person to be who he is, changing all aspects of that means you don't like who he is...and in that case, you shouldn't be with him at all.
As for your boyfriend, all those things you said...did you ever tell him that? Insteading of asking us the question, why don't you ask him?
~Thomas
2006-07-17 12:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by tomhanken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is not something that is uncommon, when my ex did tell me how he felt about me is like 10mo. into our relationship and he cried while telling me. he will tell you when he is ready, there is nothing that you can do to make him feel more comfortable around you after a years worth of dating. he will come around when he's ready, but when he does, watch out cuz it'll be serious!!!
2006-07-17 12:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show me a guy who does(talk about his feelings)
and I will show you a Jerry Springer candidate.
Guys don't express their feelings well , it's what we do best
2006-07-17 12:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by BONE° 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st dont change and If Its meant to be Its meant to be,It does not sound like It Is meant to be because he Is asking you In a silent way to change and that Is not good.
You have to be who you are and find someone who loves you who you are,ok
2006-07-17 12:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change him, but you will have to give this alot of time, he will open up eventually...and when he does, listen to him and be considerate about his feelings.
2006-07-17 12:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by HotBarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋