Is it ok to go to a funeral but not go to cemetary for the graveside service??
2006-07-17 12:23:31 · 35 answers · asked by unicornfarie1 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's a uncle(not close) and it's supposed to be 105 degrees.
2006-07-17 12:26:16 · update #1
certainly...it's fine to do either or neither...do what you feel comfortable with.
2006-07-17 12:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would think so. Usually (in my experience) it is only close family and friends that go to the graveside service if there even is one. Just being at the funeral should give the family some comfort....they wouldn't look down on you for not going to the graveside service.
2006-07-17 12:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Left Footed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine not to go to the graveside. Just remember that when you get to the service that they will more than likely want to put a flag on your vehicle to signify you are with a funeral. Let them know you are not going to the graveside or park away from the line of cars going to the graveside. Sorry to hear about your uncle.
2006-07-17 12:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mawyemsekhmet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. You are going to the funeral to pay your respects to the surviving family members. You have more of a chance to do that at the funeral service rather than the graveside.
2006-07-17 12:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by tina9599 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The graveside service usually only lasts a matter of minutes (5-10 at the most), so a lot of people opt to skip it (and the repast)
2006-07-17 12:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by mogwai_b4_midnite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, lots of times the graveside service is just for the family.
2006-07-17 12:26:37 · answer #6 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wear something light but still appropriate and go to the graveside service. They take 20 minutes at the maximum, and it's so sad when there aren't many people there.
People who are close to the deceased DO notice how many people are there. If they're all alone it will be even sadder and more emotional. Please, think of the living and DO go.
2006-07-18 01:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by kayleigh w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is ... some other fun facts ...
Although "fun" is the first syllable in the word funeral, it is not a party. Be well dressed, console the family, and be respectful of other, basically, use common sense. At a funeral I attended a few years ago there was a younger gentleman taking pictures of everyone, including the recently deceased. That is a big no-no.
2006-07-17 12:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Blind Lemon Jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the graveside service if you can. Wear a nice shirt and dark shorts and a large hat, and carry a big bottle of cold water.
2006-07-17 18:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by knoodelhed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people prefer to limit the graveside service to close family. Unless you are specifically invited to the grave site, You are probably not expected there any way.
2006-07-17 15:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by STEVEN F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes many people do this especially if u werent really close to that person...like the guy who built our house and became a family friend died, my mom and i attended the funeral home and the service but skipped out on the graveside ....she felt that was for the family and close friends.
2006-07-17 12:26:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋