what can i do....?

Question

I ALways have fights with my mom,i just cant control my anger and shut my mouth..but i go on with my fight..so she doesnt talk to me at least 2 weeks..wat can i do to stop that?(plez..dont answer if u dont have a good ans...this is a sensitve q.)

Answer 1

To come to terms with this, you need to realize that you are not always right. Especially if you are younger. What I've realized is that my parents were almost always right. You need to try and look at things from your mom's perspective. You don't always have to agree, but you have to realize where to draw the line. Listen to your mother, she knows what is best. It may not sound like the best idea at the time, but it will work out better in the long run for you if you do. Please don't rebel against your mom. People who rebel from their parents usually turn out to be worthless people when they get older. I'm only 22, and my life is great! Yours should be too and will be if you want it to be. When you get a job someday, you'll have to listen to a boss. Like your mother, you may not always agree with your boss, but you just have to suck it up and be grown up about it. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I was like you and now I have a daughter like you. Everything, my mum told me to do, I would do the opposite. It was instinctual, I couldn't help it. It did me no good at all. When I don't see my mum I am mega miserable. Even now as an adult. Sometimes I get really angry. It's a really bad habit that will carry through into your other relationships with other people in future life. If you don't learn to control your anger towards your mum it will destroy not only time you could spend with your mum getting along, but it destroys other relationships in life. It becomes a pattern and a very disfunctional behaviour pattern. The problem with me, my mum and the partners I choose is that we are all control freeks. My mum will offer advise on the most personal of subjects. She wants to know things, maybe she shouldn't ask about and then she tells you what you should do. There was always a lot of sacrifice on my mums part. Although I'm grown up - I could't cope with life without my mother. She always gives me a different perspective on things. She remembers things that I might have forgotten and in the end we can't live without arguing.

Answer 3

I have a few suggestions....being the youngest of 6...

1. include your mom in your life...mom's are cool....Talk to your mom about what is going on....be proud of your mom..she was your first best friend..

2. write a letter to your mom..tell her all the things you like about her...remind her that you love her, but that you are growing up...Tell her it is hard being a kid these days..and that you need her support in what you do..Tell her that you will learn by your mistakes...but you need to live your life..Tell her that you will listen to her suggestions and reasons..and that you will try to do what is right.

3. take a walk together and talk then..I always seemed more clear headed and less argumentative during the walks..actually it was my mom's idea.

4. keep a journal. for you personally...write down what makes you angry when you are blowing up at your mom. when you are calmed down go back and talk to your mom. Your mom is only in your face because she loves and cares for you.

5. most of all..love your mom...she will not always be there..she may die at any time. My mom died suddenly and I never got to tell her good bye. Cherish the time you have with your mom. Help her around the house without being asked, etc. Love her...appreciate her...and listen to her sound advice..you will wish you had one day..I do!

Answer 4

You must control your anger... You said you try to do that and it is the best way to begin. Remember, who fight is a loser. Imagine you fight and had a victory... you may lose your mother for ever. We must learn that each people is different(of course it is not so ease as to write). When we learn it really, then we can change our behavior... when we see a situation that will bring fight we flee away... wait... count till one hundred if necessary before giving an answer.

Answer 5

I sorry, I still stuck at........"fight with my mom". You for one should learn what respect is. I'm 41 yrs. old and I have never raise my voice at my mom. I understand that they are human, they make mistakes, and they are wrong sometimes. But that's what makes them great parents.

first, think about a recent disagreement you had.
second, what was your mothers version on the issue.
Last place it in a category below:

A) PROTECT, she was trying to protect you from something
B) INSTINCT, she was worried about your safety
C) EXPERIENCE, she's been there, done that

Now remember these 2 important rules:

1) parents are always right!
2) when parents are wrong, refer to rule number 1

Answer 6

Count to ten mentally in your mind before saying anything, I know that the urge to lash back at your mom is very strong, and during that very moment, I know it may seem to be right thing to do, because you have that feeling that you're being treated unfairly. Tell yourself to just give it up, to just give in to what your mom says and march up to your room without saying anything. Have a serious talk with your mom, only both of you know how to settle these things. Learn to compromise. She is your mother and you are her daughter, you have to let each other know and understand what that means in your relationship.

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

you CAN control your anger, it's entirely up to you. You can tell you're mom that the next time you're mad to walk away so you can chill a little and then BREATH or take a walk then come back and talk to your mom. Maybe if you are going to talk with her about something that you know is going to upset either of you, go for a walk with her and talk about it as you walk.

Answer 8

I kno wat u mean. But I have actually gotten a lot better. You need to take time to think before you start yelling. Consider her feelings. Put yourself in her shoes. Instead of yelling try to work out something together. I have a horrible temper also and it takes time, but you can calm it down. It's not worth it, as you have seen. So its really important to think before you speak or yell. You and your mom need to sit down and talk about the situation calmly and explain reasons why to eachother. For a start, sit down and talk about THIS problem. Hope this helps

Answer 9

Your mother is apparently hurt to the core, and although you have to make your point, when you have children, you'll realize that it hurts when mean things are said on both sides. Its a respect thing.

Answer 10

Hmmm i would consider duck tape....

Or my friend has a shock collar on him. When ever he gets angry I zap em good. Then he gets more angry but then I zap him 5 times in a row. He feels so much pain and it stresses his body so he falls asleep.