why do i always fall for the wrong men? and the ones that really like me i find fault with and no chemistry?

Answer 1

The reason you fall for the wrong guy is because you are probably more focused on physically getting a romance started than allowing yourself the time needed to build a friendship. Only relationships built on the foundation of friendship can withstand the test of time. Relationships built on sex only give you the illusion of love. Most guys are only looking to have a good time. Next time you meet someone interesting, eliminate sex from the equation and just date and enjoy each others company. If he sticks around after not getting any action for a while then he just may be a keeper, but if he constantly pressures you for sex, kick him to the curb because he is only out for one thing. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

Probably because the men you fall for, you don't seem to notice their faults until it's too late. I guess you're to oenamoured/enchanted or somthing over the "wrong" men that you fail t osee them for what they are. The ones who like you, though, you seem too critical of and don't give them a chance t obuild "chemistry" with you. I don't know, I could be wrong, but Ihave had that problem before with some of the women that I am attracted to. I figured that if they are gorgeous and super model-like they're perfect. I found out the hard way just how wrong I was. Shot down, crashed, burned and embarrassed.

Answer 3

Maybe you like the abuse. Maybe you like men who u think you can change. Maybe you dont really know what you want. Maybe you havent matured yet. Maybe you didnt have a good relationship with your dad. You should dig deep. why don't you find fault with the wrong ones instead of the others? Every one has faults. Do you feel you deserve the wrong ones? Do you go out of your way not to have chemistry or are they not physically appealing to you? We all get what we want its the law of attractions Change your negative into " I attract great men into my life." use that as an affirmation. Good Luck happy hunting

Answer 4

perhaps u are allowing yourself to fall for men who have aesthetic, outward appeal, but lack the inner depth and personality needed to sustain a relationship..? doesn't mean you have to settle, but u may have to amend what your standards are. what qualities do u look for in a man? if you say respect, honesty, sense of humor, humility, i'd say ur on a good track. :) haha... but seriously, in terms of a long relationship, u need someone who can TAKE CARE of you: emotionally, physically, mentally, the whole shabang. not many men understand how to do that, so u have to know what you are worth, and what you deserve. once u realize that u deserve to be treated well, and loved, and respected, it won't even matter whether or not he is handsome, or has a nice car, etc. those things are all perks on the side, but make sure the man u are with has the core things u want from a relationship.

Answer 5

Perhaps you fall for the wrong men because they possess something that is missing from your life and you're searching for it in them.

As far as the ones who like you, maybe it's time to expand your horizons and take the time to get to know these men; it may surprise you how many things the both of you might have in common.

Answer 6

Maybe you need to reevaluate your standards. What is really most important to you? Is it their looks? Is it there "dangerous" side?
What qualities are you really looking for. Once you figure that out - Are those qualities really healthy for a meaningful, long-term relationship?

Let's say that you are attracted to a "biker dude" with long hair, tattoos and a cigarette hanging out of his mouth. He is rough, rugged and macho. Is this really the man who is going to care about you and treat you as an equal in his life? I am not saying that "biker dudes" are bad partners. There are excellent men in all walks of life. But there are a lot of "biker dudes" who use their women like trophy's. They "own" them like a possession and sometimes get too violent with them. Granted, this can happen with a man from any background.

This is why you need to evaluate the qualities that are most important to you in a relationship. Rate the qualities in order of importance. For example: Respecting you would be a 5 on a scale of 1 - 5. Taller than you might be a 3 on the scale of 1 - 5. Drives a car might be a 4 on your scale but Drives a convertible might be a 1 on your scale.

Figure out what you are looking for and actively seek men with those types of qualities to date.

Good luck and happy dating!

Answer 7

Girl it is in our nature to fall for the wrong man because what we think we want is not always what we need. Sometimes we reject the right thing because we are afraid of it. Every good girl wants a bad boy but if you pray and let god guide you he will make sure you never make the wrong mistake again.

Answer 8

I understand completely and I have a few explanations of why I do it, some of them may apply to you.

I think its because I want a challange, and guys that like me aren't a challange.

I also have a habit of subconsciencly choosing men that are wrong for me, so when things fall apart ( as they enevitably do), its not 'my' fault.

I also think its because while I need a nice guy, I want a bad boy, and through no real fault of his own, he can't give me what I need.

Answer 9

Look at your 360 page, you look like an extrovert to me. No meanness meant. But cover yourself up girl! If you like the 'bad boys', you can still get them, but they have to respect you, and you must respect yourself first. Then and only then, they will do everything to get you. You can be sexy and still attract men, without putting 'out' on the first date, and covering yourself up more. Leave guys a guessing, they can't stand that, and they will be more interested. And education helps to make good chemistry.

Answer 10

First you need to think about the people you are drawn to. List their characteristics and what they have in common. Decide which characteristics are important to you and which you want to avoid.

Second look at your parent's relationship and their parents. There are trends there too that will come up in your life.

Then figure out what you want and what works for you. It might now be the most healthy and best, but it is what works for you and what you probably grew up with.