Is my mother going thru a mid-life crisis? She thinks she is too young to be a grandmother?

Question

My mother is 49 years old. She scoffs at the thought of being old.

She scowls at me and says she is too young to be a grandmother. She says she doesn't look like a grandmother either. (Trust me she looks her age! And acts like she is 80!)

She is not married and hasn't had a date in 8 years, but when I see her she talks about how she is going to meet a guy and get married but its hard for her to find a guy since she is too good for all the men she has met.

She tries to hang out with her friend's children who are in their 20's like me and she will actually call me to talk about their lives. I don't even know these people!

Her friends are grandmas and thats okay with my mom as long as she isn't a grandma.

Is this some kind of mid-life crisis? She thinks she is too young to be a grandmother, but I am 25 and she WILL be a grandmother in the next few years as my wife and I are planning to have a baby.

She doesn't want to accept the idea of being a grandma

Answer 1

Sounds like your mom is having a problem with getting older. I am 49 also. But, I do not hang out with 20 year olds. I can't wait to be a grandmother. Just give her time. She will get over it.

Answer 2

It seems like she has a reputition to keep in society. She is trying to live in denial about her age, the fact that she actually is getting old! And the sooner she realises this, the better for everyone!
Tell her that u and ur wife are planning to have a baby in the next few years and she has time till then to get used to the fact that she will be a grandmother.
Give her time, talk to her, tell her she has to get over with the denial. Either way, she is going to be a grandma.

Answer 3

No worries, she is just having a hard time adjusting to growing old. But there is no getting around it and when that time comes and that little grandchild is born all fears will subside and she will come on board. She might say she wants to be called Nana (anything other than grandma) but it will work out. Blessings =) You can tell her I am a LOT younger and my grandson will be three months old soon and I love every bit of grandmahood. But my step-daughter's mom only wants to be called Nana because she is not a "grandmother" so we deal with it too.

Answer 4

LMAOOOOOOOOOOO!!

She'll just have to get over herself won't she? My mom was a grandmother at 48 and she was a bit pissed that it took so long! I have a friend that was a Grandmother when she was 39 (she was married and had her daughter at 18 and her daughter was married and had her first child at 21).

Once the grandbabies start showing up, she'll probably be the one dragging around a whole photo album of her "little darlings".

If she seems a bit crazy right now it might have more to do with MENOPAUSE than grandchildren! LOL!

Answer 5

no mother likes the idea of being a grandmother. but when she sees those little feet and that little sweet baby she come around. she feel like if shes a grandma shell have to be in a rocking chair or some thing, but yeah my mom was the same way. dont worry about it. good luck

Answer 6

Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. There is not much you can do about it. Go on and have your family. If she doesn't want to accept being a grandma that is her problem. Unless her not wanting to be a grandma has a negative effect on your future children don't sweat it. She'll hopefully out grow it. But if there is a negative effect as mean as it sounds you'll have to limit your children's time with grandma.

Answer 7

Im 45 and really i guess I am not too young but my daughter was too young to have a baby at 16! I would not give my grandson up what so ever for he is precious! When your moms grandchild is born and she holds that baby she will not care!

Answer 8

When the time comes and you and your wife have a baby, her tune will change. If she doesn't like the idea of being called "grandma", have her decide on another appropriate name for your future child to call her.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

that is so sad. i mean growing old isn't that much fun but, there is nothing that we can do about it. i think that she needs to accept the fact. and to think that she doesn't want a grand baby....if you need a grandma for your baby i would be happy to oblige!