Okay, so I get asked out A LOT.. for some reasons guys really wanna go out with me.. I'm not trying to be full of my self.. but its very flattering! So I can't help myself.. I say yes to almost all of them! And I end up in a place I don't wanna be.. like having to choose from 3 different guys! How can I choose just one guy to really concentrate on? I've always gotten the guys I want, but then when I get them, I can't choose which one I want!! Help!
I'm 15 and i'd like to be able to have this problem fixed by the end of this summer... I've broken up with 3 guys already this summer because I couldn't say no to them when they asked me out!
2006-07-17 12:00:57 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't date online though.. NOT THAT DESPERATE... nice try though!
2006-07-17 12:06:07 · update #1
Damn you must be sexy!
2006-07-17 12:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Herman J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, what a terrible problem. Look, you're only fifteen. As long as you're not sexually active, and at 15 I hope you're not, there is no good reason why you should feel pressured to choose. Just tell the boys you want to "play the field" and go out with as many as you like at the same time. There is nothing wrong with this, even if they say there is they are wrong.
2006-07-17 12:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP SAYING YES!!! Do you want to be branded a slut all throughout high school? Saying yes so much can get you in a lot of trouble. If you continue that throughout high school you WILL be branded a slut and your odds of getting a STD or getting raped will increase significantly. Do you want to get raped? I didn't think so. You are only 15. You probably look good. Everyone will want you. That only leads to trouble. Your best bet is to turn everyone down until you find someone YOU want to go out with. YOU need to be the one to initiate it. YOU have the power. But stick with one. otherwise you will end up in a very bad situation.
2006-07-17 12:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by sallymarlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had this problem. She felt like she was forced to choose, so she rushed into a decision and ended up spending the next three years of her life with a guy who was a total loser. He beat on her and destroyed her self esteem, credit, and almost got her thrown in jail for his debts.
The point is, if you feel like you're being pressured into a relationship, you need to stop. Breathe. Think! If you can't say no, maybe you should tell guys you're not going to date for a few months...then you won't have to tell them no personally, just generally. Please be careful, and repeat after me, "Nooooo...."
2006-07-17 12:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Flutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you' will think about it' don give you phone number to any one and they should give you their tel # ask them personal questions to find out more about the dude.See their shoes and cars if they take care of their shoes and cars they take care of them selfs and is a plus for you, make a list of what u like in a dude and what you don't a less 20 different things and then choose when they ask you out say "no thanks" that's all with a simile.
2006-07-17 12:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to learn to say no. it sucks but you have to tell them no from the get go. by saying yes you are just leading them on and you are only going to hurt them more in the long run. by just telling them no right away they will feel a little hurt, but they will get over it alot easier than in a few weeks or even longer than that. also it sounds like you might be a little too flirty, if you tone it down a bit, maybe you wont get asked out as often.
2006-07-17 12:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shyguy85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much are you worth? Think of yourself as A Queen, the daughter of God, A Princess or even the first Female President. whatever it takes to realize that only one guy will ever be worth it...and he has to prove himself to you, which takes a lot of time!You may find yourself saying no to all of those guys which is ok. You can tell anyone "no" and still be a good person...saying "no" shows that you have priorities and that you RESPECT yourself. Others will respect you by following your example.
2006-07-17 12:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by TarasBoutiqueAtEtsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask anyone that asks you out for the first time this question...
"What is a woman looking for in a guy"..
And if he answers it with : Trust, Honesty, Respect, Caring, Sharing, Appreciation, A Sense of Humor, and Unconditional Love... then go out with him. Those are people who will always respect your sense of Trust and your sense of people and respect that about you too.
All the others, say no.
2006-07-17 12:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grirl you aint the only one that gets asked out.. Guys do that shyt all the time, cant you tell by how many ask you out.. Its not that have met your personalilty yet, they had mental conversation's with your body...... Just be careful love on whatever you do and just to mention - to quote - you are not full of yourself, shouldnt never came out, if you wasnt full of yourself!!! peace baby- I know I go the best answer or maybe, you might be mad at my message
2006-07-17 12:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by illuminati_in_dis_bytch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, and felt trapped in a few relationships because of it! The easiest way for you to end up in the kind of relationship you want, and to date the kind of guys you want, is to choose them instead of letting them choose you. You're worth it!
2006-07-17 12:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off if u should decide which one u like the most out of all of them the nu should go steady with him follow ur heart it will lead u in the right direction. Trust it and let it guide u! U won't be disappointed!
2006-07-17 12:10:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋