I do not know what to do or even what i want anymore. My girlfriend was originally leaving on August 23 to go to Washington State for college (we live in Colorado). Now, she decided that she does not want to go. Let me explain: last night, she asked me how i felt about her leaving, and she asked me to be completely honest, no matter what. So i told her the truth, about how it was killing me to think of her being gone and all that, and then she calls me today to tell me that she decided not to go. I don't know what to do, because i don't want her to give up things for me, but i don't want her to go. I just don't know because i love her so much, and i want whatever is best for her. God i am so confused: please help me!!!!
2006-07-17 11:47:43 · 7 answers · asked by pilotmanitalia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Part of the reason she decided to stay is because i passed up a full scholarship to Yale to be with her....
2006-07-17 11:51:37 · update #1
Because of my specific major, I won't be able to transfer anywhere near her for at least 1-2 years.
2006-07-17 11:53:39 · update #2
She does want to go to school, and she said that she would go locally; the thing is that she was going to Whitman College, a notable private college in Walla Walla, WA, and i feel bad b/c she will now be going to a school of lesser prestige. Although, she did feel bad when i gave up my Yale scholarship and ended up going to the same type of school, but i never intended that for her.
2006-07-17 11:58:42 · update #3
Last time I checked, there were plenty of good colleges in Colorado. Sounds like she loves you to me. Nobody has to give up college just to stay in their own state. Sometimes I think people act idiotic about that. Go for the gusto dude. I think you have something here.
2006-07-17 11:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the best place for her to go to college is in Washington, she should go. Long distance relationships can work (been in mine for 3+ yrs). What's important is that you both be commited, trust each other and that you communicate well. If that doesn't sound good, is there a way that you could move to the same area as her- maybe not now, but in a semester or something?
2006-07-17 18:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are giving this situation to God ,thats great and second you are concerned about your girlfriends future both are admiral,now you must seek the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding and allow this to be his will In her life.dont let her be lost for your sake let the lord lead and let his will be done.You are a blessing and let the lords way be your way dont let the woman make her decision be made about you,let her make up her own mind because If she doesnt she will blame you If It does not work out ,I hope all Is well and may the lord Jesus guide your path amen
2006-07-17 18:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and ask her, what she really wants. Does she want to go to school, does she want to succeed in life. Make sure she understands that for you both to have a successful future her education is very important.
If she truly wants a successful future with work, than she should continue going to school.
It will be tough, but if her heart is truly into her education she will go in the fall.
2006-07-17 18:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her that you love her, and don't want her to go, but at the same time if she didn't go because of you, that you'd feel horrible...
2006-07-17 18:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Totally_Oblivious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her find a college near you instead.
2006-07-17 18:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by HotBarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look in a relationship you have to give some things up
that is all i have to say about that
2006-07-17 18:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by schlatter17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋